Poll: Should parents have to pay back their kids

[unicron44]

When someone borrows money, they pay the person back. If I borrow cash from my dad I have to at least give him change, but I try to back him back full.

Well recently I started cutting grass to have some extra cash and not have to rely on him all the time to do things like go to concerts, movies or baseball games.

Sometimes he wants to borrow cash so he doesn't have to go to the bank or ATM. I owe him for life basically and he'll write an IOU. He's very good at getting me my money, but if he's late I really don't mind.

My mom on the other hand, who is just a stay at home mom, will sometimes just take money from me and not tell me. Sometimes she just goes out of her way to avoid paying me back.

Sometimes I'll read topics on here where people will say "Their house, their rules" but does that apply in all situations.

TL;DR

If a parent borrows cash from their kid, should they pay them back?

 

[Kungfu_Teddybear]

Your mother is stealing from you, call the police!

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Unless it's a huge amount, I don't really think they have to. I mean, if my mum borrows money she always tries to pay it back, and usually does, but I always tell her if she can't then just forget it. After everything she did for me and my sister growing up, it literally means nothing to me.

 

[Astoria]

They should but doesn't mean they will. My parents always give me back money they borrow from me though which is good.

 

[JWRosser]

In the rare event that my parents borrow money from me, they always give it back. But then again, it's never much - only like £10 max, so I'm not really that bothered. But, I think that if someone borrows money they should always pay it back (circumstantial).

 

[PhoenixJo]

Your mother should not be so selfish; taking your money without telling you is *not* on, and neither is going out of her way not to pay you back.
My mother does a sligtly similar thing with my jewellery and clothes when I am out of the country. She does eventually ask me whether she can borrow them, but only *after* having worn/used them already.

But frankly, "borrowing" requires that the item borrowed be returned. Tell your mother to stop, because it's an awful thing to do, especially to her own child!

 

[Azure-Supernova]

My mum borrows a few quid here and there if she's a bit short when the window cleaner or the milkman comes knocking, or if it's just 40p for a paper. To be fair I really don't ask to get paid back, I spent my early teens living off my parents money so I feel I at least owe my mum something. Though I always figured kids paid their parents back when said parents got too old to look after themself.

 

[Spygon]

Most of my family owe me money i have actually had to tell them that i wont lend them anymore until they pay me back mainly my mum.As she was really starting to take the piss.I am not a bank ffs and yes they should pay them back your borrowing someone elses money it shouldnt matter who they are they should pay you back.

Okay you should be abit easier on family and friends like if its only a few pounds let it slide or giving a abit more time but your family deffinly shouldnt be putting you in a situation where your wondering if they will ever pay you back

 

[ResonanceSD]

When someone borrows money, they pay the person back. If I borrow cash from my dad I have to at least give him change, but I try to back him back full.

Well recently I started cutting grass to have some extra cash and not have to rely on him all the time to do things like go to concerts, movies or baseball games.

Sometimes he wants to borrow cash so he doesn't have to go to the bank or ATM. I owe him for life basically and he'll write an IOU. He's very good at getting me my money, but if he's late I really don't mind.

My mom on the other hand, who is just a stay at home mom, will sometimes just take money from me and not tell me. Sometimes she just goes out of her way to avoid paying me back.

Sometimes I'll read topics on here where people will say "Their house, their rules" but does that apply in all situations.

TL;DR

If a parent borrows cash from their kid, should they pay them back?

Move out? I mean honestly, sounds like you can support yourself.

 

[SnowyGamester]

You were their fault so they were obligated to raise you and pay for you along the way - That doesn't mean you owe them.

 

[Gregg Lonsdale]

Depends what she's spending it on I guess. If it's bread or petrol or other necessities than that's probably fine, since you kinda owe it to her simply for her birthing you and raising etc. But if she's blowing it on jewellery or alcohol or something than I'd be annoyed at that, because she's just wasting your money on luxuries for herself, when you've worked to earn it.

Is it possible the reason she's avoiding paying you back is because she's embarrassed/ashamed of borrowing from her son? This is only really likely in the former of the two cases I mentioned above, but it's possible. If you do confront her about it I would treat the situation delicately.

 

[DJDarque]

If I lend my parents a few bucks here and there I don't really mind, but if they need good chunck of money for something they just can't afford I will expect to get paid back. I will be leniant and be fine with them paying me back little by little, but I will expect payment all the same.

 

[BringBackBuck]

How much do you pay your parents for rent, food, & utilities each week?

 

[Cabisco]

How much do you pay your parents for rent, food, & utilities each week?

Thats forgetting all those school trips,medical bills, clothes and every luxury you've owned until you get a job.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I don't think they're obliged to.
My mom usually will if I lend her money because she knows I don't have that much due to college and whatnot but she's not required to. After all of the money she pumped into raising me I see what I give her as a drop in the ocean by comparison.

 

[Summerstorm]

Eh... if it is borrowed or lend... the money must come back. Now if your dad asks: "Hey son, you are swimming in cash right now, how about you pay for XXXXXXX, eh?" Then he doesn't have to repay it.

But your mom... well. No, not cool.

 

[RicoGrey]

Well, obviously this would classify as stealing from you, so its not even borrowing. If they are in fact "borrowing" then yes, they should pay you back.

If, however, they need money and are unable to pay you back, they should simply ask you to contribute. Nothing wrong with a child contributing to the household income, especially during potentially tough times such as these.

I suggest you hide your money better so your mom cannot steal it. This would force her to ask you for it, or for her to simply go without. To be honest, it is rather disturbing your own mother is stealing from you. Due to your mother stealing from you, it is in your best interest to become independent of them as soon as you can. That will require money, so you really don't need other people taking it from you.

BTW, by independent I mean, getting a job, an apartment/house, and a car. Of course you cannot do this until you are 18, so if you are a minor, just keep saving up until then.

 

[Daverson]

So, here's a thought, do you know how much money it costs to look after a kid for about 15-20 years? (Food, extra living space, clothing, etc.)

I'll give you a hint, it's not cheap.

I'll give you another hint, it's usually a few hundred, thousand pounds (or dollars, if you're into that sort of thing).

 

[inFAMOUSCowZ]

Personally I say yes. You are the one who worked for the money, or it was given to you, so its your now. Sure parents buy you a lot of things, feed you , spend lots of money on you. But thats their job, that comes with being a parent. You owe them nothing, thats make take on it.