Poll: Pornstar - Would you consider having a relationship with one?

[Canton]

Well the OP did say that the theoretical pornstar in question would satisfy all my criteria for an ideal partner so. . . YES.


I would insist however that if she chooses to continue her career, that I be a costar in all of her projects. I like to think my equipment is substantial enough for the job. XD

 

[Ben Legend]

Gonna have to say no, my girlfriend wouldn't agree.

But, na, I wouldn't go out with them. It would just feel wrong on so many levels.

 

[Sir Subtle]

Why not? Itd be a story to tell - actually I think it'd be worse if she quit being a porn star because then the relationship would have to get serious. Also, if she does upmarket porn it should mean that she gets tested for STDs regularly; a plus.

 

[RIOgreatescapist]

A decent sex education class, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[JanatUrlich]

Wouldn't matter to me either way! I wouldn't want them to quit or anything.

 

[Jamash]

Meh, Porn-star/Film-star/Pop-star... I wouldn't really want to date anyone in the public eye.

Psychologically, I'm just not cut out to share the love of my life with the masses.

If I was in a relationship with someone famous, even a minor celebrity, I would have to avoid all form of public opinion (internet, newspapers, magazines, TV, radio etc.) in case I heard/read anything negative about my beloved, and became incandescent with rage and the desire to defend her honour.

I'm too protective, possessive and tend to put people on pedestals, I'm just not cut out for that shit.

 

[Arc_Light]

Don't know if i'd call it a relationship.....

 

[Jeronus]

No, because she would be sleeping with other guys for a living and chances are they would be much better looking and more well equipped than I am. I would wonder if I am really doing it for her or she was just going through the motions.

 

[rddj623]

Sure, people do things in their past all the time that we have to get past in relationships. I would definitely need her to quit though. The chances of her contracting an STD if she doesn't already have one are very high if she stays in the "industry". Though I am dating the girl of my dreams so this whole theoretical is mute.

 

[rddj623]

Meh, Porn-star/Film-star/Pop-star... I wouldn't really want to date anyone in the public eye.

Psychologically, I'm just not cut out to share the love of my life with the masses.

If I was in a relationship with someone famous, even a minor celebrity, I would have to avoid all form of public opinion (internet, newspapers, magazines, TV, radio etc.) in case I heard/read anything negative about my beloved, and became incandescent with rage and the desire to defend her honour.

I'm too protective, possessive and tend to put people on pedestals, I'm just not cut out for that shit.

What a very honest self assertation!

 

[DoW Lowen]

Well.... does she put out?

 

[Doug]

If its in the past or she's retiring from pornstaring, then yeah, I'd date one. I couldn't be with an active pornstar, I don't think, nor a hooker - even from the high class safe and clean brothels.

But hey, I won't begrudge anyone who thinks they can handle that. Though I would advice STD checks on yourself before you start - she'll already have had them, and you don't want to infect alot of people.

 

[Kurokami]

Okay, so here's the scenario: You have a favorite pornstar, or maybe not a favorite, but you know for certain one pornstar, that you constantly watch videos of and think that she's REALLY hot and stuff... Than you meet her at a bar/restaurant whatever. And you like each other and the next step is a relationship... You see that she's willing to be in a relationship with you and she promisses you that she will quit her profession (Only if you preffer it, if it doesn't matter to you then she does no such thing). What would you do? Would you say "Hell, it doesn't matter to me if she's a pornstar or not, I like her!", Or would you be like: "Hell NO! That's gross! I wouldn't kiss that filthy mouth,that I've watched do stuff I never even imagened!" ? I wanna hear your opinions.

And PLEASE no "Well it depends on what kinda person she is, do I like her that much and blah blah blah." No "deppends on"! Everything is perfect about her and she suits you perfectly, the only con is that she is a pornstar! Just a "yes" or a "no" would be enough. You may explain the reasons as to WHY Yes or No, but no double-opinions of the sort.

Edit: I forgot to mention my opinion, which is: YES, I would, because I am an open-minded person and I don't care what she is as long as I like her. I would require her to quit being a pornstar though. As open-minded as I am, I am still a jelous bastard xD And besides, she would probably be rich or smth - double win! xD

I'm a fairly distrusting person, I have problems with normal relationships so having one with a pornstar would probably be quite an issue for me, on the other hand if she really loves it than who am I to deny her the job.

 

[Doug]

Well.... does she put out?

Actually, I wouldn't have thought so. I mean, she's had a long day at work, and the last thing she needs is more of the same at home...(whistles innocently)

 

[n00beffect]

YES, I would, because I am an open-minded person and I don't care what she is as long as I like her. I would require her to quit being a pornstar though.

You are clearly not suitable for such a relationship. Dating someone and trying to change their career (whatever it is) makes you one of the worst possible types of partners that can ever exist for anybody. If you're the jealous type, don't date a pornstar in the first place. Period. Can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen, etc.

Onto the question and I've actually dated people who have sex for a living, so the answer for me is obviously yes.

Spoiler: and here is what such a relationship is actually like...

