Poll: Losing your virginity - Overhyped?

[JordanMillward_1]

if you're a dude, and the girl you're with knows you're a virgin she -should- be understanding.

Dont expect to last long, or to enjoy it much beyond, "HOLY CRAP! I'm having s- oh :\ "

it's the second or third go where you'll start to get the hang of it.

-m

My now-fiancée was understanding, as she was fairly sexually experienced (being 10 years older than me), so she was patient and made sure to know that she wasn't putting any pressure on me, and all that good stuff. Since she's the only person I've slept with, and we'd been together for 6 months before we reached that stage (she'd wanted it, but as I said, she didn't want to pressurise me), it was pretty special. She said I was lucky, that most people didn't lose their virginity like that. Thinking back, I wouldn't have had it any other way.

As for "how long you last", speak for yourself I lasted a good 15 minutes my first time. The missus was understandably pretty impressed!

 

[The_Splatterer]

Frankly... it's just the same as every other time... it doesn't stop being amazing, and i had a good enough first time that every other time has been just as. like... for me, the first time isn't anything special - its just as bloody amazing as every time after.
And a side note - if your gunna do it, make it about love, not sex.

 

[Dexiro]

I thought the whole virginity hype thing was only in cheesy American movies.

Noone seems to care in England, and there's no peer pressure. At least that's the way it's been with everyone i know.
Maybe it passed by me unnoticed though, I never really got involved in other peoples relationships.

 

[bobknowsall]

I've never had sex, and I don't expect to in my life. I don't keep friends, much less relations, so it's never going to happen. I'm actually thinking of taking a vow of chastity so I'll have something to brag about that no one else can.

You said you didn't really have many friends, so would there be any point in doing something for the bragging rights if you've got no-one to brag to?

Doesn't really seem like the kind of thing most people would brag about, anyway. But to each their own.

Bob, I thought you knows all already. Why did you ask a question if you already knows the answer?

You're number 26 now. Remember that when you hear about the (apparently unconnected) demises of 25 other Escapist users who made the very same joke.

I'm kidding about the impending murders, but I'm not kidding about the numbers. Or is it the other way round...

 

[JordanMillward_1]

I don't regret it. But I'm a man... I wouldn't make a girl do it though, I respected my girlfriend's wish to keep it until her honeymoon (though I don't know why you'd want awful sex then, but hey).

I honestly don't get that. I mean, sex isn't everything, but if you end up getting married and it's only THEN that you find out that you are both sexually incompatible? Yea, that's a wasted relationship/marriage right there.

 

[Darth Sea Bass]

Yeah it's so very overrated i also expected a chorus of angels and all i got was a bored girl under me a feeling of "was that it?" But it gets better further down the road.

 

[Stabby Joe]

It's overhyped for men at least... women get it easy, no pressure... some gender stereotype about women being fragile or some BS like that.

 

[Blimey]

People make a gigantic deal about losing their virginity. For me it was simply because I loved her, we had been together for almost 7 months, and it seemed like the thing to do. Afterwards, I didn't feel different or special. Its not like its a huge deal.


And she still dumped my dumb ass a few weeks later.

 

[superbatranger]

I wish I had the experience needed to post here...

Hey, I'm on the same boat. But, regardless, it will happen one day. When will that day come, I don't know.

 

[Matt_LRR]

if you're a dude, and the girl you're with knows you're a virgin she -should- be understanding.

Dont expect to last long, or to enjoy it much beyond, "HOLY CRAP! I'm having s- oh :\ "

it's the second or third go where you'll start to get the hang of it.

-m

My now-fiancée was understanding, as she was fairly sexually experienced (being 10 years older than me), so she was patient and made sure to know that she wasn't putting any pressure on me, and all that good stuff. Since she's the only person I've slept with, and we'd been together for 6 months before we reached that stage (she'd wanted it, but as I said, she didn't want to pressurise me), it was pretty special. She said I was lucky, that most people didn't lose their virginity like that. Thinking back, I wouldn't have had it any other way.

As for "how long you last", speak for yourself I lasted a good 15 minutes my first time. The missus was understandably pretty impressed!

Just trying to keep expectations low

-m

 

[Lizmichi]

It's hugely over hyped. Sex it's self is too. Though this coming from a girls point of view. Losing it sucks like hell for a girl so my point my hold less water.

There is defiantly a huge push from peer pressure to have sex and it makes it harder to say no but I was out of high school when I lost it so I can't really comment on that. Noting amazing happened when I lost mine, it was just very very awkward after words. That night I HATE to think back on. Do I regret it, no, not at all. I didn't waste it in my mind.

 

[LordWalter]

Everyone knows that losing your 'v' is one of the most important moment of your lives. Nowhere is this more widespread than your high school years. I remember being told that your first time was a momentous occassion. Yet there was no parade or chorus of angels shouting "you're a manly man now!" after I lost mine. Dont get me wrong I had a great time, yet a part of me thought, "this was sex? Why was I so nervous about it? Where's my bloody chorus of angels?"

My question is simply, is losing your virginity overhyped?

Also, do the effects of peer pressure make you more likely to regret losing it prematurely?

^ 100% Agreement.

Also, Video Games > Sex.

 

[Echo136]

Losing your virginity is way overhyped.

 

[TheSeventhLoneWolf]

"You're a man now!"

I never really got that term for this subject. I just find it silly when people talk about things like this in public (areas.)

 

[Devi Darkside]

The hype is a junior high/high school thing mostly.

Not saying that you're not changed a little after the first time though, I mean after that you know what sex feels like, and depending on whether you liked it or not you learn what you're into. (Some gay friends learned they were gay after entering a vagina. Funny stuff.) I think it depends your perspective, but honestly I'm happy I lost mine when I was younger, I learned a lot about myself afterwords, but at the same time I understand why people who want to wait as well.

EDIT: As for the "peer pressure" part I never really cared if my friends lost it before me or not, and most of my friends have never needed to know of my personal life anyway.
I blame my first girlfriend for the loss of mine; it's hard to tell someone who's trying to follow the Bible to stop when you both are enjoying yourselves.

 

[jamesworkshop]

if you're a dude, and the girl you're with knows you're a virgin she -should- be understanding.

Dont expect to last long, or to enjoy it much beyond, "HOLY CRAP! I'm having s- oh :\ "

it's the second or third go where you'll start to get the hang of it.

-m

My now-fiancée was understanding, as she was fairly sexually experienced (being 10 years older than me), so she was patient and made sure to know that she wasn't putting any pressure on me, and all that good stuff. Since she's the only person I've slept with, and we'd been together for 6 months before we reached that stage (she'd wanted it, but as I said, she didn't want to pressurise me), it was pretty special. She said I was lucky, that most people didn't lose their virginity like that. Thinking back, I wouldn't have had it any other way.

As for "how long you last", speak for yourself I lasted a good 15 minutes my first time. The missus was understandably pretty impressed!

Delayed ejaculation

Is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man can achieve orgasm within 2?4 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse,[1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or can't have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30?45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse


Also common during the first time as it is attributed to nerves

 

[Angryman101]

My first time was pretty bitchin'. Although she didn't finish, I actually lasted longer than I have been lately, which is kind of sad. Tells you how healthy my sex life has been lately.
As a very physical and sexual person, sex is not overrated at all for me. I enjoy it and would have it and have had it every day of the week.