Poll: Losing your virginity - Overhyped?

[Cowabungaa]

I haven't lost it yet, but I'm not too bothered about it. I don't even know whether the actual sex is that awesome, I reckon the foreplay (if done right) is a lot more entertaining. If done with the right person of course.

That said, I do long for, well, female contact. Not so much sex but just holding someone in my arms, holding her hand, cuddling up against her, a soft kiss. I'm more of a romantic anyway.

*sigh*

Well, from a girl's perspective we're always told that our first time isn't going to be fun at all, breaking the hymen and all that... There's blood and it hurts but they tell you it's supposed to get better after that.

So no angels. No nothing really, just a lot of ouch.

Can't a girl at least soften that up by...exploring a bit beforehand?

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

Very. Nothing changes afterward, except for "You have now done the nasty with someone" as opposed to "You have not done the nasty with someone."

And yes, losing it to someone you don't like is very regrettable, if only because you f**ked someone you didn't like.

 

[Marv21]

Well my first time was humiliating, it felt terrible, the condom partially hurt, and the durex piece of shit broke on me, I am now waiting to see if I am going to be a baby daddy(not that I even climaxed because I had the brains to notice when it was broken to stop), so im partially nerve wracked, and it was horrible and I didn't even climax, shitty first time....well it can always get better.

 

[Kagim]

I lost my virginity to the woman who is now my wife so yeah it was pretty damn special to me.

I can't say what it would be like to lose it to a stranger or someone you don't really know. But with her it was something really amazing.

Christ I hate Durex condoms.

.... I LIKE durex condoms.

*Starts building a wall out of discarded durex condom boxes.

Actually truth be told i only hate Trojan condoms. Bloody, fucking, uncomfortable.

 

[SinisterGehe]

Virginity cant be seen physically, or mentally really. (some people say they can and that is bollocks!)

Sex is just physical action to breed. Not the grail of life.
I am virgin! Shock! Isn't a great shock when I am A-sexual!

 

[Timotei]

Having lost mine only a year ago in what I would consider a "proper" fashion (e.g. with my loving boyfriend of almost 4 years now), I can only vouch for what it's like when everything is "right".

To me it didn't seem overhyped. Yes, the first time was a bit bad, and because both of us were rather fresh we only knew what to do from what we had heard about. It hurt a lot, and it was one of the most painful experiences I have felt in a while.

Despite hurting a lot and almost immediately having to worry about pregnancy the moment after (because putting on a condom the first time would have just ruined the whole damn thing), what made up for all that was the ever so glorious afterglow. That feeling of love and passion which only exists in that one span of about 20-45 seconds once the deed has been done. During that magical moment, matter and time cease to exist. In this closed space is only you and the one of whom you made love with.

Not only did the loss of our virginity provide us with this ever so wonderful moment, it also helped to smash the barrier between us being boyfriend/girlfriend and lovers.

So no, I don't believe it's overhyped, though I do believe its significance has become somewhat distorted in recent years into a fad of sorts.

 

[ChicagoTed]

Extremely overhyped.
When I lost mine, it wasn't perfect, but it was nice. But still, all I got was splinters in my ass from having sex on a hard-wood floor.

If your gonna do it on the floor always put a blanket down. It will save you all kinds of suffering . . . especially carpet burn >_<

 

[nightwolf667]

I haven't lost it yet, but I'm not too bothered about it. I don't even know whether the actual sex is that awesome, I reckon the foreplay (if done right) is a lot more entertaining. If done with the right person of course.

That said, I do long for, well, female contact. Not so much sex but just holding someone in my arms, holding her hand, cuddling up against her, a soft kiss. I'm more of a romantic anyway.

*sigh*

Well, from a girl's perspective we're always told that our first time isn't going to be fun at all, breaking the hymen and all that... There's blood and it hurts but they tell you it's supposed to get better after that.

So no angels. No nothing really, just a lot of ouch.

Can't a girl at least soften that up by...exploring a bit beforehand?

