Poll: No children: a turn-off?

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

in the OP, you said they aren't the "one", so why the hell would i continue on with the relationship at all? they don't want kids and dont want marriage, so why should i be with them besides an occasional booty call?

This answer keeps popping up.
Does no one really initiate a relationship without honestly believing the partner is "the one"?
I mean, most people have had more than one relationship in their life: thinking a partner is "the one" without having been together for a good while sounds rather naïve.

if i don't see myself possibly(and this is a loose probably) with the person 3 weeks/months/years down the line, then there isn't any point in me being in a relationship with them, if they want the occasional booty call or something as such, then fine, but i really don't see the point in being with someone if they are in fact NOT the one, or possible of being the one, and they don't want kids/marriage (obviously marriage since they aren't the one and don't want kids)

 

[Raiha]

i truly never want to have kids. absolutely no part of having a child appeals to me. it is becoming increasingly difficult to find a suitable mate who shares in this feeling.

 

[Reptiloid]

Oranges all the way! I fucking love oranges man!

But they have to be refrigerator temperature... mmm, cold, juicy orangy goodness. Room temperature oranges are for casuals.

 

[TheTim]

I wouldn't mind a short relationship with her, but i wouldn't even consider marriage. Of course i want kids, i want to be able to give my daughter away in marriage some day, or watch my son marry the woman of his dreams.

 

[Olivia Faraday]

It would affect my choice to date someone insofar as that I would never consider dating a man who DID want children. I can consider no darker future for myself than one that involves little shits that command your life for ten years, then hate you for ten years, and then move to New York and never call. No thank you.

Not knocking it for those who are interested, but I can't even describe how much I loathe children. Anyone who eventually wants them is a write-off for me, because it would eventually destroy us.

 

[PunkyMcGee]

hormones change procreation becomes a more biological urge when your in your 30's than in your teens.

but to answer your question it really depends on why. if it's financial then that makes sense. if it's a hatred of kids than I want nothing to do with that relationship.

 

[DustyDrB]

in the OP, you said they aren't the "one", so why the hell would i continue on with the relationship at all? they don't want kids and dont want marriage, so why should i be with them besides an occasional booty call?

This answer keeps popping up.
Does no one really initiate a relationship without honestly believing the partner is "the one"?
I mean, most people have had more than one relationship in their life: thinking a partner is "the one" without having been together for a good while sounds rather naïve.

if i don't see myself possibly(and this is a loose probably) with the person 3 weeks/months/years down the line, then there isn't any point in me being in a relationship with them, if they want the occasional booty call or something as such, then fine, but i really don't see the point in being with someone if they are in fact NOT the one, or possible of being the one, and they don't want kids/marriage (obviously marriage since they aren't the one and don't want kids)

I get that point of view, but it's not how I think. Some relationships are meant to last a lifetime, and some just a few weeks. I've been in several relationships where I knew there was no chance we'd ever get married and that our lives were going in very different directions. But why not just enjoy the time you have? Might as well make some good memories.

 

[CthulhuMessiah]

All I have to say is FUCK THAT SHIT! I eventually want to have kids and could not see myself dating somebody who did not. I also could not see myself dating something that I didnt think I would be with in a year or two. If something is not going to last then what is the point in continueing on with it. The kids thing isnt a major dealbreaker though because people do change their mind and if they dont well "accidents" can happen.

I really hope you're not saying what I'm thing.

OT: I loath children. If I somehow get into the perfect relationship where I get married, I might adopt. There's enough unloved children already here, why would I bring even more here?

 

[TheBestPieEver]

Depending of the type of relationship I want to have with them It would or wouldn't. If I am aiming at something more serious: yes it would.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

in the OP, you said they aren't the "one", so why the hell would i continue on with the relationship at all? they don't want kids and dont want marriage, so why should i be with them besides an occasional booty call?

This answer keeps popping up.
Does no one really initiate a relationship without honestly believing the partner is "the one"?
I mean, most people have had more than one relationship in their life: thinking a partner is "the one" without having been together for a good while sounds rather naïve.

if i don't see myself possibly(and this is a loose probably) with the person 3 weeks/months/years down the line, then there isn't any point in me being in a relationship with them, if they want the occasional booty call or something as such, then fine, but i really don't see the point in being with someone if they are in fact NOT the one, or possible of being the one, and they don't want kids/marriage (obviously marriage since they aren't the one and don't want kids)

I get that point of view, but it's not how I think. Some relationships are meant to last a lifetime, and some just a few weeks. I've been in several relationships where I knew there was no chance we'd ever get married and that our lives were going in very different directions. But why not just enjoy the time you have? Might as well make some good memories.

understandable, but in my point of view, i don't need to make a relationship out of it, we can hang out, have fun, maybe some sexual fun if the tension is there, and then go about our ways just fine (did this last year actually, and yeah it worked out just fine.)

 

[PureChaos]

i would like children so would prefer to be with someone that wanted the, too, but if i met someone that didn't want them, i'd be disappointed they didn't want them but i wouldn't leave them because of it

 

[crepesack]

When you're older, having children is one of those goals. You're asking high schoolers/people in college right now. You're not going to get a real answer.

 

[lacktheknack]

I want kids. I'd like several of them. And I'm not going to enter a relationship with someone who want zero kids.

 

[Heaven's Guardian]

It definitely would, but then I reject part of your premise; I would never date anyone I wouldn't consider long-term plans with and certainly never anyone I could already tell isn't the "one". So under that premise, I don't think it would be too much of a problem. That said, as much as I don't particularly feel like caring for children now, older me would almost certainly not have that reluctance. Same as for most of the voters here, I believe; Late-teenage to early-twenty year old males are not usually all that enthusiastic about kids. and that is the major demographic here. That will change for a lot of people as they get older, though.

 

[Ledan]

Well i don't want kids for at least another 12-14 years, so it wouldn't be a problem for me. People change a lot in that amount of time, and by then we should have those artificial wombs working properly.

 

[FamoFunk]

Yup, turn off here.

Mainly because I already have a child, even though I'm still with her Father, if anything were to happen, I'd like one more whenever the time may be.

 

[lettucethesallad]

Girl here, and it'd be a turn on. I started dating a guy who'd broken up with his ex because she wanted them to move in together and have kids. Great, I thought, we're on the same page. About a year later he started dropping subtle hints about him wanting to have them and I felt seriously disappointed.

I don't get why people have such a hard time imagining that kids aren't the dream of every woman out there. I don't like them, I wouldn't have the time for them and I don't want them. I'm not even sure I'd be a good parent at all.