Poll: My Love Triangle Help!!!
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Let's go with "a combination of passion, intimacy, and commitment - with a good helping of respect." I'm simplifying here but you also want to be, on an important level, equals with your significant other. That's why you call your romantic interests "partners" afterall.Sewblon said:
I hope you can't say that for chocolate and your computer.
That's "Astute."UpSkirtDistress said:
I'm the kind of guy that sits in my underground doom bunker all day and thinks of survival plans while not installing miniguns and gas turbine engines into my car, so I'd pretend this is a choose your own adventure book and develop a contingency plan.
The worst choice here is to choose one definitively over the other, as you seem to suggest is the only option, as that would give you a 50/50 chance of hitting it off great or being all by your lonesome at square 1 if you botch anything. Breaking up with your current girl would produce this effect, as the rejection would ruin any future chance you have with her.
I would continue to see your original girl, and if it works out, then hey, you made the right choice. But it would also be wise to stay close to Girl #2, just close enough to keep her in a state of interest, so that if at any point you botch your relationship with Girl #1 you can fall back on #2.
Furthermore, if you later choose #2 over #1, you should be sure to break up with #1 under harsh, stressful circumstances not connected to your relationship, so that if you decide you want to to get back with #1 after hooking up with #2 you have some material to bullshit your way back into her life with. "I lost my job and my dog died and I was addicted to Heroine pity me!" will do a lot more for your chances than "Yeah so the sex got boring."
If you're really slick, you can just marry each one and then move to Indonesia.
You could always just stop whoring yourself around. You can't just play both of them, that's jacked up. But, if you have a good thing going, than you shouldn't feel the need to pursue anybody else.
And you really should be glad that your girlfriend isn't an alchoholic party monster, she sounds pretty lenient to let you have such a close relationship with this other chick. If your so close to her and her family than why even consider doing this? You say that you're still very happy with the way things are between you and her, I know that people always expect something better is passing it by, but please just be rational in your decision....
I know whats best for you...
And you really should be glad that your girlfriend isn't an alchoholic party monster, she sounds pretty lenient to let you have such a close relationship with this other chick. If your so close to her and her family than why even consider doing this? You say that you're still very happy with the way things are between you and her, I know that people always expect something better is passing it by, but please just be rational in your decision....
I know whats best for you...
I'm sorry but it seems if you even felt the need to post this that inside you know what you really want, I believe its the other girl. If you were truly happy with your current girlfriend there would be no trouble therefore no need to post. So I say give yourself a chance at a happier situation and take the leap.
Or you can do what Jonathan Rhys Meyers did in Match Point...300lb. Samoan said:
Marry your girlfriend while secretly having an affair with the other woman, wait until the mistress is pregnant, promise to leave your girlfriend for her, but then murder her and make it look like a botched robbery. Flip a coin to see if you get away with it.
Your post is highly constructive and well thought out. (Beats the your an asshole posts,if someone knew the full story and wishes to say so that would be a different matter) I think your right i'm just feeling weird bout being in such a long relationship if its meant to be its meant to be only time will tell.steveo_justice said:
Stay with your current girlfriend... I had this same problem... And I ended up going with the other girl... those feelings I had for her... well she just wanted to see who she can date and who she can't date... The old girl I kinda with I could still have her now... I regret it everyday...
I suppose you have a point. Even if he had dumped her only because he knew that he was having thoughts about other girls and he didn't think that he could be good enough to her, it would seem like he was simply rejecting her.ThrobbingEgo said:
Okay, that's one more hour I'm going to be sitting around, thinking about this thread.
Stick with your girlfriend, dude. You love her and she loves you and if you want it to stay that way, you're gonna have to forget about being with that other chick. Yes, she has qualities your girlfriend doesn't but that's not what love is about. It's not like you?re on a used car lot saying "Yeah, this car has great safety features, lots of room and is a great deal at this price, but I want that one with the flames!" If you love someone, you have to love everything about them. You can't have a perfect life; you have to take the bitter with the sweet. I don't know you, bro but I can tell you're a nice guy and you clearly want to do the right thing. But in order to do that, you have to think about everyone involved. Yes, this girl has feelings for you and you have feelings for her, but if you base your life solely on feelings hardly anything?s gonna work out. She's a great friend, and that's a role she can fill without compromising your relationship with your girlfriend. Not to mention that since you've been with this girl previously and it didn't work out exactly the way you wanted, there's no guarantee that it'll work this time. If you leave the woman you love you may never be able to retain a relationship with her as a friend. It takes more than duct tape to mend a broken heart. Leave your girlfriend and you'll be throwing away everything you two had. All the days spent sharing laughs will turn into empty "How you been?"s every time you see her, all the nights you fell asleep in each others arms will make your bed feel cold in the middle of summer, every single "I love you" will be remembered as nothing more than a hollow, cowardly lie. What I'm trying to say is could you live with yourself? Think about it.
