Poll: Is sex an important component of your life?
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Sex is a great way to reduce stress and if your doing it right with someone who also knows what they are doing it is just great
Then you're doing it wrong. Well, not necessarily...you might just not be a sexual person...or are doing it with the wrong person for the wrong reasons.megapenguinx said:
I used to think I'd want it all the time, back before I was having it. Now I'm married to my wonderful wife, and it happens about 2 times a week and that's fine. It's a great way to express our feelings and have a darn good time doing it.
I agree people do take sex to seriously but only in the sense of not having fun with it, in my eyes that is what it is- fun with the person you love.
You have to be able to laugh at sex, sometimes theres a funny noise or expression on someones face but at the same time I do think it should be romantic and special. It has always been for me and I dont think people should lower their expectations of sex just because it hasn been that great in the past. Im sure sex for the sake of sex can be "take genital A, and insert it in genital B" but sex with someone you love is much more than that. With the right person and the right attitude sex IS amazing, romantic, special and sometimes downright hilarious.
You have to be able to laugh at sex, sometimes theres a funny noise or expression on someones face but at the same time I do think it should be romantic and special. It has always been for me and I dont think people should lower their expectations of sex just because it hasn been that great in the past. Im sure sex for the sake of sex can be "take genital A, and insert it in genital B" but sex with someone you love is much more than that. With the right person and the right attitude sex IS amazing, romantic, special and sometimes downright hilarious.
I agree. Love is not necessary for sex or even for good sex, but some sort of attraction beyond "hey, you're hot" is necessary for me to not be depressed about it the next day. Smart girls are my poison. If she's gorgeous but dumb as a rock I just can't take interest in her.Xerosch said:
Exactly what I hope sex will become for me, if I actually get that far someday xDWini said:I'm in a pretty sexually activity relationship, to me sex isn't for fun, I really have had sex while in a relationship and if you love the person more then anything else in the world, then sex is a way of expressing each others love. No I'm not gay, but think about it, sex is a key part to any healthy relationship and it is a way to express feelings, and it's a great way for exercise. Sex is i guess half and half important to me, I can go without it, but it's a great feeling to have sex with the person you're in love with.
Being a virgin having never had one girlfriend yet (I'm 20 years old, btw), I have no experience on either love or sex..
Recently, or, a bit over half a year ago, I realized I had fallen for a girl I know. Might sound vague, what I'm going to say, but, I only know her through the internet. I've never met her yet. Yet, she fills me with a tickly, fluttering feeling I've never felt before. Thinking about how it would be to just hold her hand, or just be nice to her in general makes me melt.. I'm not going to deny I have imagined how it would be to.. have sex with her, and that I've enjoyed thinking about it. But, the feeling that easily overpowers that is that I wish she'd love me back, and that me and her could be together. She's a good friend, but I wish she could be something more.. :')
I'm also a sensitive guy, you can tell
After doing it for the first time, it did me wonders. So yes, it's an important component in life!
Hmmm...
Is sex an important component in my life? I feel this is best answered with a question of my own: Is Air an important component in yours?
Going through primary school here in America is best described as a crash-course in bullshit detection 101. Every guy in the school has gotten laid "at least once" and it seems as though every guy has a story about how "they met this hottie one time..." Personally, I stayed away from the mainstream culture of my school and willingly accepted the position of social outcast. Oddly enough, most of the gamers / geeks / nerds in the school took it upon themselves to accept this title with both dignity and pride. In our own right, we went from social outcasts to our own little clique.
What I find interesting is that everyone in our little group now has a fantastic sex life. Either on the random side of things (not exclusively night clubs / bars / pubs), or a more steady and predictable source. A theory has developed in my mind as to WHY this is the case, and for the first time ever, I will share it with the world here.
Going through school, I couldn't stop staring at the girls. Breasts, asses, legs, eyes, everything. I would commit it to memory and do nothing but think of every possible way that the girls of my school could please me. As a converse, I also thought about how to best please them. All day. Every day. I could think of nothing except for sex in the downtime between classes and homework. Even while playing in MMOs, FPSs, RTSs, and any other form of game out there, I would be thinking about sex. I still think about sex all the time... and this is why the nerd group all has little black books with at least 40 names (EACH) that will be voluntary booty calls.
See, when you think about nothing but sex for a solid 4 years of your life, you begin to apply your normal life processes to it. We were gamers. We aimed not only for efficiency, but also replay-value, achievement, goal-based action, and the unceasing devotion to one task until it has been perfected. I know that I did a fair bit of research on the female body to find how to best please women (this is where I draw my love of sex); however, I also researched the male body in an effort to discover ways to bring myself closer to sexual perfection. It would not surprise me in the least to learn that my fellow nerd friends pursued similar courses of action.
To wrap everything up with a number based example: If I don't orgasm (and I mean orgasm, not ejaculate) at least 3 times a day, sometimes 4, I get very irritable. Common tasks become difficult and I lose interest in everyday things. Yes, it's at the point where you could call it an addiction, but it's one that I'll gladly support.
Is sex an important component in my life? I feel this is best answered with a question of my own: Is Air an important component in yours?
Going through primary school here in America is best described as a crash-course in bullshit detection 101. Every guy in the school has gotten laid "at least once" and it seems as though every guy has a story about how "they met this hottie one time..." Personally, I stayed away from the mainstream culture of my school and willingly accepted the position of social outcast. Oddly enough, most of the gamers / geeks / nerds in the school took it upon themselves to accept this title with both dignity and pride. In our own right, we went from social outcasts to our own little clique.
What I find interesting is that everyone in our little group now has a fantastic sex life. Either on the random side of things (not exclusively night clubs / bars / pubs), or a more steady and predictable source. A theory has developed in my mind as to WHY this is the case, and for the first time ever, I will share it with the world here.
Going through school, I couldn't stop staring at the girls. Breasts, asses, legs, eyes, everything. I would commit it to memory and do nothing but think of every possible way that the girls of my school could please me. As a converse, I also thought about how to best please them. All day. Every day. I could think of nothing except for sex in the downtime between classes and homework. Even while playing in MMOs, FPSs, RTSs, and any other form of game out there, I would be thinking about sex. I still think about sex all the time... and this is why the nerd group all has little black books with at least 40 names (EACH) that will be voluntary booty calls.
See, when you think about nothing but sex for a solid 4 years of your life, you begin to apply your normal life processes to it. We were gamers. We aimed not only for efficiency, but also replay-value, achievement, goal-based action, and the unceasing devotion to one task until it has been perfected. I know that I did a fair bit of research on the female body to find how to best please women (this is where I draw my love of sex); however, I also researched the male body in an effort to discover ways to bring myself closer to sexual perfection. It would not surprise me in the least to learn that my fellow nerd friends pursued similar courses of action.
To wrap everything up with a number based example: If I don't orgasm (and I mean orgasm, not ejaculate) at least 3 times a day, sometimes 4, I get very irritable. Common tasks become difficult and I lose interest in everyday things. Yes, it's at the point where you could call it an addiction, but it's one that I'll gladly support.
You both miss my point, and nail it at the same time. That's exactly what I mean. And exactly what I don't meanjessieanne said:
Yes, sex can be amazing, romantic and special. So can kissing, hugging, cuddling, hell, walking or sleeping or whatever with your special someone.
It's this thing that sex is the most amazing magical thing ever that should be saved for the one you truly love that I hate. There really isn't anything inherently magical in the act itself. It's not the sex that's so special, it's being able to share that, and everything else with a loving partner.
