I have serious trouble finding white girls attractive (I'm a white male)
I'm not a standard situation. In all my life I've never lived in one country for longer than four years, and while I have lived in Australia, the States and Europe, I've also spent many years - unquestionably my happiest years - in Asia.
I'm going to start off talking straight: For me there is something repulsive about the typical western body for women. It's little things, like where genetics decide to distribute body fat, like the standard ratio of hip to waist width, body fat levels and complexion.
On top of that, I've found there to be an emotional difference between western and asian women. I think this is born of populations and population density, as the Asian countries i've lived in (Singapore, Indonesia and China) have all had vastly larger populations and/or population densities than any Western city I've lived in. I think this basically means that people don't have the time to develop shitty character flaws and biases, meaning that they are more genuine and straightforward.
Chinese girls (the best, I've found) tend to have a fantastic, genuine, direct and individualist temperament. They are not afraid to treat people like equals, they have opinions but they are willing to listen to other people's opinions, they don't seek your respect and they don't demand it, but they don't expect you to feel you need to disrespect them. I think it's because they spent their entire lives surrounded by millions of other people on a daily basis - it does wonders for your sense of self-importance.
I think it's healthy to not want too much, I think it's healthy to not expect certain socially stated things from people, conversations with the opposite sex should be natural and equal, not tainted by such false-ideals as 'respect' and 'sexism'.
It's clear that the first things that go through western minds - men or women - are competitive instincts - does this guy know I'm smarter than him? Does this guy think I'm smart? Is this guy just interested in getting in my pants? Does This Guy Respect Me?
A girl reading this might say to me "Yes, denseWorm, I am going to try and determine if you respect me or not, make sure you know I'm just as smart as you are." The point is, however, that I don't need to be told that. I shouldn't have to prove to you that I'm not a pig. You should not think, from the start, that I am by default a typical 'asshole male'. You should let ME do the talking. For Christ's sake, you need to lighten up and treat me like an equal. If white girls did this, then they might find that I an a perfectly pleasant guy - usually, however, I can only speak to them for a couple of minutes before I get exhausted by their negativity and competitiveness and break the convo off.
Chinese girls treat you like an equal. They meet you and wait for you to show your cards, they don't meet you and think: "This person needs to be beaten into submission"
That is why I can only make friends with asian girls, that is why I can only go out with asian girls, that's why my one love interest of the last five years has been a Chinese girl.
The worst thing in nature, to me, is a Chinese girl who has lived in the West and developed the same sensibilities as western girls. You talk to a girl expecting a refreshing exchange with a down-to-earth girl, only to realize that she is not willing to respect you or even compliment you. It's just unnatural.
White girls, especially from where I'm originally from in the North East *shiver*, have just never really done it for me, mostly just because of the attitude / mentality thing.
