Poll: Love?
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I'm in the second situation and I hate it. My girlfriend adores me and I'm essentially indifferent and whilst it was nice to start with, being loved and not feeling the same way just makes me find her irritating now. She's a sweet girl and I'm going to break her heart soon, I wish there was a way around it but there just isn't.
Right now I'd much rather be experiencing some unrequited love, it's the best kind of love, rarely spoiled.
Right now I'd much rather be experiencing some unrequited love, it's the best kind of love, rarely spoiled.
This!Pirate Kitty said:
I don't really care if 'love' is somehow scientifically explained and therefore is not the huge big fluffy pink love that everyone kinda expects it should be, but those happy moments like the ones above, does it even make a difference?
I picked would rather love - maybe its because I'm a big mushy emo at heart.
How can you not believe in it? There isn't much to believe in, it's a certain state of mind caused by certain chemicals. Can't deny that existing.vento 231 said:
You know itPirate Kitty said:Awww. You big pink, mushy emo, you
OT: I guess I'd rather love, because I know how much it hurts to love someone and not have it returned - don't wanna inflict that on someone.
And yeah I guess I was always fond of the saying "it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"
I have to say, I'm surprised that such a majority picked the second. It's like the options are to be hurt yourself or to hurt someone else, and people pick the latter.justhereforthemoney said:
I chose to love and not be loved in return. I have lived the two and I think that this is the least painful. How can you feel good when someone loves you and you can't return that feeling? You feel so guilty... At least when you love, you feel uplifted when you see that person. I think that if you absolutely need to be loved in return, then what you feel is not love, just desire.
I guess I am selfish, but in a different way...
I had this discussion with a friend at one point, and I look at it this way: 1, you are lonely but not a blimming psychopath, 2 you are popular but you wouldn't care, it would make no impact.
If my personality remained without the love, then probably option 2, I could always just try my best to please someone I got along with.
If my personality remained without the love, then probably option 2, I could always just try my best to please someone I got along with.
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You, sir, have evidently never felt the wonder and happiness that loving someone brings. Also romantic love, which I assume you are talking about, is only one of several different types of love which humans can experience.Skorpyo said:
OT: Probably best to love someone else, as without having love yourself then you can't experience true contentment.
Second maybe but it depends on the details. Never being able to love would be a bit of a bummer but is liveable. Loving someone that doesn't love you back is pretty horrible I would imagine, but I suppose it depends on the situation.
Can you be with them but they just don't have the depth of feeling that you do or do they just blank you? In the first I suppose you could be contented if you could never feel love as you don't really know what you're missing until it happens to you. Even if you did know what you were missing I think living a life with someone that you didn't love but still had a fondness for would still be better than loving someone and having them ignore you completely but compared to loving them and being in a relationship where they still have feelings for you but it's not full on love...no, I'd still prefer number 2, knowing or even thinking that the one you love doesn't reciprocate your feelings to the same level is horrible, drives you nuts.
So, after a lot of waffling, I go for number 2, be loved but never love.
Can you be with them but they just don't have the depth of feeling that you do or do they just blank you? In the first I suppose you could be contented if you could never feel love as you don't really know what you're missing until it happens to you. Even if you did know what you were missing I think living a life with someone that you didn't love but still had a fondness for would still be better than loving someone and having them ignore you completely but compared to loving them and being in a relationship where they still have feelings for you but it's not full on love...no, I'd still prefer number 2, knowing or even thinking that the one you love doesn't reciprocate your feelings to the same level is horrible, drives you nuts.
So, after a lot of waffling, I go for number 2, be loved but never love.
Hmm... Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?
Nope. I'll go with the option that includes me without love. I don't love anyone now and I'd rather not love someone but never be loved in return. Yeah I'd be putting someone else through the same thing, but at least I could do right by them.
Nope. I'll go with the option that includes me without love. I don't love anyone now and I'd rather not love someone but never be loved in return. Yeah I'd be putting someone else through the same thing, but at least I could do right by them.
By my own definition, love is a deep caring for someone, which will not expire. You can be with someone your entire life, but you cannot love them forever, your interest will natural fade off. So I don't believe in real love, based on my own interpretation of it.Cowabungaa said:
I'd much rather not feel love and receive love than the reverse. Unrequited feelings bug me. Yes, that's hypocritical.
I really find the "Love is SHALLOW!!! I WILL NEVAR LOVE!!! NEVAAARRRR!!!!!" responses hilarious.
I both laugh at you and pity you, plus you come across as a bit of a dick. Have fun being lonely, but if you'll take that view it's all you deserve (if you don't get horribly proven wrong at some point, which is likely).
I vote second. I can still have fun and things, but the first situation is really, really shit.
I both laugh at you and pity you, plus you come across as a bit of a dick. Have fun being lonely, but if you'll take that view it's all you deserve (if you don't get horribly proven wrong at some point, which is likely).
I vote second. I can still have fun and things, but the first situation is really, really shit.
