Poll: Is sexting/sending sexual pictures cheating?

[Yoshemo]

To me (and all the boys I've dated so far) its not cheating. Its not actually having sex, its just playing around. Naturally, you should ask permission before doing it, but I think its fine

 

[AgentNein]

I'd say it's a fairy easy answer to find. If you get into a relationship with someone, there are some spoken and unspoken agreements.

Unspoken agreements can be tricky, but ask yourself, are you totally kosher with sharing these actions with your significant other? If not, than obviously it means you feel that you're transgressing certain guidelines.

 

[Sniper Team 4]

Yes. A thousand times over, yes.

 

[OutforEC]

"Cheating" is going against the betterment of the relationship, so it is completely up to you and your partner as to what this constitutes.

 

[Xanadu84]

It it Cheating? No. Is it sketchy as hell? Hell yes! Does his wife have a right to be angry? Certainly. Should anyone outside of their bedroom care? I'm going to go with no.

 

[yndsu]

Unless you are sending those pics to your significant other it is cheating.
No matter which way you put it.

No question.

 

[Ogargd]

I voted yes, because while it isn't cheating in the traditional sense it's still a sign of betrayal to your partner.

 

[TheMagicIndian]

Should really add an option for "It all comes down to the opinions of the people involved." It is a betrayal of trust in my eyes, though. So I suppose I'm on the yes side.

 

[AquaAscension]

Obviously it depends on what your partner thinks.

Personally, I would call anything cheating if you are getting something from someone else that you would normally get from your significant other. So even something like meaningful conversation with another person could constitute cheating. If you would normally confide in your significant other about your troubles, but you decide to do it with someone else online, then you are depriving your significant other from a part of your life, a part they used to have access to.

Of course, again this depends on whether or not your significant other is bothered by such things. If they aren't, or if you have discussed your online habits with them, and they are okay with that, then no, it isn't cheating. People have different ideas about what is okay.

As far as Weiner is concerned, I wouldn't know. I haven't seen what his wife has said on the matter. However, I also don't think it should really be my business. That's between him and his wife to decide. I don't really see how it effects his politics. If he has done something illegal, then that will come out. Until then, I don't really see a point in making a judgement on him. He's a politician. She's a politician's wife. I would suspect anything they say at this point. Hell, she could say he was scum simply because saying she's okay with it would look bad. It's a private matter made public. People will say anything to save face in that situation.

The bolded part worries me. Makes me worried that you have/are dating someone really REALLY controlling. By that definition, you could be cheating on your boy/girlfriend with just regular friends. Or family for that matter. I feel like that definition is so broad it can constitute anything as cheating. Yikes man.

However, I am somewhat inclined to agree that if you are sharing really private parts of yourself with someone other than your significant, there could be a problem. I think what mister Weiner did (besides being a gift from the comedy gods) was very wrong. Sending pictures of jimmy out to women who follow you is obviously sexual and the conversations exchanged were clearly flirtatious (in addition to being really weird). But, again, it's difficult to draw the line.

I don't want to say that talking to anyone online is an act of cheating, nor do I want to say that it is innocent and harmless. I think it boils down to intention: did Weiner want to have relations with any of these women? If yes, it's cheating. If no, it's still wrong but not necessarily cheating... Just crazy.

 

[dOrOrOwait]

Oh god! Its so refreshing to know that everyone voted Yes for this, I am really concerned for you kids that voted no.
I don't think having a meaningful conversation with someone constitutes as cheating but generally if you are desiring someone else other than your partner its cheating and you might as well break it off before you do any damage.
I suppose that's what wrong with society today, people aren't taught values when they are young and they grow up and spread the clap like idiots.

 

[SirDoom]

Obviously it depends on what your partner thinks.

Personally, I would call anything cheating if you are getting something from someone else that you would normally get from your significant other. So even something like meaningful conversation with another person could constitute cheating. If you would normally confide in your significant other about your troubles, but you decide to do it with someone else online, then you are depriving your significant other from a part of your life, a part they used to have access to.

Of course, again this depends on whether or not your significant other is bothered by such things. If they aren't, or if you have discussed your online habits with them, and they are okay with that, then no, it isn't cheating. People have different ideas about what is okay.

Okay, question. According to you, anything you would be getting from your significant other is cheating if you get it from somewhere else.

So, let's assume I was still with my ex. She refused any form of intimate contact. No sexual actions, no kissing, nothing more passionate than a friendly hug. Would it be cheating to go around making out with and/or having sex with other guys and girls, as long as I avoided hugs?

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Anyway, I do agree that it depends on what your partner thinks. Ultimately, if they think it's cheating, they are the one you're going to have to answer to, even if in your mind it's completely reasonable. Of course, if your significant other thinks even being in the same room with any other person is cheating, then you may want to reconsider your relationship.

 

[BabyRaptor]

This is the kind of thing you talk about with your significant other early on in a relationship. Set down the rules. Then there's no confusion if the worst happens.

I don't see the big deal with what Mr. Anthony did. In the past few years we've had people soliciting gay sex from cops in bathrooms, people picking up "baggage boys" to take on world tours, people sleeping around and then offering the spouse jobs to keep their mouths shut...(All from the anti-gay "family values" party, which makes it worse.)

This guy sent pictures. Pictures in which he was still dressed. Whoop-de-Fucking-do.

 

[BabyRaptor]

This is the kind of thing you talk about with your significant other early on in a relationship. Set down the rules. Then there's no confusion if the worst happens.

I don't see the big deal with what Mr. Anthony did. In the past few years we've had people soliciting gay sex from cops in bathrooms, people picking up "baggage boys" to take on world tours, people sleeping around and then offering the spouse jobs to keep their mouths shut...(All from the anti-gay "family values" party, which makes it worse.)

This guy sent pictures. Pictures in which he was still dressed. Whoop-de-Fucking-do.

Glad to see a sane, measured perspective to this story. I agree that the gay basher that solicited men in the bathroom was a lot worse. Doesn't negate whatever Weiner did but then again I don't think he did much. He wasn't even naked.

I think the worst part of it was that one of them was 17, but even then, depending on what state she lived in she could be considered legal.

 

[Kermi]

If my wife sent pictures of herself naked or sexted with someone, I would consider it cheating - unless it was cleared with me beforehand and I ok'd it. Don't know why I would, just saying.

 

[MrGalactus]

Nah, I don't think it is. It's bad, but not as bad as cheating.