Poll: Just realised I am bisexual

[Ellen of Kitten]

Interesting poll; it asks what we like without addressing what we are. It collects how many people enjoy specific genders rather than what sexuality we identify as. It's similar but different enough to be unique in it's own way.

As a trans girl, I like girls. Yay girls.

Trans as in post op?

If so, I envy you.

No, unfortunately. I've been Stealth trans for the better part of a decade, but no ops for me. I do "pass" surprisingly well though. I almost don't need any operations. (Don't know if I want the "big" one either. We'll see.)

Things would just be better if I were a woman

oh well, maybe one day I'll work up the courage to pursue it.

It's a huge commitment, and completely life altering. It's not a process for the timid, and you can't be wrong about it. That said, there's tons of resources for those questioning. 10 years ago, none of these resources existed for me, so I had to use local sources- WHICH, btw, I highly recommend. Seek out local and internet resources. It's okay to question, and find to pursue. You just want to be sure of it when you actually do start taking steps.

 

[DP155ToneZone]

Ghey so guys for me :3

Inb4 hundreds of bisexuals

Hahaha.

I had a good chuckle at that last point.

So true for The Escapist, huh?

 

[Bagged Milk]

I'm currently dating a lovely bowl of petunias.

oh no, not again.

 

[gillebro]

Good for you, working it out. For many it takes a while. Many others never work it out, or live in denial. Sadly there are still MANY countries in the world that frown upon minority sexual preferences, which I think is very sad, myself.

As for me, it's kind of complicated, but I'm basically a straight female.

 

[Eldarion]

Never met an actual hermaphrodite. That... actually sounds kinda sexy. Well, if hentai can be believed. Which, of course, it can't. **sigh**

I know right! A penis AND breasts? /drool

At first blush of course.
Bi-sexuality implies that they have TOTAL attraction for both sexes.
TOTAL. ATTRACTION.

No it doesn't! Bi means two - it implies that one is attracted to two genders rather than one. It does NOT imply the amount one is attracted to either.

However, you are ignoring everything outside those two genders. It seems to me that generally bisexuals have no sexual interest in hermaphrodites nor things outside of humans.

Thats a false preconceived notion. Bisexuality encompasses hermaphrodites and gender swapped people as well.

Bisexual is not simply about attraction to two sexes and encompasses gender as well, it can include attraction to more than two genders, as "gender" is a more complex issue. Your label doesn't even begin to work unless you look at "gender" and "sex" as the same black and white terms. It has never worked this way.

I would take your word for it, but this being the internet and all do you have something to back that up?

I know what sexuality I am for starters. What part of me do you want to "prove"? The fact that gender and sex aren't black and white? The fact that sexual attraction isn't black and white?

How bout your side "proves" your stance for once? Cause the only thing I'm "proving" is a better understanding of terms that most of you only know the textbook definition of.

Its like your asking me to "prove" that the sky is blue.

 

[OldNewNewOld]

I'm bi. But I like males more then females.
I'm male.

I "discovered" it not long ago. Or to be more precise, I knew I liked men, but I didn't want to accept it. Until one day, I simple woke up and felt like, "why lie to my self, I should be enjoying it, not fearing it".

But I don't play outing any time soon. -.-'

 

[Jake0fTrades]

I'm currently dating a lovely bowl of petunias.

oh no, not again.

You got a problem with hortisexual relationships?

 

[sparg]

i'm not about to read 7 pages of opinions of people i dont know
here's the briefing of mine
stay true, stay confident, stay rational
people, has you may have found out, are assholes (in most part, there are still us geeks who are all right)DO NOT let that get to you.
and if someone comes up to you and says something they shouldn't, punch them for me would'ya?
out of sheer curiosity. are you a girl or a man?
i'm ok with bisexuals and homosexuals but if your anwser is male i'll have a hard time with the pony thing (i keed)

 

[RagnorakTres]

I'm currently dating a lovely bowl of petunias.

oh no, not again.

Cookie for the Hitchhiker's reference.

 

[Bagged Milk]

I'm currently dating a lovely bowl of petunias.

oh no, not again.

You got a problem with hortisexual relationships?

no no no
the hitchhikers guide to the galaxy reference

edit, ninja

 

[DRSH1989]

Join the club.

If I were a woman, I'd be bisexual, but since I'm a 21 year old guy, I'm gonna go with heterosexual. No cock for me besides my own thank you very much... then again I've got nuthin' against people with other sexual orientations, but to be clear... if you're a guy and try to ask me out on a date... one of us is gonna end up in the hospital... if they're lucky.

I can just see it now, the "thank you but I'm not interested" line causes so much embarrassment one of you explodes...

I mean, that's the only thing that I assume will happen, because any sort of implied violent threat there would indicate either a bad upbringing or some repressed psychological problem. I'd be remiss not to call you out on it.

But since we all know you can't possibly mean something so hateful, I will just say that the embarrassed explosion would be pretty cute in that awkward tripping over a bike rack while on a date kind of way.

