Poll: Is this ok?

[SirDeadly]

So today my best friend tells me that he likes my ex(who I still love more than anything, It's been 3 weeks since we broke up) and expects me to be ok with it. He then goes off at me for being angry at him. Do you guys think it's ok to date a friends ex or do you think it's a no go zone?


EDIT: Yes/No option didn't work properly....

 

[Satin6T]

you have to give concent first but i think man law allows it

 

[insectoid]

It's a bit soon...you have every right to be angry. It's still at that stage where you could wonder if he was just waiting for your relationship to fail, isn't it?

 

[SirDeadly]

It's a bit soon...you have every right to be angry. It's still at that stage where you could wonder if he was just waiting for your relationship to fail, isn't it?

I'm pretty sure he was, he was always asking about her when we were going out.

 

[Et3rnalLegend64]

It's a bit soon...you have every right to be angry. It's still at that stage where you could wonder if he was just waiting for your relationship to fail, isn't it?

I'm pretty sure he was, he was always asking about her when we were going out.

In that case, you have a pretty crappy friend. You definitely have the right to be angry at him.

 

[SirDeadly]

It's a bit soon...you have every right to be angry. It's still at that stage where you could wonder if he was just waiting for your relationship to fail, isn't it?

I'm pretty sure he was, he was always asking about her when we were going out.

In that case, you have a pretty crappy friend. You definitely have the right to be angry at him.

It makes it worse because I've known him for 12 years...

 

[insectoid]

It's a bit soon...you have every right to be angry. It's still at that stage where you could wonder if he was just waiting for your relationship to fail, isn't it?

I'm pretty sure he was, he was always asking about her when we were going out.

So not okay. Insensitive at the least.

 

[Spiner909]

Yes but not in such a short period of time, and he had no right to be angry.

 

[Kinguendo]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

 

[Julianking93]

3 weeks? That's it?

Tell him to at least wait a little longer, I mean damn, just 3 weeks?

Though, my friend wanted to hook up with my ex about 2 days after we broke up.

 

[Mozared]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

And you know that at the stone-old age of 20? =P
Not trying to diss you, but I think you're somewhat overstepping the line - at least admit that the possibility of it being 'something real' exists.

Anyway, it's a difficult case. On one side I'd say it's a little bit insensitive and that he could've waited or not let you know it, though think about it - would that have made you happier? I'd probably prefer him telling me if I were you. You've got every right to be angry, though I'd say you two need a solid talk to A) work this out and B) for you to see where he stands. You need to find out if he's ready to simply stab you in the back with this.

 

[Kinguendo]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

And you know that at the stone-old age of 20? =P
Not trying to diss you, but I think you're somewhat overstepping the line - at least admit that the possibility of it being 'something real' exists.

Anyway, it's a difficult case. On one side I'd say it's a little bit insensitive and that he could've waited or not let you know it, though think about it - would that have made you happier? I'd probably prefer him telling me if I were you. You've got every right to be angry, though I'd say you two need a solid talk to A) work this out and B) for you to see where he stands. You need to find out if he's ready to simply stab you in the back with this.

EVERYTHING changes when you are 2 decades old... Also, I know that having thought I was in love and now knowing that I have in fact never actually been in love.

Who hasnt felt like this at least once during their teenage days?

Clearly it wasnt "something real" or they wouldnt have broken up and his friend currently wouldnt be trying to pounce, sounds more like she is kinda hot but also kind of a slut to me. Hence why all the boys want a ride on the shiny train while they can still get cheap tickets...

I dont think that works as an analogy.

Anyway, love requires that you know the person. Not just "Oh that girl over there is super hot I wanna bang her... because I love her so much.", once you get to know that person and it turns out they have the personality of a basket of grapes you soon start losing whatever feelings you thought you had... Or you are shallow and like your girlfriends to be as deep as the diving board at a public swimming pool, still doesnt scream "love".

Seriously, these analogies suck!

And yes, his "friend" is a d*ck.

 

[Anatares]

If you only just broke up and your ex is open to dating your friend, certainly says a lot about the both of them. They're both assholes, you're better off without them.

 

[Scumpernickle]

You have the right to be angry, I would wait at least a couple months before doing something like that.

 

[Mozared]

*snip*

Oh, but I am not saying the whole idea that stuff changes is completely wrong. In fact, I agree with you on that. I'm just saying I reckon you're overstepping it by replying to a topic like this with basically the message "oh you're young, it's meaningless, get over it". Sure, in the long run this isn't going to majorly impact his life, but that doesn't necissarily make it meaningless or similar to "love for your xbox". That's what I originally had a 'problem' with.

 

[SirDeadly]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

And you know that at the stone-old age of 20? =P
Not trying to diss you, but I think you're somewhat overstepping the line - at least admit that the possibility of it being 'something real' exists.

Anyway, it's a difficult case. On one side I'd say it's a little bit insensitive and that he could've waited or not let you know it, though think about it - would that have made you happier? I'd probably prefer him telling me if I were you. You've got every right to be angry, though I'd say you two need a solid talk to A) work this out and B) for you to see where he stands. You need to find out if he's ready to simply stab you in the back with this.

EVERYTHING changes when you are 2 decades old... Also, I know that having thought I was in love and now knowing that I have in fact never actually been in love.

Who hasnt felt like this at least once during their teenage days?

Clearly it wasnt "something real" or they wouldnt have broken up and his friend currently wouldnt be trying to pounce, sounds more like she is kinda hot but also kind of a slut to me. Hence why all the boys want a ride on the shiny train while they can still get cheap tickets...

I dont think that works as an analogy.

Anyway, love requires that you know the person. Not just "Oh that girl over there is super hot I wanna bang her... because I love her so much.", once you get to know that person and it turns out they have the personality of a basket of grapes you soon start losing whatever feelings you thought you had... Or you are shallow and like your girlfriends to be as deep as the diving board at a public swimming pool, still doesnt scream "love".

Seriously, these analogies suck!

And yes, his "friend" is a d*ck.

She's not super hot but she is the nicest person I know. I went out with her for a year and I know that it was something real, not "how I love my xbox".

 

[Whitenight2008]

same sh*t happened to me, almost exactly except as soon as I manage to get one "friend" to back off, another jumps in, its ridiculous. You have every right to be mad dude, it goes against the very foundations of man law, give em hell!

 

[Kinguendo]

*snip*

Oh, but I am not saying the whole idea that stuff changes is completely wrong. In fact, I agree with you on that. I'm just saying I reckon you're overstepping it by replying to a topic like this with basically the message "oh you're young, it's meaningless, get over it". Sure, in the long run this isn't going to majorly impact his life, but that doesn't necissarily make it meaningless or similar to "love for your xbox". That's what I originally had a 'problem' with.

Well you see, the problem you have here is that you dont seem to realise how much I love my xbox!

But seriously, it is just something EVERYONE goes through. I am not saying it was meaningless, I NEVER said that. I said it wasnt "love", because it wasnt.