Poll: S or M?

[binvjoh]

Neither.

I don't know what else to say, but I'll add this in fear of getting a "low content post" warning.

 

[Valksy]

I'm dominant, but not sadistic.

I could never be a masochist, too dangerous. My pain threshold is so high that I sometimes don't realise that I'm hurt until I realise that I am leaving blood all over the place.

Don't need either S or M for the purposes of schnu-schnu

 

[notyouraveragejoe]

I'm neither most of the time. Sometimes my sadistic side comes out during regular life and my masochist side comes out more often in private. However I don't really have a strong one either way.

 

[thecoreyhlltt]

i'm honestly more of a masochist, but sadism does have it's uhh fun moments

 

[AngloDoom]

[Snip!]

You can go into a little bit of detail as long as you keep it PG-13. As long as it can't qualify as porn, you should be good. Or hate speech, and things along those lines. I agree with your edit though, I think that some of these people just don't get it. XD

Oh, well in that case, here's what I said but with added flavour:

I kind of knew I had slight sadomasochist tendencies[Such as casually placing the fork I was mixing the boiling pasta with against my skin because it made me tingly], but I used to deny them. [Because I thought that was, like, totally normal.]

Only reason I really 'fully' realised was with my current girlfriend, who has masochistic tendencies herself. She asked me to do such things with her [such as force her, restrain her, slap her face, pin her down and basically do the deed with her struggling and sometimes screaming], I resisted at first because it slightly scared me. When we sat around and talked about it for a while, I came to realise I was scared because it was something I'd always wanted to do but had been stopping myself from doing for a while. [Such as the time when in the middle of just generally foolish around, I put my hand around my previous girlfriend's neck and began to squeeze quite hard as 'a joke', then not understanding she was quite scared and I was quite aroused.] The masochist side, however, I had to some degree explored see: above] but once more denied this because of fear of what my girlfriend at the time would have thought. [She would have ran away.]

From that point on I'm totally at home with myself about it all. I'm always very careful with myself and my partner when I'm in such a mood, but since coming to terms with it I don't have the urge to do something similar as often. [But when I do, I certainly make it count =D]

I'm not hardcore by any means, but I have surprised myself a few times with how far I feel comfortable taking it [And, I'll be honest, it still slightly scares me...]. I just hope I can fully explore such things with my partner and she'll enjoy finding out more about me as much as I will. [Because this is a kind of 'Pandora's Box' scenario and I'm a little nervous that if things don't work out with my current girlfriend, my next one won't...share my interests <<]

Interesting note to some who aren't so familiar with sadism/masochism: I still enjoy cuddles. In fact, right now I miss the moments where I'm with my girlfriend in bed, and we're tackling and pouncing each other and going "Boom Bubble...PAH!" right in each other's faces to make them jump. [Insert macho statement here to recover man-points]

 

[GeorgW]

Completely depends on my mood. I'm a sadist at heart, but sometimes it's just fun to reverse rolls. And besides, my GF is also a sadist and I always put her needs first, so I kind of force myself to alternate.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

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A girl put handcuffs on me once...I broke them. XD

I don't mind the occasional biting, scratching, slapping, and whatnot, just as long as I'm not tied, cut, burned, blindfolded, and generally restrained. I don't mind the girl pinning my hands down, but one time when a girl did that (she was kind of a larger lady, and it was my first and only time with a larger person) I told her that she couldn't pin me even if she really wanted to. She, of course, took this as a challenge, and I was able to lift my arms and reverse the arm pin, which, I think, actually made her more excited. XD

 

[AngloDoom]

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A girl put handcuffs on me once...I broke them. XD

I don't mind the occasional biting, scratching, slapping, and whatnot, just as long as I'm not tied, cut, burned, blindfolded, and generally restrained. I don't mind the girl pinning my hands down, but one time when a girl did that (she was kind of a larger lady, and it was my first and only time with a larger person) I told her that she couldn't pin me even if she really wanted to. She, of course, took this as a challenge, and I was able to lift my arms and reverse the arm pin, which, I think, actually made her more excited. XD

I've had similar experiences. I had a girl handcuff me to the pipe of a radiator, and ended up breaking them when we didn't realise the radiator was on. My body suddenly reverted back to being five and going "HOLY SHIT YOUR HAND IS ON THE OVEN" and I pulled suddenly, cut my wrist, broke the cheapy handcuffs, and thankfully the radiator was fine. From then on we learned that the headboard was a convention for a reason.
I've reversed pins a few times when my girlfriend pinned me when I was in the mood to pin rather than be pinned with similar results: it excited us both.

