Poll: Love?

[superbatranger]

I find neither of the choices to be pleasing, but if I had to, I'd go with the latter.

 

[runnernda]

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

To be loved and not love is...well, perhaps an inconvenience, but it is gratifying in its own strange sort of way.

I'll take the latter. The former...ugh.

This. Unrequited love is terrible.

 

[Kouen]

I don't believe that "love" really needs a word...

To me, saying "I love you" is possessive and doesn't actually mean that you "love" them, but that you need to falsely reassure them. I don't think that real love needs to be spoken.

Also, your poll is terrible. It doesn't have anything to do with the question in the OP.

Hearing my partner tell me she loves me lights up my world. She shows it every day, but hearing the words... just does something.

My response was coming from my own personal feelings. Obviously we both react differently to being told "I love you" because it means something different to each of us.

Ah, fair enough.

I Swear I Spot one of your reply's in every single topic I look at xD

On-Topic: Nether both are pointless its you being selfish or kinda gullible really.

 

[hypothetical]

Second option involves less pain so as long as i don't become a saint i'll consistently pick it.

 

[Naheal]

After being in both situations, I'll take loving. Really, though, I'll take a "neither" option. That'd be nice.

 

[Mordwyl]

I've been through both. The first is a harmful drug which you hate but don't want to get rid of, whereas the other you just don't see the point of it.

Love is an amazing feeling, if reciprocated.

 

[Lexodus]

What is love? Baby don't hurt me. don't hurt me nomore.
now that song shall be stuck in my head all day. and with any luck, it'll be stuck in your head too.

to answer, i would rather love and not be loved in return. to be loved and not love back is a vain and shallow existence, one with no reward or happiness. I would rather feel love, even without a chance of love back, because atleast i get to feel that something, even if it is mixed with dispair.


I've experienced both, and i would much rather be the one in love than the one to be loved

...I hate you. *begins to dance*
If I had to choose between the two, I'd rather the latter, since I've been in the former and was basically trodden on for five years. Now though, I am in love, and am loved in return, and it feels amazing

 

[JokerCrowe]

What is love?

Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.


EDIT: Probably the second one. Even though love is a nice emotion(?), it sucks to know that it's unanswered. (I think, still not sure what it is).
I'd rather have somone else act like a blithering idiot around me than be being that blithering idiot.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

I'm kinda living the latter. ~.~

 

[theevilsanta]

I fully believe you can control who you fall in love with, and really, really should to avoid the first. Love is something you give, not something that's ripped out of you without your permission.

But yeah, I guess I'd vote for the first, even though it sucks. Never loving someone would be a pretty bland existence, in my opinion.

 

[Cowabungaa]

To be loved and not be able to love in return. Hands down, bar none, not remotely worth pondering about. SimuLord said it right:

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

Because yes, yes that is entirely true after going through that three times. I have yet to find out how it feels like to be loved.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I believe in love. Hell, if I didn't I'd be screwed, since I tell my gf I love her all the time and mean it. XD

Either option isn't fun, I've been in both situations before, but loving and not being loved in return isn't as bad as peope might think it is, so I take that option.

 

[SimuLord]

To be loved and not be able to love in return. Hands down, bar none, not remotely worth pondering about. SimuLord said it right:

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

Because yes, yes that is entirely true after going through that three times. I have yet to find out how it feels like to be loved.

This does, however, leave open the question of what it would be like for the other party if indeed I were loved but couldn't love back, since I'd be inflicting that self-same torture on her. Nasty little catch-22, that.

Although I wonder---knowing I could never love someone back, could I make her feel loved? And would that be enough for her? I'd have no dog in the fight---I'm never going to love in this scenario so it's not like I'd be looking elsewhere...just trying to decide if the illusion could clear my conscience.

Then I remember I've done it before. And the girl sure didn't seem to mind.

 

[Cowabungaa]

To be loved and not be able to love in return. Hands down, bar none, not remotely worth pondering about. SimuLord said it right:

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

Because yes, yes that is entirely true after going through that three times. I have yet to find out how it feels like to be loved.

This does, however, leave open the question of what it would be like for the other party if indeed I were loved but couldn't love back, since I'd be inflicting that self-same torture on her. Nasty little catch-22, that.

Although I wonder---knowing I could never love someone back, could I make her feel loved? And would that be enough for her? I'd have no dog in the fight---I'm never going to love in this scenario so it's not like I'd be looking elsewhere...just trying to decide if the illusion could clear my conscience.

Then I remember I've done it before. And the girl sure didn't seem to mind.

As long as you can make her feel that way it doesn't make any difference whether you truly love her or not. It still pumps her brain full of the chemicals that makes one feel all giggedidy when feeling in love.

Cold thing to do though, because if it comes out... oh boy. Better get some Dexter-like skills in putting a mask on.

 

[Estarc]

I could never live with either of those scenarios. To love without it ever being returned would be to die a little each day, and to be loved without having the capacity to return it would crush me with guilt.

 

[S.R.S.]

True love can exist, and it can cease to exist and it can exist again, with different people.

True love isn't an emotion.

True love is mutual understanding.

True love is confirming that you will never ever sacrifice yourself for your loved one, and knowing in return that your loved one would never sacrifice themselves for you. When you die. The love of your life that was continues being that person you loved so much. Not diminished in any way. Because you were both two independent creatures that did not love each other because they feared their own incompleteness, but because they actually loved each other.

True love is admitting all of this to your loved one, and not being seen as a monster in return.

(pwned)

 

[iLikeHippos]

I loved someone. She proved not to love me. In front of my asshole friends. Who laughed at my face with vigor.

So fuck that. I don't love anyone except my family members. I am working well without anyone else. And people already love me though I show nothing back.

So option 2. Which is also my daily life. What a surprise...

MAN that was depressing. ^^