Poll: What kind of GUY would you fall for?

[CIA]

I went for the gamer boy, because the gamer boys I know usually have a bit of funny and hot in them. However, I must convert one of them to console gaming. Advice? XD!

Super Smash Bros. Melee. Play the new Splinter cell co-op.

If dropping from the rafters to kill an unsuspecting guard, or Capitan Punching Princess Peach so hard she flies off the screen and explodes do not convert him from Crysis (or whatever) then nothing will.

I think you're bitter.

No, he's basically correct. Women chase after the "bad boy". Nice guys tend to bore the average woman.

Is it the "Bad Boy Douche Bag" or is it the "Bad Boy, really Good Inside" schtick? I mean, I play a lot of hockey, and there's a lot of guys who are total asses, until you get them onto something else and they're sweethearts. Sure they've got their 'Grr Arr Get drunk with the buddies and watch odd comedies' sides, but they're also great to kids, think at least some things through and know how to keep a steady job. They might swear like a trucker with seventeen flat tires, and a deadline they're late for, but they'd also help you move, and order pizza for an entire audition room of actors just in case someone's hungry. Priorities, and all that ya know?

I mean, I've got high standards, but I wouldn't want a guy who finds so little value in me, when I would find more in him, you know? There has to be a balance. I also know a lot of guys who MEET my standards. Very few are single, but that's beside the point. Knowing they're out there is just icing on the cake.

I hope girls have more faith in themselves to see the difference between 'Bad Boy Egotist' and 'Bad Boy, Nice Inside'.

You do realise "Bad boy, nice inside" is Bad Boy, pretending to be nice to get laid right?

Besides, all the douchebags I know are going out with girls and all the genuinely nice people I know are single, hell, even the girl who likes me (doesn't know I'm gay) only does because I'm "hot" (in her words).


OT: Any guy at this point, well, preferably not like a serial killer, but you know, if it comes to it...

The whole "girls only dating douchebags" thing goes both ways. I have trouble not dating douchebaguettes because they are always (insert redeeming quality) at first. Also I know plenty of girls who complain about how all guys date bitches.

That said, while I have personally experienced these so-called trends, I have no intention of believing either one of them. If I do, then all the people who don't believe in finding a meaningful and fulfilling relationship win. If I can't find someone who meets my criteria, then what is the point in trying? No, I reject these generalizations. I want something apart from stereotypes.

Summary: Generalizations are stupid.

 

[Electro-coma]

Did everybody forget movie "Tron"?

Jeff Bridges acted as Kevin Flynn who is a nerd, gamer, arcade owner, intellectual, "golden brains" and even his ex said that she loved him for brains...aaaand he's hot!!!

So I might assume that if I were to be gay or a girl I would go for him.

But I'm myself still looking for my soulmate and I must agree that it's immature to blame someone rather than yourself for all your failures.

By the way may I ask if here's anybody from Russia or I'm in minority that is non-english country?

 

[Sleekgiant]

I really am gay and even if I look straight, *shrugs*

I'm sorry that last part made my brain hurt, saying you look straight, what does that mean. Do you think you need to be floating around to be homosexual because if thats what you are getting at then BLARGH to you. I'm not sure why every gay guy has to be stereotyped as being effeminate.

 

[dex-dex]

If I could clone myself I would totally do me.

Then the real question is if it either masterbation or incess?

 

[Tehlanna TPX]

I'm not trying to troll or flame or whatever; and all you ladies that posted here might be exceptions to the rule; but i think there's only ONE guy that girls go for.

The asshole. The complete tool

It just seems like a fact that EVERY single girl I know always goes for a jerk, while I'm always stuck in the "friend-zone".

Sure, when you ask a lady what they're looking for they're sure to reply "personality, sense of humor, yadda yadda" but in reality, they just go for the guy that will cheat at a moments notice.

Or I might just be bitter.

Bitter. Sorry, but GODDAMN am I sick of hearing this. Perhaps you would be more attractive to girls if you didn't call them all stupid, naive and shallow by claiming every girl wants a jerk. I'm not hating, but just think about it for a second.

Word.

I held out for years for someone perfect. I'm not stupid. I know what I like and yeah, there were a few couple stuck in the friend zone. Why? 'Cause they were nice and my boyfriend is a douchetool? No, my boyfriend is the friendliest, kindest person you ever would know. Those guys just didn't like themselves. I don't like saying it, but it was true.

They did not take care of themselves emotionally or physically, they were not confident in their strengths, and they put me up on a pedestal that, quite frankly, scared me. I made it clear that I was not interested and they should find another sweet girl to love but they remained attached. Dude, that's not being a Nice Guy, that's being clingy. Not an attractive trait.

In short, love yourself before you can love another. Oh, and read this like everyone else has said:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng-comments-jul25.shtml

I actually quoted you to some friends of mine who think that clinging to a girl will make her love them. I hope that seeing my words from someone else will help them learn that we don't want slaves... we want partners.