I'm similar in tastes to you, however. Restraints and such I have to be in the mood for and have to be 100% confident in my partner, but the mood for it is rare. I'm a big fan of being bitten and scratched and doing it back, and while I like spanking my girlfriend I don't like the idea of properly slapping her around the face (with my hand anyway .<
That and issues with other guys she used to date who were less than respectful with her.

 

[Baradiel]

First thing I thought when I saw this title: S&M clubs.

Then I thought, he probably means singleplayer or multiplayer.

Then I realised my first idea was right.


Personally, it depends on my mood, so sortof neither but both.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

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I'm not so much into the slapping as I am being slapped. I'm more of a masochist than a sadist in the bedroom, but when I'm out and about, I very much like to take charge of the situation. Although I don't mind my female friends slapping me around a bit in public, it's all in good humor. As long as there aren't any marks that would be visible in public or otherwise hard to explain to work/family/friends, I'm good. Just no permanent damage, please. XD

 

[AngloDoom]

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I'm not so much into the slapping as I am being slapped. I'm more of a masochist than a sadist in the bedroom, but when I'm out and about, I very much like to take charge of the situation. Although I don't mind my female friends slapping me around a bit in public, it's all in good humor. As long as there aren't any marks that would be visible in public or otherwise hard to explain to work/family/friends, I'm good. Just no permanent damage, please. XD

I'm not particularly masochistic or sadistic in life, not any more than the average person really. It's all very much sexually for me.
I sway towards the sadist side more than masochistic because somewhere in my caveman mind whenever my girlfriend takes control of the situation I'm afraid she'll think my willy will shrink and I'll start crying at rom-coms on a regular basis. That said, I kind of like receiving marks so long as they aren't "look at me" visible in places that they can be seen. The marks I often get on my back from her during sex are kind of like my gauge of how intense said sex was, so they're kind of trophies when they bleed. Permanent damage is a no, but I do like the odd few scars I've gotten on my back and shoulders now. That said I do kind of have teeth marks in a very personal place that won't seem to go away. I just hope they're slight enough for me to get away with it if I end up having another partner in future >>

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

That said I do kind of have teeth marks in a very personal place that won't seem to go away. I just hope they're slight enough for me to get away with it if I end up having another partner in future >>

I loled. I can imagine how awkward that would be.

"So honey...Oh my God! What happened?"

"Rabid hooker attack." *nod*

 

[Ickorus]

Im sadistic to people who deserve it but otherwise im not really either.

 

[winginson]

Slightly sadist from the angle of control. I like being in control so I don't like recieving pain as it makes me feel not in control. As such being in control means I choose what happens, whether it be giving joy or inflicting pain.

As for physical relations I definalty prefer to dominate and give pain, than to submit and recive it.

 

[Arkynomicon]

Mostly depends on if I'm feeling angst or not. I do know I have a slight sadistic streak but if I'm in a bad place I might be in a bit more of a masochist mood.

It's kinda complicated and I don't think about it that much.

 

[feauxx]

depends on the mood and if the mood is there at all. oh and the person.

 

[Lord Krunk]

I'm actually the kind of guy that's into M - on the other hand, I'm far from an S.

 

[SckizoBoy]

I guess I'm a bit of both...

When boxing (Muay Thai), I receive an alarming increase in alacrity after having taken a couple of body blows or hard blocks, but then it's always a thrill to win a fight (before helping my downed opponent to his feet with a small smile that says 'I own you now, *****!').

And I like being bitten. Been flogged once and I honestly didn't mind it (though my GF at the time was more of an M than me so we never did it again).

 

[Shuswah_Noir]

I'm a bit of a both, but I tend to enjoy inflicting pain rather than receiving it.