Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[The Mehster]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy thing to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

..what exactly does the brain do after sex that's so scary? I haven't heard anything except that it releases dopamine.

After sex, your brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. Oxytocin is what bonds child to mother and partner to partner. So, your brain pretty much gets attached, hormonally, to your partner.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytosin [The Wikipedia article on oxytocin.]
Oddly enough, I learned of Oxytocin in Sex ed.

 

[P.Tsunami]

OP neglecting to specify an age is kind of a hamper. There's a world of difference between a thirteen year old and an eighteen year old.

Still, I think it's the kind of matter that can be okay, can be bad, but needs some solid judgment. I was in my mid-teens the first time, and it's damaged me none. Still, some have bad experiences. It depends on a lot of factors, and contraceptives are a must (knowing, also, that no contraceptive is 100% safe). I'd be very careful about it, but I'm not ready to go OMG EVIL either.

 

[crudus]

I think they were lying to you. And if they weren't, I don't imagine it's any different than masturbation in terms of what it does to you biologically.

First, may I ask why you think they were lying?

After sex, your brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. Oxytocin is what bonds child to mother and partner to partner. So, your brain pretty much gets attached, hormonally, to your partner.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytosin [The Wikipedia article on oxytocin.]
Oddly enough, I learned of Oxytocin in Sex ed.

I was told the clitoris was essentially a woman's urethra...

 

[P.Tsunami]

I think they were lying to you. And if they weren't, I don't imagine it's any different than masturbation in terms of what it does to you biologically.

First, may I ask why you think I am lying?

That's not what FuktLogik said.

 

[crudus]

That's not what FuktLogik said.

Take an Irishman for what he means, not what he says.

.>

thanks

 

[Ritter315]

As a matter of principle, to me at least, the idea is not to have sex with someone unless you plan on marrying them. Then even is something does go wrong, you have the commitment to go along with it. And I dont really see the problem in just sleeping in the same bed. You know how many couples go to bed and not have sex, a lot actually. Its fairly common. Ok maybe thats more with married couples who are more mature but still.
And the reason why? Because the majority of teenagers are stupid, that why. Everyone rails about protection, but I dont see why. Now every teenagers seems to take condoms for granted, like its against UN sanction #127 and 1/2 that they dont get to buy them. Just like everything else, sex and condoms are taken from granted by the American teenager.
Personally I think it takens away some of the intrest. Sex is so taken for granted, its made it less intresting. Am I the only one that shares this opinion?

 

[airrazor7]

I think once a person has sexual urges, they are old enough to have sex...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
or you could just use google and see what you find

Children as young as 12 have sexual urges and some girls have urges at younger ages, so I'd say giving in to urges just because you have them isn't always the way to go.

On Topic: Your parents have already given you the go ahead and obviously you're more than excited at the prospect of even being in the same town as your girlfriend so knock yourself out, share your bed for the duration of her stay. What anyone says here will not change that.

My unpopular viewpoint on sex, protected or otherwise, is that you can have as much of it as you desire as long as you're completely independent (completely not dependent upon parents) and be prepared for any results that may come later. You may start having a really good time and get started without condoms or the condom could break.

You've already made up your mind on that as well, so just be protected and smart.

Also, of course different parents have different viewpoints because they grew up in different societal environments and were raised by different parents of their own. So you'll have the parents who will think sex should wait until a certain age or marriage and then you have parents on the other end of the spectrum who don't mind whatever their children get into.

 

[FuktLogik]

That's not what FuktLogik said.

Take an Irishman for what he means, not what he says.

.>

thanks

Uh, yeah...

All the chemical/hormonal talk in that article made me feel like I was in biology 10 again, so I quickly closed the page. I'll just assume that it meant bonds are formed when the hormone is released, and the hormone is released when the sexual organs are stimulated, but doesn't that mean a woman could form a heartfelt, everlasting love for her sexual aid? Either way, I think your educators were trying to scare you off sex more than educate you.

 

[templargunman]

I think once a person has sexual urges, they are old enough to have sex...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
or you could just use google and see what you find

Children as young as 12 have sexual urges and some girls have urges at younger ages, so I'd say giving in to urges just because you have them isn't always the way to go.

I'm going to go ahead and say I was wrong, I forgot that most people are pretty stupid when they're young.

 

[Raideh]

Cleaned.