Poll: Is it wrong to automatically assume some is heterosexual?
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i dont really understand why you would want to know anyway (unless your trying to flirt) but i guess its fine.
Yes.Aur0ra145 said:
The majority of people aren't Vegetarians, but it's polite to ask before ordering the pizza.
The majority of people don't smoke, but you shouldn't make fun of smokers because some people are.
Being in the majority doesn't mean you should automatically assume everyone is part of the majority - that leads to people considering minority groups as "other" which leads to hatred. You might not have any hate, but you are subtly promoting it if you assume everyone is the same as you are.
You know what they say when you assume you make an ass out of you and me but seriously just going along with the social norm because it is the social norm is a completley asinine and illogical if everyone would of went by the social norm than our society would be boring and stagnant just believing everyone you see is hetero, is ignorant plain and simple you are being ignorant to the obvious.
It's generally playing to statistical odds, so no, not really. That said, what would sexual orientation have to do with someone you just met?
Unless you wanted sexy times that is. In which case, best to assume whatever's most optimistic for your situation.
Unless you wanted sexy times that is. In which case, best to assume whatever's most optimistic for your situation.
I don't know about "wrong" - moralizing isn't the best way to deal with anything - but I'd say it's a lot like assuming that someone has two parents: However statistically likely, when it turns out one of them died or something, you're going to look like a big jackass if you didn't watch your mouth before you knew for sure. Better not to assume anything.
This is kind of an ambiguous question because sexuality, as we now know, is defined by a continuum rather than a dichotomy (or trichotomy), as is the usual popular representation. I would dare to say that the vast majority of situations in which sexual orientation is assumed is in discussion of the attractiveness of someone of the opposite sex.
It turns out that just like most straight people are not 0's on the Kinsey scale, most gay people are not 6's. For this purpose, even most gay people could respond normally to a conversation about an opposite-sexed person's attractiveness. The number of people who score 6 on the Kinsey scale is small enough that assuming a person is attracted to some extent to the opposite sex is a reasonable assumption for most basic interactions. For those people who are a 6, they should recognize that the assumption is made because it is generally not socially acceptable to explicitly inquire as to another person's sexual preferences, especially with strangers. With friends, you shouldn't be offended if you are still in the closet, as you're outright pretending to be straight, and if you come out of the closet then those friends should know anyway.
For other situations the same general principles apply. In general, gay people are just like straight people, except they like their own sex instead of the opposite, so for most, even social mannerisms are identical. The "flamboyant gay" is actually a pretty rare subtype- I've only ever seen one really flamboyant person in 4 years at a liberal university.
It turns out that just like most straight people are not 0's on the Kinsey scale, most gay people are not 6's. For this purpose, even most gay people could respond normally to a conversation about an opposite-sexed person's attractiveness. The number of people who score 6 on the Kinsey scale is small enough that assuming a person is attracted to some extent to the opposite sex is a reasonable assumption for most basic interactions. For those people who are a 6, they should recognize that the assumption is made because it is generally not socially acceptable to explicitly inquire as to another person's sexual preferences, especially with strangers. With friends, you shouldn't be offended if you are still in the closet, as you're outright pretending to be straight, and if you come out of the closet then those friends should know anyway.
For other situations the same general principles apply. In general, gay people are just like straight people, except they like their own sex instead of the opposite, so for most, even social mannerisms are identical. The "flamboyant gay" is actually a pretty rare subtype- I've only ever seen one really flamboyant person in 4 years at a liberal university.
No, not really. There are generally a lot more heterosexuals than homo/bisexuals (admitted ones, at least), so I guess it's safe to assume people are straight.
You people think too much...
Its all about location. If you're at a gay bar, you probably shouldn't assume everyone is straight. If you're at a sports bar, odds are they are straight. There's always the wildcards too, like me. I wear skinny jeans and tight shirts, hang out with some gay friends but I'm straight. Then again, at a furry meet, the odds are most people are gonna be gay anyways, so I'm not offended if someone assumes I'm gay.
Its all about location. If you're at a gay bar, you probably shouldn't assume everyone is straight. If you're at a sports bar, odds are they are straight. There's always the wildcards too, like me. I wear skinny jeans and tight shirts, hang out with some gay friends but I'm straight. Then again, at a furry meet, the odds are most people are gonna be gay anyways, so I'm not offended if someone assumes I'm gay.