I mean I'd like a slave too, but that just isn't very emotionally satisfying

 

[Sparrow]

Well, if I batted for the other team, It'd have to be someone caring. And funny, as well as witty. I can only think of one man...

Spoiler: Funny, Adorable and Adventurous Man Love

I love me some Timelord. Mm-mmm.

I mean I'd like a slave too, but that just isn't very emotionally satisfying

...this thread is slowly going into 4chan territory now.

 

[Sir Kemper]

Guys fall for me...what, this also happens to me a lot. Ive have to let down a lot of gay men in my time.

Mayby you should try being less godamn sexy next ti-

I mean...Er...sorry, heh, not gay! Nope...

 

[Spacelord]

I voted "I don't like boys" but if I did: Stephen Fry. In fact I think I would go gay for Stephen Fry.

 

[snide_cake]

We're all a little bit bisexual, it's just that most people label themselves closer to the attraction they are more familiar/comfortable with, or the one that is much stronger than the other, either this or they just haven't had an opportunity or can open their mind enough to discover their other side. Attraction is very deep and can present itself on both physical or emotional levels, it's never so black and white.

I totally agree with that sentiment. It's why I pretty much assume everyone is bi, and it's not a huge deal for me if someone is gay or straight.

Although it is funny telling some people that and they can get rather defensive, saying "Well I'm definitely straight". Haha, oh well sure.

Personally I couldn't imagine being attracted to only one gender. That would kind of suck really... to write off an attractive someone just because they have or lack something or other.

 

[KimberlyGoreHound]

A mixture, cute, with some of that syrupy romance crap, and sadomasochistic blood fetishism and...well, you can guess the rest.

Although stick that personality into Brad Pitt's or James Hetfield's body and I'm sold.

 

[Dyp100]

Jesus you guys, seem like you've already got the whole female race figured out. "All of them want assholes, I'm not assholish enough it's their own fault for not noticing how much we non-assholes are sparkling diamonds in a sea of assholism!"

Can we all treat women like the individual specimens that they are?

Well, it's been proven that females love the badboys, something to do with genetics, sooo...While not everyone is the same, on average the females will love the guy who is a jerkass, ohz wellz.

AND IDK, I voted I don't like guys, but he'd have to be funny, flirty and have similar intrests, just how I like my women. xD

 

[Nurb]

I'm not a girl but I'm bi with a female bias, and as such, I tend to go for the more average to feminine, slender guys whenever I get to paying attention.. so is it ok if I play too? XD

I like the sweet, cute, geeky-nerdy guy, or like I mentioned before, the "pretty" feminine type, but not the flamers, which annoy the piss out of me. I can't stand stars or the "jocks" who I'd end up wanting to sock in the face.

So THIS is Raiden's demographic! I don't know, did you play MGS2? I know some people liked it.

I personally found Raiden as annoying beyond all hell, but he seemed to fit with what Kojima thought some people wanted. Maybe the "sensitivity" got lost in translation and became "pretentious whiner", or at least that's the way I saw it.

And if I'm gay for ANYONE it's Solid Snake. Yeah, there is a lot of freaky Otacon/Snake slash fiction out there.

I didn't play the metal gear games, but I know the character, and ironicly, overly girly looking anime-ish characters in games bug me. So I didn't like him XD There's a differnce between "feminine male" and the "flat chested woman" characters like in final fantasy characters. I like the men to be men and women to be women, but when they're mixed so ambiguiously, I don't go for it.. and I can't explain it ha ha ha.

 

[Baldry]

Im straight, but if I had to go for a man it would David Tennet, phowwwoorrr!!!

 

[Cake-Pie]

I'm sorta sick of reading stuff from straight guys. You do not like guys, you have no frame of reference and you're just writing fiction ):

I used to go for really interesting guys, intelligent, or specialized in some cool way--for example, I dated a guy I really liked because he had a lot of intelligent witty things to say about movies and nerd culture. But turns out, they all had serious problems. I never had a woman beater or anything, but some of my ex's were controlling, manipulative, cheaters, or emotionally distant.

I decided two things: 1st, I would not chase after guys. I usually do that, because "I know what I want", but it I was hurt a lot and it would be better to know a guy likes you than to see what happens on it's own time organically. 2nd, I would look FIRST for someone who was a kind "giver" type of person (as opposed to a taker), and then qualify them as interesting BEFORE dating.

Not long after that I met the boyfriend I'm with now. He's a little boring sometimes (so am I) but you know, he's also really funny and surprises me because he's not what I expect.

I wanted to comment on the "wah wah girls only date jerks, not nice guys like me". Get a life. If you're obsessed with getting chicks, girls will always find you boring. Another poster made a good point about being put on a pedestal. GREAT girls are going to want an EQUAL. If you treat a girl like she's above you, she may think it's nice at first (yay appreciation!), but you'll get friend-zoned. You could try treating her like a person, not acting scared like she's going to break if you tell her it annoys you when she chews with her mouth open. It helps to also be honest about her good qualities, but don't be a freak and only talk about that. It's flattery, and it's cheap ^_^

Last point! I hate the generalization that "all girls date jerks". It's not true. I know a lot more women with great boyfriends/husbands than with jerks. Besides, women are attracted to confident, and interesting men who sometimes turn out to be douches. SUCKS when that happens, but we're not doing it just to annoy you, or to DENY you some kind of sexual access you feel entitled to. We don't mean to, but we fall for people who are not good for us. Sometimes over, and over again. It's hard to kick guys to the curb if you love them.

