Poll: Looking for real advice not moral zealots
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Realistically, if this all just starts to happen on its own, or if they have been talking secretly and surprise me, there is NO WAY i'm going to say no. I feel like a lot of people are saying this is a bad idea based on them thinking that its a morally bad decision, which I think is bullshit, bad morals is rape, theft and murder. Sex is supposed to be fun and exciting.
I believe it will be awkward and embarrassing.VitalSigns said:
The other girl will probably express her feelings to you during the sex. Then your fiancee will get pissed off by it. Drama will follow, and then your whole love life will be fucked up because you had to satisfy a stupid sexual desire.
Do you really think it's worth it?
I don't think she will express it During the act. what type of girls do you know? ever had a whole chat while you were having sex? I havent. ALSO, my fiancee WANTS to have a threesome.Internet Kraken said:
Do you seriously not see how this could easily get screwed up?VitalSigns said:
I think you are letting your sexual desires cloud your judgment.
I do in fact see the risk, but life is just a bunch of experiences until we die, and this is an experience me and my fiancee has both agreed that we want. If this other girl didnt express any feelings to me, I would be all over this without any thought. If they surprise me with this (which is what I think is happening) should I really say no?Internet Kraken said:
Well, I would make that obvious to her. Then go with the threesome.
Your a man. It's a threesome. IT'S A THREESOME. THREESOME THREESOME THREESOME.
Sorry, as a guy who's never gotten a threesome, envy is burning through my every bone.
Try not to take that out on others.
Your a man. It's a threesome. IT'S A THREESOME. THREESOME THREESOME THREESOME.
Sorry, as a guy who's never gotten a threesome, envy is burning through my every bone.
Your a very negative person.Internet Kraken said:
Try not to take that out on others.
You say you are both open-minded and have discussed the possibility in your relationship, so nothing may go wrong and your relationship may be none the worse.
However, and since you've been in a relatively long relationship, you should know that they are difficult, complicated, and somewhat unpredictable. You and your fiancee may have discussed it and feel it would not negatively affect you, but things can change during and after the experience.
Also the other girl could quite easily be lying or unaware of the extent of her feelings about you, which also may intensify after the threesome.
All in all it comes down to how much you value your relationship with your fiancee and if you're willing to risk the possibility of it becoming difficult or ending.
However, and since you've been in a relatively long relationship, you should know that they are difficult, complicated, and somewhat unpredictable. You and your fiancee may have discussed it and feel it would not negatively affect you, but things can change during and after the experience.
Also the other girl could quite easily be lying or unaware of the extent of her feelings about you, which also may intensify after the threesome.
All in all it comes down to how much you value your relationship with your fiancee and if you're willing to risk the possibility of it becoming difficult or ending.
-Other girl (the friend) said that any feelings she may have for me are under control and would not let this become a problem. (she could just be saying that however)
That, sir, is a flat-out lie. I'm sure she doesn't think she's lying, but she is. Threesomes only work when it is clear to all parties that the third person is the extra -- the couple is the couple, and the third wheel is, for want of a better word, disposable. It's about boundaries. If the girl is coming in with feelings for you, she has already passed those boundaries, and moving forward is simply asking for trouble.
That, sir, is a flat-out lie. I'm sure she doesn't think she's lying, but she is. Threesomes only work when it is clear to all parties that the third person is the extra -- the couple is the couple, and the third wheel is, for want of a better word, disposable. It's about boundaries. If the girl is coming in with feelings for you, she has already passed those boundaries, and moving forward is simply asking for trouble.
Coldsnap said:
I definitely love her, A lot. that being said if we did break-up I would be able to go on. I'm a pretty positive person and Don't let things get me down, this is probably the best reply someone has given me on this. She is just as stoked on the idea of one day having a threesome as I am. (lady in the street, freak in the bed style girl) But who the girl is considering the feelings may be a problem. I think I may tell my fiancee about how this girl has expressed these feelings to me first. I will respond later to keep the story up and let you know what my fiancee says.
Put the cards on your table.
Tell your fiancee what the otehr girl told you, then take it from there.
Keep in mind that it's your fiancee and one of your friends you're talking about, not just some random girls. You're gonan regret hurting them.
You could talk to your fiancee and see if she was interrested in a threesome with a more random girl, then the whole problem would be gone and you would still get to nail 2 chicks at once.
Otherwise get your friend to get romanticly involved with your fiencee, get tripple-married and live happily and hornily ever after as husbond wife and wife.
Tell your fiancee what the otehr girl told you, then take it from there.
Keep in mind that it's your fiancee and one of your friends you're talking about, not just some random girls. You're gonan regret hurting them.
You could talk to your fiancee and see if she was interrested in a threesome with a more random girl, then the whole problem would be gone and you would still get to nail 2 chicks at once.
Otherwise get your friend to get romanticly involved with your fiencee, get tripple-married and live happily and hornily ever after as husbond wife and wife.
Why ask us for advice? In the end this is your problem not ours.VitalSigns said:
I would not risk it because your fiancée may get jealous later on whether she is cool with it or not. Also, if this friend does have feelings for you it would be good to tell your fiancée.
Moral also refers to sex as in not cheating on your partner.
No moral zealots, eh? Well you certainly won't want to hear what I have to say...
You have a fiancee. Therefore you are engaged. The whole point of an engagement is to see if you can be faithful and monogamous.
No exceptions. No girlfriend-is-okay-with-it loopholes.
She isn't your girlfriend.
Comprehend?
Now, as a matter of fact I am not a moral zealot. In fact, I have no morals at all. I am an Atheist and I don't believe in anything. However, it really irritates me that jerks like you wank off about 'getting married', expecting everyone around you to be in awe of how grown-up you are to enter a sacred covenant under the eyes of the Lord when in fact you can't even keep it in your pants during the engagement.
By the way, the girl that wants to get involved in a threesome with your fiancee could be either:
- trying to get her foot-in-the-door-before-it-closes and set herself up as your mistress
or:
- trying to get off with your fiancee, who knows you may find yourself kicked out of bed as they seriously get down to it
With any luck the condoms you use will break and they'll both turn up pregnant.
You have a fiancee. Therefore you are engaged. The whole point of an engagement is to see if you can be faithful and monogamous.
No exceptions. No girlfriend-is-okay-with-it loopholes.
She isn't your girlfriend.
Comprehend?
Now, as a matter of fact I am not a moral zealot. In fact, I have no morals at all. I am an Atheist and I don't believe in anything. However, it really irritates me that jerks like you wank off about 'getting married', expecting everyone around you to be in awe of how grown-up you are to enter a sacred covenant under the eyes of the Lord when in fact you can't even keep it in your pants during the engagement.
By the way, the girl that wants to get involved in a threesome with your fiancee could be either:
- trying to get her foot-in-the-door-before-it-closes and set herself up as your mistress
or:
- trying to get off with your fiancee, who knows you may find yourself kicked out of bed as they seriously get down to it
With any luck the condoms you use will break and they'll both turn up pregnant.
