Poll: Teens sleeping together?
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in my house there was nothing wrong with it, my sister had a live in boyfriend at 15 and my girlfriend was always at my house, and our friends were always sleeping with eachother at our house. Maybe my parents were just pushovers but they never really put up much resistance to the idea.
I'm not saying that either. People can care for one another and even sex one another up and still be fine without the added bit of crazy emotions thrown into the mix. I'm saying that it happens quite often to a lot of people and I've both seen and experienced it. I do agree though that the risk of such emotional stress isn't really worth seeing if it applies to you at least not in my eyes. Works for some people. Not others. Just like most things but either way, like I said, it's not my place to force an opinion on anyone and that applies for both sides. I don't want people telling me who I can and can't sleep with nor do I want someone telling me I'm pathetic because I haven't had sex and that I desperately need to get laid.crudus said:
Like with most things in the world, a delicate sense of balance is key >.>
I don't think it's an issue so long as they're adult about it. If 2 teenagers (I will put a limit on this and say from about 15 onwards, don't know why) want to because it's right for their relationship and as long as they're protected then there's nothing wrong with it.
However, and this is only slightly biased because I hate the little brats, younger people are more likely to want to do it as a peer pressure/social status thing (I had this issue, it didn't end well) and more likely to be less educated about these matters then it's an issue which needs to be carefully dealt with.
In my experience the girls parents are always more stingy about this than the boys. Overall I think it's because of this idea that boys can panda it if something goes wrong whereas girls have to bear the brunt of it.
However, and this is only slightly biased because I hate the little brats, younger people are more likely to want to do it as a peer pressure/social status thing (I had this issue, it didn't end well) and more likely to be less educated about these matters then it's an issue which needs to be carefully dealt with.
In my experience the girls parents are always more stingy about this than the boys. Overall I think it's because of this idea that boys can panda it if something goes wrong whereas girls have to bear the brunt of it.
Teens have been known to be forgetful when they're paying attention to other, more interesting things. It is also the LAST thing they want to listen to that they MIGHT not have considered all the implications of sex. However, given that they are using protection and know as much about sex as can reasonably be expected from someone who's never had it, and neither set of parents are going to press charges, it's fine.
Most kids these days seem to want to get their microscopic dicks sucked just so they can brag about it with friends without even considering how it will effect the girl. Its ignorance like this that really urks me because I have seen it destroy lives, and its not pretty, and anyone who thinks they get respect out of losing their viginity should be smacked silly, then smacked some more.
A wise man, IE my roommate, once said "Don't sleep with a girl, unless you know for a fact that you would want to wake up next to her for the rest of your life." If you have found a woman that you know for a fact that you Truely, deeply want to be with every morning, then by god do whatever you like! God Bless you son!
A wise man, IE my roommate, once said "Don't sleep with a girl, unless you know for a fact that you would want to wake up next to her for the rest of your life." If you have found a woman that you know for a fact that you Truely, deeply want to be with every morning, then by god do whatever you like! God Bless you son!
In Canada if you're close enough age you can legally have sex if you're 12. I doubt twelve year olds should be having sex but if they know the risks and how to use protection and all that then hey, go for it.
My dad told to never have sex with a virgin if you are one, since you'll have no idea how it do it and will be probably be uber self conscious about another person seeing you naked.
Heh, maybe would be better if 'sex education' was a bit different so sex would be pretty commonplace and people wouldn't get so uptight about it.
Capacha: oh brother (says it all really.)
Heh, maybe would be better if 'sex education' was a bit different so sex would be pretty commonplace and people wouldn't get so uptight about it.
Capacha: oh brother (says it all really.)
Define teen exactly, because I find it that a 16 year old is well in their right to either fuck up their life or play things right.
I think it's fine. I mean, if the kids are going to screw they'll screw, no matter what you do, short of the two bricks option (enjoy that visual). At least this way it's not thought of as a huge deal and they know the parents trust them. I think the same with drinking and pretty much every other damn thing short of chemical drugs. No fuss no muss. My mom got me drunk my first time when I was fifteen and I don't drink anymore because I don't like the taste or effect, and I came to that because she was mature about it.
funny both my parents tell me that.....and have been telling me since I turned 16 that if I'm going to drink at least do it at home so they don't have to worry about me......Mackheath said:
My personal opinion is that kids are having sex at too young an age. Hell we had an 11 year old get pregnant out here!!!! That is way to freaking young. I mean if all you guys are going to do is sleep that's one thing but......If you must however, use freaking protection. As long as both people are of legal age (for their country since I know it differs) then generally I don't have a problem.
Go for it dude! Home run! Home run! Home run! (Or USA, whichever you prefer).SeeIn2D said:
Honestly, I think knowing what protection is ect is important, and using it should be 'advised' but not necessarily compulsory. Imagine if two rich 16/17 yr olds wanted to have children (hypothetical, their famous or something, inheritence, ect), I'm not sure we should say 'oi, you hold off, because we did it later' its kinda their thing.
For you, I would advise you do... but still dude - Home run! Good Luck!
Edit: Provision on the home run I've decided, sort of like Black Jack, hit on 15, stand on 17, 16 being the grey area, I think in this discussion 14 yrs old might be the grey area (when your 14 you might not think that way, but yeah), hit on 13 (don't), stand on 15 (its probably ok), 14 is kinda grey. So if you're 13, well, hmm, again its not for us to decide, but personally I think thats a wee bit too young.
Edit 2: \/That Guy\/ we must've tapped each others mind, I edit my post and use '14' then suddenly your saying 14. He's also right on all counts.
Nothing wrong with that. If both of you agree to it there should be absolutely nothing to stop you. Our bodies sexually mature at 11-14 years old. It is biologically natural to have sex from 14 year olds. merely the fact that we have social norms and that teenage woman bodies are not ready to have babies (which is solved by protection now) is the thing that brought the 18 year old rule.
Wrong. We are biologically made to have sex at the time we start to have urges.
And the ONLY person at fault for them not being prepared for it is BAD PARENTS.
Its not about encouraging, its the fact that most parents live in a wonderland believing that their 16 year old daughter does not know what sex is.
I actually had the same problem as you. My mum let my girlfriend and I sleep in the same bed before we'd even seen each other naked. She talked to me about being responsible when we do have sex, then left it up to me. My girlfriends parents still don't let us sleep in the same room, after we've been dating more than two years. It's really quite annoying. We still have sex, obviously, then I have to go into the loungeroom and sleep on the fold out bed.
If you're not a fucking idiot then why not? Me and my girlfriend are both teens under 18. We are sexually active and we are 100% safe at all times. What's wrong with that? We can make our own choices and we don't need anyone else telling us what to do. I'm speaking on behalf of most teenagers, who I would assume by the poll results, agree with my standpoint
Yeah that's exactly my point in argument against people who say its a bad thing. As long as you aren't stupid and and you know not to like believe all those stupid myths like "Oh if you pull out before you actually finish then she can't get pregnant"; thats a nice one; then it is fine.InfiniteSingularity said:
And just to clarify, we have both had sex and this is not a thread where I'm trying to get the opinions of people on unfair rules placed on us etc. I was just using my situation to clarify why exactly I'm curious about peoples opinions and to give some idea of what I'm talking about because it seems like a very good example.