Poll: My life: Why it is sub par

[KurtzGallahad]

Hey OP, if you're so smart why are you whining about this on the internet instead of doing something about it? Are you planning on culling the supportive posts from this thread and shoving them into your brother's face as conclusive proof of his douchery? All I see in your words are a big ol' pity party, victim behavior, and a desperate need for approval from random internet strangers!

It's been said that the things we hate in others are the things we hate about ourselves. I'm guessing our OP here is in pretty heavy denial and is projecting his own flaws onto his sibling; I'd bet dollars for donuts that he and his non-identical brother are much more alike than he seems to think.

Actually I just wanted to know what people thought, I was looking forward to hearing the beliefs of people with both positive and negative reactions to my statement, yours is very negative (And mildly offensive) but that's part of life...

Next time could you be alittle bit nicer?
Please.

PS: my name is not OP, and maybe I need aproval sometimes and Maybe I need to feel good about myself after long stressful periods without sufficent sleep

 

[Vampire cat]

How old are you?!... If relatively old, report the guy to the damn police, he's trying to kill you!

You sound like you have an ego problem and he sounds like a psycho.

And this... You need to chill out on your "I'm totally awesome" thing, and he needs to be in a mental hospital.

 

[Jedoro]

What a temperamental, whiny and crazy asshole. I say you beat the shit out of him, and put him in his place, and a solid word of advise my friend, lock you bedroom door and keep a bat by your nightstand.

This

If he's as intelligent as you say, he'll learn pretty damn quick not to mess with someone who beats his ass every time he starts a fight.

 

[Mr Thin]

No, you do not deserve pity.

You're taking that crap from him, you could stop it, so stop it. Don't take that from anyone.

Pity him, maybe. But not yourself. Self pity is weakness. Don't indulge in it.

 

[Grampy_bone]

Hey OP, if you're so smart why are you whining about this on the internet instead of doing something about it? Are you planning on culling the supportive posts from this thread and shoving them into your brother's face as conclusive proof of his douchery? All I see in your words are a big ol' pity party, victim behavior, and a desperate need for approval from random internet strangers!

It's been said that the things we hate in others are the things we hate about ourselves. I'm guessing our OP here is in pretty heavy denial and is projecting his own flaws onto his sibling; I'd bet dollars for donuts that he and his non-identical brother are much more alike than he seems to think.

Actually I just wanted to know what people thought, I was looking forward to hearing the beliefs of people with both positive and negative reactions to my statement, yours is very negative (And mildly offensive) but that's part of life...

Next time could you be alittle bit nicer?
Please.

PS: my name is not OP, and maybe I need aproval sometimes and Maybe I need to feel good about myself after long stressful periods without sufficent sleep

I call 'em how I see 'em. Your post was worded in such a way to elicit maximum sympathy from the readers by playing the worst kind of victim game: portraying yourself as a herculean superman being harassed by a loathsome troglodyte. How could people not take your side? The internet being what it is, it's hard not to call BS on this.

Playing the victim may get you the attention and sympathy you want in the short term but no one will respect you for it. Seeking the approval of others is no way to live your life, and looking for self esteem on the internet is a fool's endeavor.

I'm not trying to be mean, but the truth is rarely pleasant.

 

[Robert632]

Baring anything you've done/do to him without even thinking it's wrong, I'd say he's probably envious, except his envy makes him murderous. Or he has some other, random rage inducing mental probalem.

 

[Actual]

Start carrying around a high quality sound recorder.

Don't let anyone know you have it, when you have a considerable number of records of him freak out use it to have him committed. If he's a danger to people he needs stronger meds or locking up.

Or, (forgive me, but you sound reasonably young, like in your late teens?) wait until you can move a little distance away from him, you'll probably find the two of you get on much better if you don't see each other every day.

 

[The Aimless One]

Well, let me compare that to my own experience....As someone with a rather bad case of ADHD I feel I'm able to manage it better then most...Most of the time.....Whenever I forget to watch myself in this regard (as regularly happens...as a result of ADHD I'm told) I tend to do/say things without realizing the impact it might have on someone else.
Especially since I'm really good with words in person, this can be annoyingpainful to others without my even realizing it....Think about it.

Also, as has been said:
If you don't know why your brother hates you, you really aren't trying hard enough.....
You should at least be able to point to the instances where he has interpreted your words/actions the wrong way, so that he might have taken offence.

 

[S.R.S.]

That's sub par? Get some perspective, like, did you know? That every second someone is killed (or whatever). If I were in your position I'd kick his ass, beat him into submission. Your life in not terrible, try living with guilt that you were responsible for a family members death (not me, it's an example).

 

[InvisibleSeal]

I wouldn't say that your life is subpar, since when you leave home your brother won't be so much of a problem, but I feel you deserve sympathy. Mainly though when reading I was thinking that your parents aren't exactly treating you well if they allow your brother to do this.

You should talk to someone to get advice on getting your parents to sympathise more with you (and protect you from your brother).

EDIT: I realise that alot of people have just been saying "beat him" up etc... but in the long term that could wreck your relationship with him and your entire family, make other people see you as a bully, and do alot more damage than he has done to you (since you said you have martial arts training).

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

This reads as, I'm so great, but my brother has mental problems that I refuse to help him deal with so he gets angry at me. My life sucks!

 

[SmartIdiot]

I don't want to sound callous here but I'm going to anyway. I think ADD/ADHD is a load of bullshit. I have had 2 friends 'diagnosed' with the former and my brother in his last relationship had to look after a child with the latter. There is no difference difference between their behaviour and that of a spoiled brat or someone who was never disciplined as a child. Your brother doesn't need medication he needs a fucking boot up the arse and to man up and face life without having excuses made for him.

 

[Outright Villainy]

This sounds like a very one sided story. By the way, I'm not saying your brother isn't physically violent, but if you're young then your parents should get him help. If you're adults then you should have him committed. But then I don't know the whole story, there seems to be a lot of hyperbole, building up yourself as flawless, demonising your brother completely.
You know real life doesn't work like that, there's always another side to a story. If you genuinely think that's what it is, completely black and white, then I'm sure you're deluding yourself.

 

[Mechsoap]

personally i would if anyone tryed to kill me 3 times a year i would kill him silently, like pillow or a chainsaw.

like pillow or a chainsaw

Wait... what? A chainsaw is your idea of silent? =P

could be he was deaf

 

[ethaninja]

You should definitely try and get him some help. He needs to be taking his medication to help him deal with his problems. Maybe get him to see the rapist so that he can let his anger out in a non-violent way.

It's always difficult dealing with someone who has a mental illness, and punishing them can make them act out even more.

I'm with stupid Nah just kidding, but yeah I agree. If all else fails, then start slipping some sleeping pills into his drinks and/or food...

 

[Lucifron]

OP

I don't understand the poll. Nor the topic for that matter.

Do you mean that your life is subpar because you're brother acts like an asshole because of his ADD?

Are you asking me if you or your brother are worth pitying?

Edit: Rephrasal.

 

[neoontime]

I personally don't think kicking his ass will stop it, i mean when has getting beat up by the person you hate make you like them more. You need to have long conversation with your brother asking him why he feels this way and what both of you can do to make it better.