Poll: Sex or Love? (You can't have both!)

[Ham_authority95]

I'll take sex until I've felt love.

EDIT: However, I wouldn't want my love without sex. The second someone loves me enough to jump in bed with me, I'm taking the opportunity.

 

[Nouw]

I'd rather love someone, it is called 'making love' for a reason. Besides, we can always cuddle, hug and kiss!

 

[Kenni-chan]

because there's just a fine line betweeen love and a waste of fucking time. I'll choose sex

 

[ethaninja]

Hmm... sex. The release of endorphins.

 

[zombiesinc]

As bitter-sweet as love often is, I'd choose it hands down over sex any day. Sex is great, but I would hate to spend the rest of my life incapable of truly loving another person.

 

[JemothSkarii]

I'd say love; want nothing more inn life than to cuddle up on the couch with my girl and hear her say she loves me. We've had some painful experiences, and I'll probably lose her some day, but despite that, I chose love. Love doesn't need to have sex; besides, what's wrong with masturbating together? ;3

 

[ReservoirAngel]

Love, definitely. Call me a hopeless romantic (many have) but I find it more enjoyable to just BE with my boyfriend (ya know, just sit around, watch TV, play games, whatever) than to have sex. I'm not saying I don't like sex, but emotional closeness and emotional intimacy is more important to me than physical closeness or physical intimacy.

I'm probably the only 19-year-old male to ever say that something else is better than sex...

 

[Nieroshai]

Problems aside, I say love. To me, without love sex is just a pastime and a method of making babies.
What do you mean by sex? Impotence? Okay I can deal. I can also derive emotional pleasure from pleasuring my partner though, which means she wouldn't be deprived of it. And yes I do a lot of things not because they please me but because they make others happy. Like my christmas tradition of volunteering at a soup kitchen. Kissing would not lose meaning, because kissing isn't always sexual. So yeah I could live without sex, and I could find workarounds, but love is a must.

 

[Nieroshai]

I'd say love; want nothing more inn life than to cuddle up on the couch with my girl and hear her say she loves me. We've had some painful experiences, and I'll probably lose her some day, but despite that, I chose love. Love doesn't need to have sex; besides, what's wrong with masturbating together? ;3

This. But I assume what's barring you from sex is impotence.

 

[enriel]

Love I suppose. I don't intend to fuck any member of my family and I would not have made it this far without them. Love without sex in a quite simple way.

As far as partnership goes, I don't think you can base a relationship entirely on love. Sex is integral part of it.

So, I end up alone, but with the love and support of my family...basically what I am now. I'm cool with that.

Though sex is a nice thing to have...

 

[Nieroshai]

Sex without love is empty.

This is the part that really bewilders me. Do cows need love to have sex? What about Dogs? Or Cats? We assign emotion to things, but that just makes them better, not a crucial component of them. Sex is a biological necessity. Everyone on here who voted for love is basically voting to kill the species because they wouldn't want to go on if they could not feel love. This is insane.

This isn't just about which one you think is better, this is about which one do you want to deny the entirety of our species if you had to choose one. I like love more than I like sex, myself, but if we ended sex then we're ending mankind, which HAS to be worse than simply ending the social and psychological construct of endorphin-driven affection.

Also, Naheal, I apologize for choosing you out of the crowd. You're an example chosen at random, this isn't something against you personally.

1. Do some animmals mate for life despite offspring growing up fast and leaving? Do some stay together even when for some reason they no longer breed? Yes. Also, as far as I can tell from personal observation and growing up with a vet for a mom, in most domesticated animals females show no interest in sex until their bodies start hurting and forcing them to opt for pregnancy. Humans are in a position to choose, and are geared towards loving a mate and even sticking with that mate even if breeding were not an option.
2. Sex is a biological necessity, but also keep in mind HOW WE'RE WIRED. Most of us nneed to feel love for someone in order to settle into a parental unit to raise a child. Not all I suppose, but most. It is how we are. Sure we could grab a hooker, but honestly for anyone who DOES love someone, they would tell you it's better with that special person than any of the girls they scored in college.
3. I wouldn't be CHOOSING for the species, I'd be choosing for ME. Also, following your logic, gays are doing something horrible too because they don't make babies. We're not saying choose love or sex for humanity, we're saying "would you rather PERSONALLY..." and supposing that if anyone was given this option they would choose as they will.

Also, back on track, is the choice one makes permanent, or can one spend part of one's life exclusively seeking sex and the remainder seeking love? If so, this would solve the offspring and personal needs issues. Although, sigh, I'm sure this is an unacceptible answer. Damn hypotheticals.

 

[ajemas]

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No as in there should not be an option for asexual people. Believe me, I've nothing against your kind *cough*, but this sort of thing annoys me a little. There are countless sex related threads where asexuals come in saying the same thing over, and over, and over, and over again...

I have a question though... Do you pleasure yourself, even without being attracted to other human beings?

I do see your point, and I understand how that could get grating. I will make sure to not bug people in threads like these in the future. Anyway, yes, I do pleasure myself. Difference is, it's not really TO anything. I don't think about anything in particular, and I don't "get off" to stuff. It's mostly a form of stress release, with no ulterior motive.

 

[Lord Krunk]

I refuse to have sex without being in reciprocated love anyway. So there

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Love.

I don't like sex, or nudity, even kissing. Something about it seems, I don't know, personal. Maybe I have trust issues, but I prefer to keep myself to myself.

Is this normal? Having a sex drive of zero?

 

[creepy_rabbit]

sex is the most overrated thing in human history since tomas edison, sure it feels good and so on but hell, it's not the center of the fucking universe!

 

[smiles'o'death]

the more mature will say love since sex is a ,though enjoyable, only physical. love is an emotion and a much stronger thing, it should be the better option but sex appeal takes away the 1st prize in this contest.

^Has never had great sex^

^has never had anyone truly love love them but their mommy^

 

[Lyx]

Both, if only to piss of the makers of another fucking stupid poll, that asks me to choose between two things, that are not mutually exclusive.

Oh well, if there is no drama and no problem, i guess we artificially have to create one, riihght? Cheapskate.