People who do something (anything) as a day job tend to not like to also do that same thing a lot after-hours. Professional cooks don't tend to cook at home at all. Professional musicians will never "come to your house for a jam", they will only pick up and play their instrument when songwriting or performing. And girls who are in porn films tend to not have sex a lot outside that, and when they do, their preference is for really romantic lovemaking with lots of foreplay, and their favourite sexual position is missionary - with the lights off.

Okay, first off I wouldn't TRY and change her career, the scenario I explained is that SHE HERSELF is willing to give it up. Now I don't know, how your relationships usually go, but there's something called SACRIFICE for another person. Her sacrificing her career would be completely normal, since most of them start this type of career, because of low self esteem and daddy issues. If I'm here to fill in the blanks in that girl's heart, would render her career completely pointless and give her an opportunity to actually do what she WANTS or HAS ALWAYS WANTED to do. Because, you as a person who has dated a pornstar yourself should know, that these people usually have dreams, goals that they tend do reach one day or fullfil. Goals nad dreams that do not include several penises up their rectum(usually, maybe there are exceptions dunno xD). Atleast that's what I think. I may be wrong and You may be right. But that's my opinion on the whole matter.

 

[BonsaiK]

YES, I would, because I am an open-minded person and I don't care what she is as long as I like her. I would require her to quit being a pornstar though.

You are clearly not suitable for such a relationship. Dating someone and trying to change their career (whatever it is) makes you one of the worst possible types of partners that can ever exist for anybody. If you're the jealous type, don't date a pornstar in the first place. Period. Can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen, etc.

Onto the question and I've actually dated people who have sex for a living, so the answer for me is obviously yes.

Spoiler: and here is what such a relationship is actually like...

People who do something (anything) as a day job tend to not like to also do that same thing a lot after-hours. Professional cooks don't tend to cook at home at all. Professional musicians will never "come to your house for a jam", they will only pick up and play their instrument when songwriting or performing. And girls who are in porn films tend to not have sex a lot outside that, and when they do, their preference is for really romantic lovemaking with lots of foreplay, and their favourite sexual position is missionary - with the lights off.

Okay, first off I wouldn't TRY and change her career, the scenario I explained is that SHE HERSELF is willing to give it up. Now I don't know, how your relationships usually go, but there's something called SACRIFICE for another person. Her sacrificing her career would be completely normal, since most of them start this type of career, because of low self esteem and daddy issues. If I'm here to fill in the blanks in that girl's heart, would render her career completely pointless and give her an opportunity to actually do what she WANTS or HAS ALWAYS WANTED to do. Because, you as a person who has dated a pornstar yourself should know, that these people usually have dreams, goals that they tend do reach one day or fullfil. Goals nad dreams that do not include several penises up their rectum(usually, maybe there are exceptions dunno xD). Atleast that's what I think. I may be wrong and You may be right. But that's my opinion on the whole matter.

The idea of the pornstar as the hapless victim being led down the evil path of pornography as a way to substitute or compensate for the approval or love she never had while growing up is a good device to tug the heartstrings in Hollywood films, but the average adult industry worker is typically a lot less naive than that. The few who really are that naive don't tend to last long, because let's face it, anyone looking for those things in the porn industry is looking in the wrong place and will quickly realise it. Most girls who work in porn do so because they see the potential to make a lot of money very quickly, or conversely, to make a reasonable amount of money while working very few hours compared to the average worker. They are there generally because they want to be there. Do they all unconditionally love every aspect of what they do? Generally, no (mind you this applies to almost all people in almost all jobs). However, they've assessed the situation, and decided for whatever reason that in this particular case the rewards outweigh the pitfalls.

For a guy to then step in and say "if I'm here to fill in the blanks in that girl's heart, it would render her career completely pointless" is naive. It's more than likely that she's not in the business to fill in those particular blanks. She's probably more interested in trying to fill in the blanks in her chequebook.

 

[BonsaiK]

- She is probably stretched beyond imagining.

No more than someone who has recently been a mother.

That seems hella stretched

Not really. I'll spare you the sex ed class but it's not the big deal that locker-room mentality guys make it seem.

 

[BonsaiK]

Not really. I'll spare you the sex ed class but it's not the big deal that locker-room mentality guys make it seem.

Now, I would take this chance to point out that I am not a teenager, and I am not unsuccesful or inexperienced. My going on this forum is a bit of an enigma in my life - hence my only having about 3k posts over what's just about been two years on this site - I am in reality quite succesful in these areas - for one thing I've never had to, or felt the need to, associate with sex workers, let alone date them.

Verily I have been with women in many countries and, while I don't want to sound like I consider that to be a notch on my belt, I will say that what you disregard is actually, to me, a big deal - I generally do not enjoy what one might call a 'lose', or 'stretched' area very much.

You might wonder why I wrote that - basically I'm worried that someone who dated a prostitute is implying that they have something along the lines of a 'sex ed class' to give me about sexual maturity.

Oh come on, you just called women in the porn industry "hella streched"! To me that phrase alone implies a sexually immature outlook, regardless of what experiences you might've had. Sexual maturity is about being sexually mature, not just physically but also when discussing these issues.

I am not going to participate in this discussion any further because I fear that the natural ebb and flow of the topic is leading precariously into un-moderator friendly territory.