Poll: Pleasure in sex ed

[emeraldrafael]

no, cause everyone is different, and thats going abit too far.

Sex Ed doesnt have to be treated like it was in Van Wilder: Freshman Year (not going to post it cause I'm not sure if I would get banned) but it doesnt have to be a class on pornography and specifics.

 

[The Gray Train]

um, wouldn't that kind of defeat the purpose of sex ed?

"So kids, we want you to be careful out there, so here's how to avoid complications. Choose youre partner carefully, don't just jump into any old bed. Use protection, like penis gloves. Just to make sure you get the message here's some awful slides. Now, here's how you make sex FREAKIN' AMAZING!"

 

[standokan]

As if sex ed wasn´t awkward enough already

 

[xXGeckoXx]

Hiya escapists.

I was reading a newspaper article a little while ago, and the lady who wrote it referenced what had apparently been a recent debate: Whether to teach 'how to do it right' in sex education. In other words, where and how to touch in order to be a good sexual partner. The author of the article focused particularly on stimulating the clitoris.

I didn't catch this debate myself, nor do I know how big a deal it was, so I'll ask you:
Do you think sexual pleasure and perfomance should be a part of the sex-ed curriculum?

Spoiler: Personal opinion stuff. Spoilered for neatness

Personally, I don't think it's necessary. I wouldn't really have anything against it, but I think how well the students perform in the bedroom is outside of the school's domain.
Besides, in a worst case scenario would we risk standardizing sex? No experimentation or individuality, just following the instructions we were given at school?

In any case, I figure it could be useful if the teacher pointed at a chart and said "Here's the clitoris. Pay attention to it." "And here's the glans. Try not to bite it. You know, unless he's into that kind of stuff..."
So they have a basic understanding of what they're doing at least.

My favorite approach on the is from the woody allen movie Sleeper.

Luna Schlosser: I'm great physically. I got a Ph.D. in oral sex.
Miles Monroe: Yeah, they make you take any Spanish with that?

 

[SirDoom]

No.

Sex Ed is how to practice safe sex and how to avoid the dangers that sexual contact can have. It's not supposed to be a Karma Sutra lesson.

Have you seen current sex ed classes? It's not about dangers and safety precautions. It's about "If you so much as even glance at an unexposed breast out of the corner of your eye, you will DIE," followed by some rant about how condoms are completely 100% unreliable in all cases, and so on.

That's not what I had... I had the scientific video with drawings of people with the bodily organs mapped out, and then a couple years later, a far more disturbing video about an anthropomorphic condom telling us of the dangers of unprotected sex.

See, I had the "sex be bad, m'kay" thing, followed by the words "Oh, if you do ignore all our warnings and have sex, your condom won't work, but you should still use it thing."

Really, more time was spent on saying why you shouldn't do anything even with a condom than why you should use one if you do decide to have a little fun.

"They say condoms work 99% of the time. But that's based on testing done with condoms kept in the perfect environment. Where do most guys keep their condoms? In their wallet. Do you know how much damage that does? Being sat on, thrown around, often in high temperatures. That lowers the effectiveness a lot, even to as low as 70%. Would you accept a flight on a plane that only crashes 30% of the time? Because that's what you're doing when using a condom! Sure, it'll probably get ya there in one piece, but there's a 30% chance that it'll kill you."

But the one thing they did go into detail on was the different STDs, which one did what, and how many people in the general area had them (Even having a good estimate of how many people in our school had one).
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I heard from someone with a different health teacher at the same school that they spent their class time making penises from modelling clay though, so I think that your mileage may vary based on teacher.

 

[Tiger Sora]

This is a school thing not a program at the community center. ^_^ <.<

I don't know why I said it...

 

[Thundero13]

Sex-ed? That actually exists? Is it an ordianary class or a once-off class? Does it talk about gay sex aswell?

The answer to all those questions depends on where you're from.

It's not a regular subject though. It's just sort of inserted (snicker) into biology or health class or whatever once in a while. That is, it's more like a one-off class, but it comes back a couple of times.

I think I had my first sex-ed class when I was 11, and then I had a couple more between 13 and 15.

Oh right, we actually have done that, in science class about the reproductive system, and in SPHE about pregnancy, didn't call it sex-ed though.

 

[fingerbang143]

I think showing where the G spot is located could be fine

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

No. That's just strange, and way out of what a school's jurisdiction should be. And also, what if someone in the class is gay? Do we teach a gay male how to please another male in front of everyone else? Or a girl how to pleasure another girl? That could be incredibly embarrassing, especially if some particularly intolerant students were in the same class.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

Do you really want, everytime your partner orgasmed, to be thinking of your old school teacher and how they helped accomplish this feat?

 

[BehattedWanderer]

Some things need to be learned on your own. They could give you pointers, tips, tricks, and safety, then tell you that there might also be an emotional component to the pleasure. Show me a curriculum that gives great tips on cunnilingus, and I will respond with "that's a great idea!" But, it brings the idea of that terrible joke of "oral exam" way out of a strange joke and into performance. Nifty.

 

[Dango]

No. That'd just be stupid, not to mention it would most likely encourage younger sex which would lead to more teenage pregnancies, which is the opposite of what sex ed is supposed to do.

 

[RamirezDoEverything]

No, because it's awkward enough.

Sex-ed is about preventing or at least to keep sex safe for kids.

Promoting and teaching pleasure would only spur kids to try it sooner.

 

[Mikeyfell]

Yes they should teach oral sex in sex ed.
Because if you don't know how that can literally be your entire evening

It's not hard to learn but it may destroy your self esteem if you can't get it right the first time.

I am speaking from a strait male perspective.

Pleasing a guy is easy

 

[Friendshipandmagic]

No. I don't want a child of mine being told by somebody I don't know how to be good at sex.

This, people should learn about that through experimentation with safe partners. Thats the natural way.

 

[Mimssy]

I'm really only bothered by the thought because not everyone works the same. If you want to learn what pleases your partner, talk to him/her and work at it together.

 

[Ham_authority95]

Sex-ed? That actually exists? Is it an ordianary class or a once-off class? Does it talk about gay sex aswell?

Where the fuck do you live that doesn't have Sex-ed? It exists in most developed countries...

 

[MidnightCat]

And once again I am reminded of the terrifying Health Ed class I had in Year 9 in which our teacher, in her late fifties or early sixties, told us all about what she likes her husband to do to her during foreplay.

The horror.

In response - I think that the pleasurable aspects of sex should be covered to some degree, depending on the receptiveness of the class. But in general it's largely something the students will need to work out for themselves, as different people tend to enjoy different things.

 

[gamer_parent]

I actually think that while the how to's of sex might not need that much attention, the importance of pleasure should be understood. Current sex ed teaches you how to protect yourself, but even then doesn't necessarily fosters healthy sexual attitudes.