Poll: Promiscuity and Attractiveness

[similar.squirrel]

I'm not overly comfortable with the idea of taking somebody's virginity, mainly because of the awkwardness that usually ensues. On the other hand, I've had sex maybe five times in my life so I'm probably inexperienced enough in the ways of actual coitus to disappoint any experienced woman that I sleep with. Foreplay, however..

 

[BlastedTheWorm]

Honestly, I'd say the one who isn't that promiscuous. I'm not saying I only like PUREVIRGINSGAHWFWEGEG, far from it. I would prefer a girl who has some experience, rather than a girl who's a filthy whore.

 

[Sentox6]

I'd probably go with the one that seem to have a certain fondness for significant amounts of sex, and the strength of character to act it out despite the prevailing puritanical norms.

I just wanted to say thanks for making me laugh so much. The way you framed self-gratification as requiring "strength of character" was genuinely hilarious.

 

[DrgoFx]

I could honestly care less but let's take my own experience into play:

My current girlfriend was a virgin before she met me. She trusted me and only me with her virginity. She had done nothing sexual before hand except to herself.

My other possible relationship was with a girl who at the time had done no physical sex, but oral and fingering was well in her experience. If I take the personalities aside because if they were brought into play, my girlfriend would be cheating big time. By physical appearance, I would have still gone with my current girlfriend because although she was a bit overweight at the time of this decision, I could see past that and I saw a beautiful young woman that I could be attracted to. I was right. I was so right.

So basically, I could have gone with the girl that half the time sounded like she was a ditsy blonde which was honestly annoying but had the sexual experience...Or I could go with the girl who I had much more in common with, personally found more attractive but had less sexual experience. I like my choice just fine.

 

[Hagi]

I don't judge promiscuity. But since we're talking about attractiveness and not something more objective I'll have to vote that promiscuity makes a woman less attractive.

Purely for the fact that I'm not promiscuous myself and would find a partner who views things like sex closer to the way I view them more attractive.

 

[BlackStar42]

Since I'm a virgin, I'd prefer it if one of us at least knew what they were doing. Plus, you know that this girl likes sex- why would that make her less attractive?

 

[manic_depressive13]

At the same time, promiscuity in men is considered either a non-issue or a positive trait, while virginity in men is decidedly negative.

Says who? As far as I can tell, the only people who think that male promiscuity is an admirable quality are other males.

50% of the world population, that's who... I never hear women complaining about men being sluts but I hear males and females considering promiscuity in women to be negative, does that mean that all females have a problem with female promiscuity? Absolutely not, but I think it's a bit silly to ask 'says who?' then answer the question yourself revealing that 50% of the world seems to think so from your experiences, and also that I'm just sharing my observations that women have a problem with female promiscuity through what they have said in words, but I have never heard any woman ever criticizing a man for being promiscuous.

Firstly, bogus statistics do not help your argument. What I was attempting to communicate is that promiscuity in males is only a "positive trait" in the opinion of other males, who may admire your success with the opposite sex, but are not themselves looking for a relationship with you. Therefore, presuming you are a heterosexual male, the opinions of other heterosexual males when it comes to your sex life are completely inconsequential.

On the other hand, I have encountered many women who consider promiscuity in both genders to be a negative thing. I have often heard my heterosexual female friends and my homosexual male friends call other males "sluts". While I imagine many people are happy to accept or ignore their (potential) partner's sexual history, I have never heard of someone who considers promiscuity actually desirable unless they are looking for a one night stand. Therefore, my point was when, and IF, it is ever considered a positive trait, it is only by other males who envy of you, but have absolutely no desire to sleep with you themselves.

This is merely an observation based on the values of some individuals I have spoken to in my life. Unfortunately, unlike you, I haven't surveyed the entire fucking world. Rather I was adressing a blanket statement by pointing out that MOST GIRLS (girls being the prospective partners of most males) DO in fact consider male promiscuity to be a negative thing. IN MY EXPERIENCE. I thought this was the obvious inference to be made, but it seems I was wrong. I'm sorry my post was so ambiguous. Next time I will type out three fucking paragraphs for every simple point I make in order to avoid misunderstandings.

 

[Angry_squirrel]

People with more experience tend to be, well more experienced, and therefore better in bed.
That said, I find people with less experience tend to be sweeter, more loyal and committed.
I find the former to be more attractive, but the latter tend to be better for relationships.

Obviously I'm generalizing based on my experiences though

Edit: I added a little

 

[BanicRhys]

It makes her less attractive.

I don't like the idea of indirectly boning that many guys, 1 or 2 I can deal with but not much more than that, not to mention the greater potential for STIs.

 

[BanicRhys]

At the same time, promiscuity in men is considered either a non-issue or a positive trait, while virginity in men is decidedly negative.

That's because a vast majority of the time it's the man that approaches the woman and the man who has to "woo" the woman. Therefore for men, sex is seen as an achievement because of the obstacles they have to overcome.

While women just have to sit back, look pretty and wait for a man that they want to have sex with to come along and chat them up.

This is all in relation to casual sex. So spare me your anger.

 

[Capt. Crankypants]

Personally. I favour girls with a touch of innocence. A pretty summer dress or jeans and t-shirt is preferable to revealing clothing. In potential partners I mean, I'd never dream of trying to tell girls what to wear, and they can be nice to look at. But yeah, overall, I'd prefer fewer previous sexual partners to more.

Call me old fashioned. Go on. Do it.

 

[smithy_2045]

I'd rather she didn't have a history of promiscuity, but it's not a deal breaker unless she's diseased from it.

 

[chronicfc]

It don't matter, we are human, and such is our urges. Unless she has some "affects" from it then I'm fine

 

[VladBlok28]

I voted for promiscuity is less attractive. In fact for me it removes any emotional attraction in a person (physical attraction would remain if not grow, but this thread is about serious relationships).

Why? If a woman is giving her "holiest of the holy" (quote from Pulp Fiction) for nothing other than short term physical pleasure, she doesn't value herself enough. Having her is nothing special. And because of that, I couldn't value her either, at least not to the extent to have strong feelings for her.

There is however a HUGE practical problem, rarely any woman would admit to being promiscuous especially to a potential serious relationship partner. If she did, i would consider her honesty as a plus. Anyone agree?

 

[Jonluw]

So long as I know the promiscuous girl is clean, I don't really think there's a difference.
Well; obviously there's the issue that the more promiscuous would probably be better at sex.

 

[teisjm]

As for sexual attraction, a girl with promiscuity is a plus in my book. It doesn't bother me if she's ridden many a rod before me.
People tend to get better at sex the more they praction it. It also hints at her having a casual relationship to sex, and doens't consider it somethign sacred, but soemthing natural that she does for her own pleasure.

This is not taking a history of cheating or sexual disease into account, people can sleep with many people without cheating and getting infected.

As for romantic attraction, i don't care eitehr way.

 

[SilentCom]

I'm not a sexual type of guy, I would prefer being in a relationship than seeking sex. If a girl sleeps around alot, I would find that less attractive. The reasoning is that I would be worried that she would be more concerned with sex and less concerned with maintaining a healthy relationship. Also, if I do not perform up to her standards she may just leave. It just isn't worth the trouble for me to be entering a relationship centered on sex.