Poll: what attracts you most to a girl/guy?
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Personality is what attracts me to a woman. All women are beautiful and are capable of appearing beautiful with a little effort. Being able to converse and joke around with a girl, as well as feel uplifted and comfortable around them is what I look for in a woman.
In terms of physical attractiveness, girls with nice eyes, a great smile, and a nice rump will always catch my attention.
In terms of physical attractiveness, girls with nice eyes, a great smile, and a nice rump will always catch my attention.
My answer, looks. I look at someone and then I will feel either attracted or repulsed.
However, that having been said I have noticed that my mind performs an amazing feat of image adjustment based upon some other factors amongst which are personality and intelligence.
If I talk to a pretty girl and she is a really nasty person, every single wrinkle, blemish and flaw begins to stand out very sharply.
If however the person I am talking to has a fantastic personality.. suddenly photo shop opens and starts to carefully air brush away everything negative and suddenly I notice this person is incredibly beautiful.
Although it should be stated that while this effect can be incredible, changing someone from pretty to ugly and vice versa, it does have some limits.
However, that having been said I have noticed that my mind performs an amazing feat of image adjustment based upon some other factors amongst which are personality and intelligence.
If I talk to a pretty girl and she is a really nasty person, every single wrinkle, blemish and flaw begins to stand out very sharply.
If however the person I am talking to has a fantastic personality.. suddenly photo shop opens and starts to carefully air brush away everything negative and suddenly I notice this person is incredibly beautiful.
Although it should be stated that while this effect can be incredible, changing someone from pretty to ugly and vice versa, it does have some limits.
Well, as a man, it often happens that a large amount of blood headed towards my brain redirects towards lower extremities. Which means that bodyshape and looks are the first thing to be prioritized by me.
But once the rush of dopamine are through, I begin to realize that a good personality is way more comfortable to be around. Someone with a sense of humour is someone I'd like to meet, group up with and maybe spend time together with.
Of course, looks are never completely dismissed. We live in a very influenced society, so it's almost hardwired into my brain to seek out outer beauty. But I feel that humor is the greatest one I seek in the long run. Someone I'd call a girlfriend.
But once the rush of dopamine are through, I begin to realize that a good personality is way more comfortable to be around. Someone with a sense of humour is someone I'd like to meet, group up with and maybe spend time together with.
Of course, looks are never completely dismissed. We live in a very influenced society, so it's almost hardwired into my brain to seek out outer beauty. But I feel that humor is the greatest one I seek in the long run. Someone I'd call a girlfriend.
I am attracted to women who are intelligent. There are a lot of physical things that attract me to women, but stupid women that look good are not attractive to me at all.
Heh, seems I'm the only person who's voted laugh so far.
I'm highly attracted to faces that clearly show emotions, laughing being a prime example.
Perhaps it's because I'm really, really horrible at reading body language and emotions but to me a woman whose entire face lights up when laughing just looks so magically alive whilst many others, especially what you often see advertised, just seem lifeless. Not dead or anything, but they just lack that spark.
So yeah, when talking purely about attraction I need to see a woman smile, laugh, mope, pout, get angry, get sad etc. And if all of those are clearly visible in her face or even entire body then, barring any serious shortcomings like morbid obesity, I'm basically sold.
I'm highly attracted to faces that clearly show emotions, laughing being a prime example.
Perhaps it's because I'm really, really horrible at reading body language and emotions but to me a woman whose entire face lights up when laughing just looks so magically alive whilst many others, especially what you often see advertised, just seem lifeless. Not dead or anything, but they just lack that spark.
So yeah, when talking purely about attraction I need to see a woman smile, laugh, mope, pout, get angry, get sad etc. And if all of those are clearly visible in her face or even entire body then, barring any serious shortcomings like morbid obesity, I'm basically sold.
She needs to be able to take a verbal punch and be able to throw it back. Not having to woalk on eggshells around girls to not hurt their feelings/piss them off is a major plus in my book.
I'm only saying Personality because it's the best way I can describe it, but personality is what attracts me most. There's a number of things that attract me to men/women (I'm not picky).
I'll admit, I can be shallow at first, picking someone for looks I find attractive. In my case it's usually someone slim, smiling (though nicely, not like a loony), generally nice to look at. Then things get a little deeper. I'll try to get to know them and when I learn certain things like what they do for fun, how they act in public and most importantly to me, their relationship with their family. No, I'm not talking about whether they're adopted or so. I mean that the thing that turns me off and pisses me off most is when someone does nothing but constantly fight with their parents. Siblings, not so bad. I have a sister and although we're close, we still fight a lot. My first two girlfriends were SO irritable towards their parents. Constantly fighting with them even over the smallest of things. Those relationships lasted all over 3 months at the most. My 3rd g/f as the most polite, loving person who was always happy around her parents. Helped out when asked, etc. We lasted 3 years together and even now (5 years since) I wish we hadn't broken up.
Anyway, I digress...