Unfortunately, there's a relatively large difference between the size of your finger and the size of your... *points downward. So short of playing around with a dildo before hand, you men will either have to hold it in or suck it up fast so you can try it again. It should be much more pleasant for her the second time around.

 

[aoxomoxoa]

Edit: A thousand "thank you's" to Ekit for telling me how to embed.

f'ing brilliant mate!

 

[Foxbat Flyer]

As of yet i still retain my 'v'.

I wish I had the experience needed to post here...

I wouldn't know since I am still a virgin.

I'm nearly 20 and I still haven't lost mine.

I wish I had the experience necessary to post here (however I'm 15 so it would be illegal if I did)

AAAANNNNDDD.... I'll quit quoting right there.

The poll is, indeed, broken. But I'll go ahead and, 6th?, this comment.

While I too am a virgin, I've always been told that there is nothing to be excited about for the first time, except for dissapointment and messy failure. And apparently I have 411 references to go off of here.

Im not dissapointed that i havnt lost it, im just saying that there is no need to rush out there. Id prefer to wait until I am married or with a person who i know wont leave me for no reason

 

[Sliverwings]

I think its overrated, at the end of the day I felt the same just a little more sweaty

 

[Griphphin]

I'd love to wake up one morning, lick my finger and test the wind, take a deep breath, and decide, "Yep, today's a good day to finally get laid!"
*cue triumphant orchestra while I set off on my goal*
Buuuut, it's just not a big deal to me. Very, very few things are to be honest.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I would say so, but I don't really know for sure since I haven't lost it yet. Don't expect to anytime soon either.

 

[AMMO Kid]

I'm waiting till marriage because apparently 95% of people who wait till marriage have better sex than those who test drive the car(if you know what I mean)/

EDIT on 01/25/2012: See my comment lower on the page...

 

[demoman_chaos]

I am the middle-brotehr and the only virgin. Both brothers are stuck with women they hate because they got them pregnant.
Me being smarter than the average idiot, I've decide to say fuck fucking until I get the woman I am certain I am going to keep. But my bad habit of overthinking what I am going to start the conversation with and the lack of chances to talk to woman my age means I have trouble with the ladies and thus have been terminaly single because of it.
Being too smart can be a bad thing.

 

[andrewfox]

I am the middle-brotehr and the only virgin. Both brothers are stuck with women they hate because they got them pregnant.
Me being smarter than the average idiot, I've decide to say fuck fucking until I get the woman I am certain I am going to keep. But my bad habit of overthinking what I am going to start the conversation with and the lack of chances to talk to woman my age means I have trouble with the ladies and thus have been terminaly single because of it.
Being too smart can be a bad thing.

Feel you man.

Virgin, proud of it. I've gotten lots of compliments all the time(surprisingly) at college from new guys that I meet.

Trying to keep a clean mind is tough work. Especially when you get approached by gorgeous women all the time. (No, I'm not bragging. Merely stating my predicament)

To be honest, I'm waiting for Mrs. Right. When will that be? Who knows.

 

[The Wykydtron]

I suppose it is overhyped. Not that I really care about having sex with people anyway. I mean it just seems really icky to me, I have to stick my- into her-. No i don't even want to think about it!

Why don't the nice girl and I have a sit down and talk about our favourite philosophies?... Nietzsche is one of my favourites. Then we'd argue good naturedly about the nature of truth.

But no sex has to come along and ruin it all. *Sigh*

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

*is still a virgin*

*shrug* I am honestly not all that hyped for it. I mean, I've er...Had a lot of "alone time" if you know what I mean, and I don't think it should be that different, except now there's someone else involved and now it might be a bit more awkward.

To be perfectly honest, I care more about the intimacy with my girlfriend. If/when we get to the sex, I will be doing it more for that reason. Also, I'm not rushing anything. We've been together a year, and I'm perfectly happy where we are now.

In fact, I'd be more excited to sleep with her in a totally innocent way rather than have sex, if you can believe that.