Personally, I feel that the primary arguments against premarital sex are based around an outdated need.
Before, there was either painful or unreliable birth at best. There was also this absurd value in taking a woman's virginity. In the modern era, the primary concerns with having premarital sex are somewhat moot. There are plenty of ways to keep sex safe and enjoyable for both sides (in my case, I've only had sex with one person so far and we both got tested so that we could stay safe). I'm also hoping that we've grown past the cultural idea of the hymen being some sort of mystical prize.
In my opinion, premarital sex is something you and your partner should decide together. My way of going about a relationship is very all-in. We find out if we're compatible, we decide to proclaim ourselves as a couple, and then I'm all in.
My goal in a relationship is not to find a sexual companion. I'm looking for a life partner.
Sex, for me, is something that is very intimate and very personal. I feel rather vulnerable when in engaging in the act. I prefer whomever I'm with to see me at my most vulnerable, whether it be physically, emotionally, or anything else at least once before they commit. At the point I'm willing to have sex with someone, I'm already committed to them.
Marriage is mostly just a formality in my book. Something to get those who particularly care off our backs or that the less resolute use as an escape if they feel like they can't handle fully committing.
As for virginity. That ship has sailed for me. I've heard that a woman's first time can be rather painful depending on the individual. Potentially causing my partner pain on my way to sex sounds ridiculously awful to me. I hate causing people that I barely know pain, and this is someone I'd have to be willing to be rather intimate with and care deeply for!
Before, there was either painful or unreliable birth at best. There was also this absurd value in taking a woman's virginity. In the modern era, the primary concerns with having premarital sex are somewhat moot. There are plenty of ways to keep sex safe and enjoyable for both sides (in my case, I've only had sex with one person so far and we both got tested so that we could stay safe). I'm also hoping that we've grown past the cultural idea of the hymen being some sort of mystical prize.
In my opinion, premarital sex is something you and your partner should decide together. My way of going about a relationship is very all-in. We find out if we're compatible, we decide to proclaim ourselves as a couple, and then I'm all in.
My goal in a relationship is not to find a sexual companion. I'm looking for a life partner.
Sex, for me, is something that is very intimate and very personal. I feel rather vulnerable when in engaging in the act. I prefer whomever I'm with to see me at my most vulnerable, whether it be physically, emotionally, or anything else at least once before they commit. At the point I'm willing to have sex with someone, I'm already committed to them.
Marriage is mostly just a formality in my book. Something to get those who particularly care off our backs or that the less resolute use as an escape if they feel like they can't handle fully committing.
As for virginity. That ship has sailed for me. I've heard that a woman's first time can be rather painful depending on the individual. Potentially causing my partner pain on my way to sex sounds ridiculously awful to me. I hate causing people that I barely know pain, and this is someone I'd have to be willing to be rather intimate with and care deeply for!