OT: I'm totally straight because I think men and boy-parts are gross and I don't understand them (and by them I mean both men and their parts). Then again, lady-parts are pretty gross and I only marginally understand women better than men. However, the rest of the female form is pretty nice, though.

Congrats on the personal revelation; have fun re-evaluating all affected aspects of your life and finding related trends. (I always thought that was the best part of a self-revelatory moment...what?)

I wasn't being hateful. Maybe I went overboard with my comment, but I just wanted to point out that I'm OK with guys making passes at other guys, but not when I'm the other guy , kinda like what you stated with "men parts are gross". I'm not a violent person usually... ow, and yes I had a bad upbringing & I'm mentally unstable, so I guess I fit both your psychological profiles .

 

[Jake0fTrades]

I'm currently dating a lovely bowl of petunias.

oh no, not again.

You got a problem with hortisexual relationships?

no no no
the hitchhikers guide to the galaxy reference

Yeah, but if you tell anyone, I'll pull your spleen out through your throat.

(I've been watching the movie a lot lately, can you tell?)

 

[thespianicism]

I too recently discovered this about myself. Well, less discovered and more accepted. I have kind of thought I was bisexual for a while and now I am sure. Good times.

 

[Bagged Milk]

Yeah, but if you tell anyone, I'll pull your spleen out through your throat.

(I've been watching the movie a lot lately, can you tell?)

yea-no no not at all

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

"Bisexuality is sexual behavior or an orientation involving physical and/or romantic attraction to both males and females, especially in regards to men and women"
-Wikipedia

That study studied arousal only, I'm saying that you can't be attracted to both sexes.
If the study is false or something, then I'll abandon it and go on my way.
Pansexuality means that you are predominantly (Biologically, physically, whatever) attracted to one sex, but you're also open to everyone else.

I am attracted to both men and women. The OP just stated that he is attracted to both sexes. Your study is therefore wrong. It is also clearly a bigoted, ignorant study.

Also, the Wikipedia definition quoted above is fine - it states a sexual or romantic interest in both sexes. It does not imply that those interests are exactly equal.

 

[Mad Scientist]

/snip

You got it backwards, bisexual is the normal term and pansexual/omnisexual are dumb overly inclusive labels.

Bisexuals are attracted distinctly to two genders (usually to feminine characteristics and to masculine characteristics, but exceptions exist). Pans are attracted regardless of gender characteristics, or to a broad range approximately equally. There is indeed a difference.

I'm not recognizing the label dude. Bisexual is not simply about attraction to two sexes and encompasses gender as well, it can include attraction to more than two genders, as "gender" is a more complex issue.

Bisexuality already encompasses what pansexuality is trying to be, thus the extra label is useless.

Bisexuality does and always has implied attraction to two sexes and/or genders, born in a time when a binary paradigm for gender was such a strong view that the concept of more than two never really came up outside the medical community. That's what "bi" means. It's an imprecise term if one wishes to talk about attraction to more than two, or if sex/gender is irrelevant.

"Bisexuality is sexual behavior or an orientation involving physical and/or romantic attraction to both males and females, especially in regards to men and women"
-Wikipedia

That study studied arousal only, I'm saying that you can't be attracted to both sexes.
If the study is false or something, then I'll abandon it and go on my way.
Pansexuality means that you are predominantly (Biologically, physically, whatever) attracted to one sex, but you're also open to everyone else.

I am attracted to both men and women. The OP just stated that he is attracted to both sexes. Your study is therefore wrong. It is also clearly a bigoted, ignorant study.

Also, the Wikipedia definition quoted above is fine - it states a sexual or romantic interest in both sexes. It does not imply that those interests are exactly equal.

The problem with these studies is that it's a lot more difficult to measure "arousal" than the people who popularise these studies make out. There hasn't even been any work done (to my knowledge) to check whether the male and female methods even measure the same thing -- they just assume that blood flow is an identical signifier for both groups. For tests on males, they normally attempt to measure erectile response, which is probably fine for really strong responses if the subject wasn't nervous about having sensory equipment stuck to his junk and scientists digging around for his personal turn-ons, but hardly useful for more subtle work.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

There is a certain irony (if that's the word I'm looking for) in the fact that even though you are bisexual, you didn't include that as an option in the poll.

Stole the words right of my mouth. Anyway, welcome to the fold, and might I say that your Rainbow Dash avatar is lovely. As you can probably tell from my last comment, I'm bisexual, but sometimes I like to pretend that I'm a lesbian because I'm dating a girl anyway and am in a monogamous relationship, so in all practicality, it doesn't matter that I'm actually bisexual.

 

[black_omega2]

I know what sexuality I am for starters. What part of me do you want to "prove"? The fact that gender and sex aren't black and white? The fact that sexual attraction isn't black and white?

How bout your side "proves" your stance for once? Cause the only thing I'm "proving" is a better understanding of terms that most of you only know the textbook definition of.

Its like your asking me to "prove" that the sky is blue.

"Bisexual is not simply about attraction to two sexes and encompasses gender as well, it can include attraction to more than two genders."
Just that part. Sorry if I'm merely ignorant, but here's your chance to correct that.