Poll: Is this ok?

[silasbufu]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

Being 20 doesn't really make you the village's old wiseman . I'm 21 and I can tell you that I am in a relationship for 4 years now and I fell in love with her when I was 18 and it was the real deal , not some teenage butterflies (that only happens in the first few months).
Love doesn't have to be seen as such a serious feeling, not untill marriage >_> .
OT : It doesn't matter if you have been friends with him for 12 years. Some people just choose their own path and do anything just so that they will be happy, without thinking about others. You need to depart from this friendship because he broke a golden rule and by giving you a hard time about this, I don't think he even realises it.

 

[Chaos Theory]

in this case no, 3 weeks and u obviously still like her... nah baaaad timing

 

[CouchCommando]

I thought it was like an unwritten rule, you just don't date mates ex's ...........ever. Hmmm unless he new her before you and you grass cut him, and you hadn't really been seeing her for a long time anyway, hmm yeah guess it depends on the circumstances.

 

[CouchCommando]

yeah too early. not to mention wants to date your ex....ew creepy.

 

[Susano]

If you love your ex, why did you divorce her? Divorce never solves anything. It only makes your life worse. I know a lot of divorced people and none of them are any happier nor any better off now that they are divorced than when they were married. Get back together with your "ex"!

Whut?

Are you saying that you can't think of one situation in which divorce would solve anything?

OT: I think i'm in agreement with Evil Jak on the issue.

 

[ben---neb]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

I have to stand back and take my hat off for that stupendous x-box analogy. Well done.

 

[fishman279]

Unwritten man law number 1: Going out with a best mates ex is fine IF he gives his consent. It IS a bit untactful of him to bring this up after 3 weeks, seems a little out of line to me, so don't hurt him TOO much because you can't really CHOOSE who you fancy (Belive me, I know =/)...

 

[likalaruku]

Can't say. I've never had feelings for another human being.

 

[Trivun]

Whoever came up with the 'Bros Before Hoes' rule is an idiot. If you and her aren't together anymore then you have no right to decide whether or not she should be able to date your friend. If she wants to be with him and he wants to be with her then that's between them two. Not you. That right doesn't belong to you, so stop complaining when he mentions it. It's between the two of them and that's all.

 

[Evil the White]

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

Seriously, stuff happens. Not that sort of stuff, but where the people actually fall in love, and not that fake kind of love where they say it about all three people they've dated in the past wekk, but real, serious love. I've watched it happen to my friends. One of them only realised it when he punched some else in the face because he thought he'd convinced his girlfriend to dump him, cos that was about the time he realised how much she meant to him.

OT, its fair game, but after only three weeks... not enough time.

 

[Cmwissy]

I would ritualistically kill and eat them both.


Honestly - I don't see why you come to a gaming/politics website to talk about immature dating advice.

Love... really? Arent you like 16/17?

Oh I am sure you think you love her, like I love my xbox... Yes, I may stick parts of me in it sometimes but that isnt real love... My finger of course... To put in and take out disks... You know what this is just getting worse as I go along, I am going to stop here before the internet breaks from an innuendo overload.

I will just say, what does it matter? You are just kids... You will be lucky if you even remain friends with that person after school, I personally am still friends with all my friends BUT thats because we actually are all REALLY, REALLY awesome... Glad I could help.

I agree 100% - the OP sounds like a teen - and teens have no f*ckin idea what love is.


EDIT: Teen's do however - know what lust is; and that is what you are feeling; Lust.

 

[Urgh76]

well, tell him to just back off for a little while and say he can start when you're ready

Sure, it's okay to date ur friend's ex just as long as ur friend has gotten over the loss

 

[gbemery]

So today my best friend tells me that he likes my ex(who I still love more than anything, It's been 3 weeks since we broke up) and expects me to be ok with it. He then goes off at me for being angry at him. Do you guys think it's ok to date a friends ex or do you think it's a no go zone?


EDIT: Yes/No option didn't work properly....

Well you have to be a little bit more clear on this. Did he just say he likes her or did he say he likes her and has or is going to date her? Plus how long did you date the girl in question?

He said he wants to go out with her. I dated her for a year.

Well then you have the right to be upset and if he is still pissed at you for that then I would probably suggest reconsidering the adjective you use before friend.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

Well, it's hardly a nice move by the friend in question but, the other side of the coin is that you aren't being fair to either your friend OR your ex.

The truth of the matter is, either you or your ex terminated the relationship. You have no right to block your friends advances towards your ex nor do you have any righ to stand in the way of future relationships your ex may have.

If you press the issue with the friend you'll just end the relationship. If you block the ex you generally lose any hope of future relationships with them as well. You already lost the girl - do you really need to lose the friend too?

 

[TOGSolid]

Seriously, stuff happens. Not that sort of stuff, but where the people actually fall in love, and not that fake kind of love where they say it about all three people they've dated in the past wekk, but real, serious love. I've watched it happen to my friends. One of them only realised it when he punched some else in the face because he thought he'd convinced his girlfriend to dump him, cos that was about the time he realised how much she meant to him.

Welcome to immature boys raging due to hormones?

Well, it's hardly a nice move by the friend in question but, the other side of the coin is that you aren't being fair to either your friend OR your ex.

The truth of the matter is, either you or your ex terminated the relationship. You have no right to block your friends advances towards your ex nor do you have any righ to stand in the way of future relationships your ex may have.

If you press the issue with the friend you'll just end the relationship. If you block the ex you generally lose any hope of future relationships with them as well. You already lost the girl - do you really need to lose the friend too?

This dood speaks truth.