I'm really impressed with people's answers!

 

[mcgroobber]

i definitely dont like guys

definitely

 

[StarofAzura]

Gamer guy, most definitely. Though I wouldn't say no to Brad Pitt...

 

[Treblaine]

I'm not a girl but I'm bi with a female bias, and as such, I tend to go for the more average to feminine, slender guys whenever I get to paying attention.. so is it ok if I play too? XD

I like the sweet, cute, geeky-nerdy guy, or like I mentioned before, the "pretty" feminine type, but not the flamers, which annoy the piss out of me. I can't stand stars or the "jocks" who I'd end up wanting to sock in the face.

So THIS is Raiden's demographic! I don't know, did you play MGS2? I know some people liked it.

I personally found Raiden as annoying beyond all hell, but he seemed to fit with what Kojima thought some people wanted. Maybe the "sensitivity" got lost in translation and became "pretentious whiner", or at least that's the way I saw it.

And if I'm gay for ANYONE it's Solid Snake. Yeah, there is a lot of freaky Otacon/Snake slash fiction out there.

I didn't play the metal gear games, but I know the character, and ironicly, overly girly looking anime-ish characters in games bug me. So I didn't like him XD There's a differnce between "feminine male" and the "flat chested woman" characters like in final fantasy characters. I like the men to be men and women to be women, but when they're mixed so ambiguiously, I don't go for it.. and I can't explain it ha ha ha.

Lol, mind if I quote you if I ever go on a "Why I hate MGS2 more than the Star Wars Prequel Trilogy" rant, I really do hate Raiden so much.

And Kojima has pulled a George Lucas since his Magnum Opus MGS1 (except MGS3 which briefly reversed the fail-trend). God I'm such a nerd.

 

[StarofAzura]

I'm sorta sick of reading stuff from straight guys. You do not like guys, you have no frame of reference and you're just writing fiction ):

I used to go for really interesting guys, intelligent, or specialized in some cool way--for example, I dated a guy I really liked because he had a lot of intelligent witty things to say about movies and nerd culture. But turns out, they all had serious problems. I never had a woman beater or anything, but some of my ex's were controlling, manipulative, cheaters, or emotionally distant.

I decided two things: 1st, I would not chase after guys. I usually do that, because "I know what I want", but it I was hurt a lot and it would be better to know a guy likes you than to see what happens on it's own time organically. 2nd, I would look FIRST for someone who was a kind "giver" type of person (as opposed to a taker), and then qualify them as interesting BEFORE dating.

Not long after that I met the boyfriend I'm with now. He's a little boring sometimes (so am I) but you know, he's also really funny and surprises me because he's not what I expect.

I wanted to comment on the "wah wah girls only date jerks, not nice guys like me". Get a life. If you're obsessed with getting chicks, girls will always find you boring. Another poster made a good point about being put on a pedestal. GREAT girls are going to want an EQUAL. If you treat a girl like she's above you, she may think it's nice at first (yay appreciation!), but you'll get friend-zoned. You could try treating her like a person, not acting scared like she's going to break if you tell her it annoys you when she chews with her mouth open. It helps to also be honest about her good qualities, but don't be a freak and only talk about that. It's flattery, and it's cheap ^_^

Last point! I hate the generalization that "all girls date jerks". It's not true. I know a lot more women with great boyfriends/husbands than with jerks. Besides, women are attracted to confident, and interesting men who sometimes turn out to be douches. SUCKS when that happens, but we're not doing it just to annoy you, or to DENY you some kind of sexual access you feel entitled to. We don't mean to, but we fall for people who are not good for us. Sometimes over, and over again. It's hard to kick guys to the curb if you love them.

I'm really impressed with people's answers!

Confidence is definitely a major attractant. Unfortunately, it's also a giant indicator on the douche-o-meter. I know I've been in that zone and it's not as easy as 1-2-3 bye loser.

Also, I tend to find when guys say that "girls only date jerks", what some of them mean is "supermodels only date jerks". A lot of guys tend to set their standards so high that some really awesome, genuinely pretty girls get looked over.

 

[Riobux]

Just a mixture. I'd want to actually converse with him and have fun with him, but yet I don't want an ugly beast. I'm a sucker for cute nerd/gamer boys which also look good. Then again, if they have an amazing personality, then it automatically over-rules the cute thing and the nerd/gamer thing is optional.

I can't help but think I'm picky as hell.

 

[Hazy]

Guys fall for me...what, this also happens to me a lot. Ive had to let down a lot of gay men in my time.

Alas, I've jogged that course a few times.
Never stops being awkward.

I imagine that if I were a girl (or into men) it'd be the compassionate type. Smart, caring, all that.