Basically, my order of attraction is:
*Appearance (what type of clothing, how much make-up/fake tan, etc. Anyone who thinks looking like a piece of sparkly, painted, leather is attractive will be shoved in the other direction.)
*Smile
*Personality
*Body (the more physical side of it all. For me, it's the geeky/nerdy look an no extremes. No anorexics or over-the-top body-builders for me thanks)
I'll admit, I can be shallow at first, picking someone for looks I find attractive. In my case it's usually someone slim, smiling (though nicely, not like a loony), generally nice to look at. Then things get a little deeper. I'll try to get to know them and when I learn certain things like what they do for fun, how they act in public and most importantly to me, their relationship with their family. No, I'm not talking about whether they're adopted or so. I mean that the thing that turns me off and pisses me off most is when someone does nothing but constantly fight with their parents. Siblings, not so bad. I have a sister and although we're close, we still fight a lot. My first two girlfriends were SO irritable towards their parents. Constantly fighting with them even over the smallest of things. Those relationships lasted all over 3 months at the most. My 3rd g/f as the most polite, loving person who was always happy around her parents. Helped out when asked, etc. We lasted 3 years together and even now (5 years since) I wish we hadn't broken up.
Anyway, I digress...
Basically, my order of attraction is:
*Appearance (what type of clothing, how much make-up/fake tan, etc. Anyone who thinks looking like a piece of sparkly, painted, leather is attractive will be shoved in the other direction.)
*Smile
*Personality
*Body (the more physical side of it all. For me, it's the geeky/nerdy look an no extremes. No anorexics or over-the-top body-builders for me thanks)
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.366301-Weird-qualities-you-find-attractive?page=1
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anyway, pale chicks get me going
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(search bar anyone?)anyway, pale chicks get me going
Personality, which in all fairness I see reflected fairly regularly in appearance (you can spot a typical 20-something gym-drinker a mile away, for example). You show me someone with a good sense of humour, some compassion and empathy, and at least a smattering of intelligence, and we'll probably get along brilliantly.
There's a lot of things that are important, and while an incompatible personality will kill my interest, the one factor that can really just club me over the head is... well, the head. The face, proportions, bone structure, eyes, the whole conglomerate - if I'm gonna be bowled over, that's where it's coming from. Body, pheh, not all that important.
Personality over most things. I usually fall for someone's personality before I start being attracted to them. Then I start loving everything about them and think they're the most perfect and sexiest person on this planet, even if everyone else disagreed.
Also, Y U NO REALISE I'M NOT A SPAM BOT!? Bwaaahh! D:
Also, Y U NO REALISE I'M NOT A SPAM BOT!? Bwaaahh! D:
Real combination and depends on the girl and the circumstances.
When I'm actively looking for someone, it's usually the looks, then I go in to see whether the personality is something I like as well. Most times this then sends me spiralling away in not liking, but every so often you meet someone cool.
When I'm not looking, personality first, and looks don't usually factor into it at all, because by the time I realise that I like her, looks don't matter that much.
Voice is an interesting one though. I've never fallen for someone because of their voice, but (what with being a regular gigging musician) I've met a lot of women with voices that would just make your knees shake with excitement.
When I'm actively looking for someone, it's usually the looks, then I go in to see whether the personality is something I like as well. Most times this then sends me spiralling away in not liking, but every so often you meet someone cool.
When I'm not looking, personality first, and looks don't usually factor into it at all, because by the time I realise that I like her, looks don't matter that much.
Voice is an interesting one though. I've never fallen for someone because of their voice, but (what with being a regular gigging musician) I've met a lot of women with voices that would just make your knees shake with excitement.
Eyes. Can be lots of different looks that I like, but eyes are my big one, I think.
After that, personality (including attitude which comes through in how she moves) and voice. (And sense of humour is a part of personality, as far as Im concerned)
Other features I think can sometimes be turn offs, but arent usually directly attractive by themselves. Boobs, for example: I love boobs in principle, but apart from a few weird arrangements that I find strange or offputting I dont really mind how the boobs look... I dont think "Hey, that woman is gorgeous, look at those boobs!" Im just happy theyre there, regardless of shape or size.
After that, personality (including attitude which comes through in how she moves) and voice. (And sense of humour is a part of personality, as far as Im concerned)
Other features I think can sometimes be turn offs, but arent usually directly attractive by themselves. Boobs, for example: I love boobs in principle, but apart from a few weird arrangements that I find strange or offputting I dont really mind how the boobs look... I dont think "Hey, that woman is gorgeous, look at those boobs!" Im just happy theyre there, regardless of shape or size.
Mental nudity. Being open and honest about what she wants.
Way too often I encounter gals wearing mental clothes that say "If you want to know what I consider okay, you'll have to ask me. I'll answer no with a slap on your face".
Way too often I encounter gals wearing mental clothes that say "If you want to know what I consider okay, you'll have to ask me. I'll answer no with a slap on your face".