Poll: Is it ok for parents to spank their kids?

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gbemery

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I laugh when people think its atrocious to do so and then ***** and whine when a kid has a temper tantrum in public. Looking at the parent like "wow you're such a horrible parent you can't even keep your child in line". Then they spank the child and the childless gawkers from before say "OMG I can't believe you just hit the child! You are a horrible parent! Im calling the cops!" You can't have it both ways there skippy. If you want a parent to settle their child down then let them do it their way. You have no right to tell them how to raise their child, especially if you don't have one. The only time it is acceptable is if they are endangering the child's life or well being and discipline doesn't do either.
 

renegade7

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As someone who was physically abused as a child, I'm inclined to say no. And I wasn't just spanked, I was beaten up, had rocks thrown at me, lashed with belts, and kicked. But it started with spanking me when I got out of line. So yea it starts as just that, then the second the parent uses it out of anger it becomes abuse.
 

Killertje

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First tell them what they did wrong. Then punish them in a non violent way. If they still keep it up and they cant or wont give a good reason for it go ahead and teach them your patience isnt unlimited.
 

Jacco

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Spanking kids does not automatically make you a crappy parent. To those of you saying that, you've obviously never spent any significant time around children.

There is a difference between spanking and beating- the former sometimes being a legitimate form of punishment and the latter not. It depends on the individual, really.

I see a lot of talk on this site about not generalizing or judging people. Why would this be any different?
 

Kakashi on crack

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ok, there's a difference between beating your kid and using physical forms of punishment.

I've known people in this day and age who didn't believe in spanking their kids if they got out of hand, you know what I found?

I found children who whine ***** and complain for 40 minutes straight because their parents refuse to spank them. I have found children who act like spoiled little sihts because their parents didn't beleive in physical punishment.

Now admittedly, there's a difference between spanking your kids and beating them. Spank someone up to 7 times and it can still be considered punishment, go over that and the line blurrs big time.


Personally, I think I have more than enough say in this matter because as a child my dad borderlined beat me. If I cursed, I got habanero tobasco on my tounge. If I got in trouble, I'd get spanked until I either began to cry, or started screaming I was sorry. If I lied about my grades, out came the belt and my mother had to step in to keep him from permanently damaging my ass. his saying was quite litterally "If you do this again, I'll hit you so hard you won't be able to sit down for a week."


But you know what, as borderline abusive as he was, and as much as I feared him, I learned three things from this: Discipline, knowing fear while accepting it, and ignoring pain. I hate my dad to this day for a number of reasons, but I respect him for what he taught me. I'd like someone who doesn't accept any form of corporeal punishment to tell me how they expect to accomplish all of those, let alone the first one.


As I said though, admittedly, there's a difference between corporeal punishment and abuse, but otherwise, yes, I completely and fully support its use. It will teach someone a million things that a kid would otherwise not learn if you took away their toys or sent them to their rooms. (there's a time and place for those two also though.)




Rawne1980 said:
I remember when I was a kid and my dad or grandad took the belt off and belted round the back of the legs with the buckle when I talked back. Or off came the shoe and a crack in the same place for being a tit.

Teachers throwing big wooden board cleaners at our heads for talking in class.

No one thought twice about it being a bad thing because it worked. We learned to shut the fuck up and do as was asked of us.

Have a look at kids today.

***** and moan if mummy or daddy won't get the latest i-phone for them.

Sometimes a smack is needed.

My hat goes off to you sir.
 

Flackster

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Yes it works but only in moderation, if the kid gets spanked for everything that could lead to resentment as it did with my sister.
 

Kaymish

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yes but unfortunately the laws that allow for it have been abused by poor parents who beat/kill their kids and get away with it so it was recently outlawed here by evil politicians
 

Kajin

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I think parents should be allowed to spank their children if they so desire, but any parent who is actually any good at being a parent won't have to resort to it more than once or twice a year. Spanking is a punishment that should be held back and used as an absolute last resort, reserved especially for when the child has done something truly terrible.

The first time my parents spanked me was when me and my sister were fighting. I got angry and picked up a nearby ash tray and smacked her on the head with it. My father lit my ass up like the fourth of july for doing that. Thankfully she was okay and all it did was leave a small bruise.
 
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NinjaDeathSlap said:
b3nn3tt said:
No. To my mind, there should never be a situation where you'd need to. There are plenty of ways of disciplining children that don't require hitting them that will be just as effective.

EDIT: Hitting children only serves to teach them that hitting is an effective way to deal with someone who isn't doing what you want them to. I'd say it's much better to explain to them why what they did was wrong the first time they do it, and after that discipline them in a way which doesn't require hitting them.
I would dispute this, as when I was a child, me and my older brother both had smacking used on us as a punishment, and we've both grown up to be some of the least violent people we know. Probably because we were only smacked when we'd done something really serious (well, serious for 5 year olds anyway) and when we were punished we were always given an explanation for why we were being punished that we could understand. In fact, my brother was smacked far more than I was and he's the one who's turned out the best. I don't think he's ever been in a single fight with anyone other than me in his whole life.

So yeah, my two cents? So long as you're not doing it too hard, or too frequently, and you always apply context to it, it works.
agreed, out of all my friends i am the least violent all around, same goes for my brothers and we are all at different ages.

heck my 4 year old brother, who is a huge athlete, is the NICEST kid on the field, if he bumps into you or sees someone on the ground, he goes over to help them up or say sorry, while most kids couldn't give two shits and they are the ones that get away with everything while my brother gets a swift firm hand to the ass when needed.
 

