Poll: No children: a turn-off?

[Colour Scientist]

Well, if I know that I'd never want to have children with this person then I don't see why it would affect the relationship.

I'd like to have kids someday but not with every Tom, Dick (hurrhurr) and Harry that comes along. Women don't enter every relationship thinking 'Babies, babies, babies, babies.' If it's just a casual relationship I don't see it mattering too much.

 

[SH4DOWSL4Y3R]

I honestly could never trust myself to raise a child. having aspergers, i lack most of the core ability to appear loving and i don't think i'd honestly want to raise a child having them believe i care nothing for them just because it's the way my mind works.

i do realise this probably makes very little sense, it's difficult to explain.

As a disclaimer, i think i'd have to say that being relatively young my opinion is highly likely to be subject to change later on in life.

Edit: i guess i could also add in the fact that i generally do not like children at all anyway. especially babies. although i'd still say the above disclaimer could still be applied to this as well.

 

[crazyarms33]

I want kids ultimately. When that happens is up to me and the lady, it is her vagina after all. But I wouldn't want to date someone and fall in love only to have to break up over something I knew about going into the relationship. I wouldn't ask her to change for me and I wouldn't want to change for her. As for adoption I'm meh on it. My best friend is adopted and he says it basically sucks until you learn to cope with it which he did...at age 24.

 

[JoesshittyOs]

If I met a girl who didn't want kids? Sure, I'd be able to deal with it. I doubt it would affect my attraction of her if she really was "the one".

Honestly, I'm almost 19 and the prospect of even settling down with a girl baffles my mind. Not that I desire to be a loose cannon throughout my years, it's just that I still feel like a kid. I love kids, but imagining having my own? Freaks me out.

 

[Zoe Castillo]

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[Bobbity]

I don't understand why the population of the Escapist hates kids so much. Yeah, that would be a massive turn off for me.

 

[solemnwar]

I cannot stand kids, so I wouldn't mind in the least lol

 

[Imperium9990]

I'm fine either way. If she wants to have kids; cool. If she doesn't that's fine too. If I have a problem with that down the road I'll donate sperm.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

I'm fine either way, if she wants them then cool if she doesn't fine, it is the same with getting married. I would also rather adopt then get her pregnant if she does want kids.

 

[michiehoward]

If my husband had told me early in our relationship that he did not want children in future and was fairly certain he would not change is mind then I would have ended the relationship before it got to serious, as I knew from an early age that I wanted to have children at some point.

 

[Faladorian]

If they ever, and I mean EVER want children, they might as well be invisible to me.

The desire to have children is one of the biggest turn-offs imaginable.

 

[kasperbbs]

I wouldn't care either way, i'm fine with not having kids and if she decided that she wants one eventually thats fine too. Only thing that would be a turn off for me is if she decided that she wants more than two.

 

[Mouse_Crouse]

There's commitment involved, but you don't consider them to be "the one"

Why in the world would I waste my time in a "commited" relationship if I didn't think they were "the one"? Why waste your time on someone you KNOW isn't?

 

[Westaway]

Well, I fucking hate kids so I'd marry them.

 

[Anaklusmos]

I could go either way, I could see myself as a father and a good dad, but it's not like I have a burning passion to be a dad, and I could also see myself as just spending the rest of my life with the woman that I love having it pretty easy and doing whatever the hell we want.

 

[Kinokohatake]

I don't understand the people who say they hate kids. I really don't get it. But yeah, I have 3. But an ex of mine said she didn't and we ended up breaking up. That was one of the reasons. The main reason is that she is becoming a he so....creepy.

 

[Mr.Mattress]

I don't really want kids because I feel like I wouldn't be the best father, but if a Girl I dated wanted to have them, it wouldn't affect me either way. Although I've never dated IRL cause I am not attracted to anyone I know here... So, make of that what you will...

 

[Jonluw]

There's commitment involved, but you don't consider them to be "the one"

Why in the world would I waste my time in a "commited" relationship if I didn't think they were "the one"? Why waste your time on someone you KNOW isn't?

To quote myself:

This answer keeps popping up.
Does no one really initiate a relationship without honestly believing the partner is "the one"?
I mean, most people have had more than one relationship in their life: thinking a partner is "the one" without having been together for a good while sounds rather naïve.

What I was getting at wasn't really that you were supposed to feel the person wasn't really for you in the scenario.
The idea was basically that you like the person, but if you're going to look at it logically, the chances of you ending up married are minsicule.
Sort of a high-school romance scenario if you will.

 

[Mouse_Crouse]

The idea was basically that you like the person, but if you're going to look at it logically, the chances of you ending up married are minsicule.
Sort of a high-school romance scenario if you will.

I'm probably the wrong person to ask, I married my high school girlfriend and we have 6 children. But I think I see what you mean now. I would imagine for me it would be a huge problem I couldn't imagine not having children. (Even before having them).