Poll: Pleasure in sex ed
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I agree with the OP pretty much wholeheartedly. If you get the basic concept, I don't think further instruction is really necessary. Might not hurt to mention ideas like paying attention to the other party and being explicit about what you like and don't like.
On the other hand, a lot of sex eds seems to go far too far in the opposite direction, speaking about sexual biology and/or (if they're lucky) contraceptives and completely avoiding actually mentioning sex. This main product of this strategy seems to be embarassment for these people later on.
(The bit about standardizing sex seemed more than a little bit outlandish to me.)
On the other hand, a lot of sex eds seems to go far too far in the opposite direction, speaking about sexual biology and/or (if they're lucky) contraceptives and completely avoiding actually mentioning sex. This main product of this strategy seems to be embarassment for these people later on.
(The bit about standardizing sex seemed more than a little bit outlandish to me.)
The first step would be to introduce such a thing in Greece. There is NO sex ed whatsoever here. At least I had fun figuring out how it all worked myself...
Schools have no right to educate the younger minds about sex. I say this because Sex is a family matter, and when it comes to sexual education, it is for the younger generations to learn by themselves (Starting at 16 of course). Should they learn how to pleasure their sexual partner though? No they shouldn't, because that is what mistakes are for. Would you like it if you were told how to screw your Lover, someone eyeing over you making sure you were getting it right? No! That is for you and your lover to decide, both what to do and who to allow in that circle. If you prefer to have lessons, than go to a studio, just don't force everyone elses kid to learn the same thing.
I believe Chef from South Park, voiced by beloved Isaac Hayes (Rest in Peace) said the same thing (roughly).
I believe Chef from South Park, voiced by beloved Isaac Hayes (Rest in Peace) said the same thing (roughly).
I absolutely think it should be addressed in some form. I'm not talking about standardizing the experience, I mean that it shouldn't be so taboo. Why shouldn't a student be able to ask questions about pleasuring your partner?
As an earlier topic noted, a lot of sex education cases are getting things wrong already. And while getting things wrong on the pleasure level is more likely to cause someone not to want to sleep with you again than cause someone to get pregnant or sick, I still don't see a lot of reason to turn the curriculum over.
Further, no matter what some might like to claim, sexual pleasure is not a "one size fits all" kind of thing. There are some broad suggestions that usually apply, but there's a lot of variation among people.
Like many other things, such "teaching" could lead the student to believe that they were amply prepared and have them be dead wrong.
Further, no matter what some might like to claim, sexual pleasure is not a "one size fits all" kind of thing. There are some broad suggestions that usually apply, but there's a lot of variation among people.
Like many other things, such "teaching" could lead the student to believe that they were amply prepared and have them be dead wrong.
there's no real way to teach that because everyone has different likes and dislikes. if they gave pointers in leaflets handed out that also have the basic safe sex points in them, that might work, but you cant exactly say 'if they dont seem to like it, shove it up their arse.' because not everyone likes anal.
My god the Big Red Button makes this thread weird.....
I wouldn't anything against it, but agree with the OP in that it isn't really necessary.
I wouldn't anything against it, but agree with the OP in that it isn't really necessary.
Jonluw said:I sort of wish we Norwegians could be more like you Danes on some points.Napierdalac said:Gosh i allways love reading these kind of topics here on the Escapist.
In my sex-ed class, we learned about everything. From diseases to anal sex. Actually we watched a movie that was about 2 hours long, where one hour was a guideline in having fun, stimulating and safe sex. And yes, that movie showed us positions also. From missionary to the jackhammer.
And you know what? None of us, was uncomfortable with it. Because if your raised in a place where you ain't scared of the human body, the human body is a beautiful thing.
God i love being scandinavian.
I mean, the basic stereotype of a Dane is basically a nudist.
HAhaha! I am pretty sure I watched the same movie in like... 7th grade XD Now I live in America and sex ed over here is SOOO different!
Maybe a bit. I would have just loved to have known what the clitoric was when I started my "career". Then agin, finding out is the fun part.
Sex-ed? That actually exists? Is it an ordianary class or a once-off class? Does it talk about gay sex aswell?
So, you're advocating teaching ALL sexual practices?
Including the ones you don't partake in? I can see that going down well.
Including the ones you don't partake in? I can see that going down well.