RuralGamer

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Yes; as a child who was spanked, I approve of it, but only as a last resort; I was only ever spanked like a dozen times and usually because I was being really rude, disobedient or I was going to try and do something dangerous I had been told not to. I'm glad my parents did, because I look at the children in the street I live in and think "yeah, these kids could do with more firm parents or at least a firm hand once in a while".
 

demoman_chaos

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Just like a bow, spear, and hammer, each tool has its uses. It is effective when used in moderation with restraint. Its one of those things that are good when done right, but horrible when done wrong.
 

b3nn3tt

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NinjaDeathSlap said:
b3nn3tt said:
I would argue that it was the explanations that were more benificial, and that the same could have been achieved without being smacked. I think that smacking is wholly unnecessary.
I'm inclined to say that both parts were equally as important. I don't think either would have worked without the other. I think if I'd just been sent to my room, or had my toys taken away, I would have just become more destructive out of retaliation. To put it bluntly, the smacking put me in my place, and it wasn't long before my parent didn't even need to do it anymore, as just the threat of it was enough to make me back down.

Of course this is just speculation, because I'll never know if the same results could have been achieved with different methods. But I do know that it never did me any harm.
I don't think that children should fear their parents. They should have a healthy respect and be aware that there are consequences to their actions. There's no other learning situation where it is more benificial to strike the student, so I don't see why teaching children to behave should be any different.

But I fear that it is highly unlikely that either of us will be able to change the other's views on this, so I think we shall have to agree to disagree on this issue.
 

Raykuza

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A spanking when a child deserves it can keep them in line and keep them grounded. If they don't feel that there will be no consequences to their actions, they will act any way they want. Physical pain is a pretty good consequence.

That being said: for the love of god do no beat your children! A slap or two on the behind is one thing. Hitting a kid hard enough to leave bruises and marks is something completely different (read: child abuse) and is inexcusable.
 

NinjaDeathSlap

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b3nn3tt said:
NinjaDeathSlap said:
b3nn3tt said:
I would argue that it was the explanations that were more benificial, and that the same could have been achieved without being smacked. I think that smacking is wholly unnecessary.
I'm inclined to say that both parts were equally as important. I don't think either would have worked without the other. I think if I'd just been sent to my room, or had my toys taken away, I would have just become more destructive out of retaliation. To put it bluntly, the smacking put me in my place, and it wasn't long before my parent didn't even need to do it anymore, as just the threat of it was enough to make me back down.

Of course this is just speculation, because I'll never know if the same results could have been achieved with different methods. But I do know that it never did me any harm.
I don't think that children should fear their parents. They should have a healthy respect and be aware that there are consequences to their actions. There's no other learning situation where it is more benificial to strike the student, so I don't see why teaching children to behave should be any different.

But I fear that it is highly unlikely that either of us will be able to change the other's views on this, so I think we shall have to agree to disagree on this issue.
Agreed. Let us part ways peacefully and leave the internet more civilised for it. :)
 

b3nn3tt

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NinjaDeathSlap said:
b3nn3tt said:
NinjaDeathSlap said:
I'm inclined to say that both parts were equally as important. I don't think either would have worked without the other. I think if I'd just been sent to my room, or had my toys taken away, I would have just become more destructive out of retaliation. To put it bluntly, the smacking put me in my place, and it wasn't long before my parent didn't even need to do it anymore, as just the threat of it was enough to make me back down.

Of course this is just speculation, because I'll never know if the same results could have been achieved with different methods. But I do know that it never did me any harm.
I don't think that children should fear their parents. They should have a healthy respect and be aware that there are consequences to their actions. There's no other learning situation where it is more benificial to strike the student, so I don't see why teaching children to behave should be any different.

But I fear that it is highly unlikely that either of us will be able to change the other's views on this, so I think we shall have to agree to disagree on this issue.
Agreed. Let us part ways peacefully and leave the internet more civilised for it. :)
Do let's. Good day to you sir *tips hat*
 

yman15

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b3nn3tt said:
No. To my mind, there should never be a situation where you'd need to. There are plenty of ways of disciplining children that don't require hitting them that will be just as effective.

EDIT: Hitting children only serves to teach them that hitting is an effective way to deal with someone who isn't doing what you want them to. I'd say it's much better to explain to them why what they did was wrong the first time they do it, and after that discipline them in a way which doesn't require hitting them.
Actually not really as long as you make sure the child knows why they got hit they probably won't get violent. Plus if they do hit another child then the parent can hit them for doing that. Its all little hypocritical to do that but they'll learn they're lesson and that's whats important. At times kids can be out of control sometimes and explaining to them won't work unless they're willing listen but give them a nice little spank and they will probably be more willing to listen to why you did that.
 

Dr.A

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I got spanked as a kid when when I did something wrong. And that's not to say, I accidentally spilled something on the carpet or wet the bed or anything. But when I did something that I knew I was not supposed to do, or I didn't do something that they told me several times to do (Clean up your room before you draw with your crayons)then I would get a spanking. Just five quick slaps on the behind and then I was given a hug and left to mull over what I had done.

It wasn't a beating, it wasn't cruel, it got me to behave and respect my parents, I wouldn't want to have been raised any other way.

I say, when used properly, it's a great way to teach your kids to respect you as the authority.