Poll: What would you do if a girl was crying in front of you?

[A random person]

I'm tempted to say talk to her, but in reality I'd probably ignore her to avoid messing up the situation.

 

[Elle-Jai]

good thread...but it really belongs in the Off-topic section, not the gaming section

So far as I'm aware, I created both in the "off-topic" section, and am still accessing them from there. I'm not entirely sure I've ever even been INTO the gaming section actually :S

 

[Akalistos]

No, you are who you are, the way you deal with pain isn't a factor. It worst, man that are to much emotional are label Homosexual or Emo. Beside AccursedTheory said it, when your male friend feel bad:

you give boys booze/boobs when he's crying.

Which works for a guy (and I've frequently used it on them.) But for a girl, rules are different. (Or so I'm reading.) My avatar is an actual photo *points to avatar*

You think that i didn't know? Of course i know your a women. I wouldn't be here if i did on the fact that i would be blind. The thing is, i won't speak on thing i don't know.

 

[Angerwing]

(Though why did you post "see a girl crying"? That's an interesting discussion in and of itself: seeing a boy cry vs a girl.)

Because you give boys booze/boobs when he's crying.

Easy answer. Would make for a short thread.

Lol, but a disparaging answer. (Not trying to derail the thread here, but I just want to say this)

This falls into the current social norms that men shouldn't show emotion, and are incapable of feeling any true emotion and are emotionally shallow.

That's bullshit. I don't wear my heart on my sleeve, because:
A) No-one wants to have to deal with YOUR shit.
B) I don't want them to bother.
C) If I need help emotionally or physically, I'll talk to one of my good friends. If you're one of my good friends, you'll know if I'm concerned. If you're not, you can bugger off and stop trying to meddle.
D) I look better without puffy red eyes and tears streaming down my face. I'm a vain man.

I have emotions. I'm not some heartless bastard, nor am I this super-macho douche. I'm a mature guy who doesn't think people in general should try to expose their problems to people who obviously don't give a shit. I think society as a whole needs to grow up. If you just lost a family member, no-one's going to judge you or anything for crying. You're well within your rights to do so. People will judge you if you're whining and crying over something your friends friend said about you.

 

[TheSeventhLoneWolf]

If there was no one else there I'd go up and ask what's wrong. If it was a room full of people but no one moved to do anything for a while, then I'd go and ask her what's wrong.

That part sums my answer up pretty nicely.

I'd certainly ask what is the matter and how I could help. But my personality doesn't make me the best person to talk to about sensitive things since I'm not good in social situations. Quiet and such.

 

[8-Bit Grin]

When someone I know is hurting, I will continue to hurt with them until they feel better.

My best friend and I usually turn on some music and dance our problems away.

When we're not together, we call each other and say, "I just need someone here". And stay silent, each doing our own thing but knowing the other's there.

I've ding-dong-ditched flowers on her doorstep when I know she's lonely.

I've knocked on her window late at night when I know she's studying to read her a story and put her to sleep.

I've called just to play a song that makes me think of her over the phone.

Yeah, I'm pretty damn lame, but that's how much I care.

And for all the guys saying nice guys finish last:

I dated a girl for two years, and treated her with the utmost respect.

A badboy came along, and I told her to see if he's what she wanted.

Several months later, after repeated calls to my house for solace, she finally broke up with him to come back to me.

Sure, he was calm, cool, collected, and badass.

But I was loving, a listener, gentle, and I made her my top priority.

The saying goes:
"I can't give you the world, so I'll give you the next best thing. My world".

He gets to experience her.

I get to keep her.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

My response would be dependant on relation; to gain the most likely desired results I'll answer as if I have no relation to this theoretical girl. Assuming she is not entirely repulsive to look at(call me shallow if you wish) I would ask her what was wrong, if she was having a problem or something of the like. I consider myself a fairly adequate psychologist relative to my level of education so it's not unlikely that I would be able to help at least a little bit. Of course it's also true that not many people like my personality(as far as I can tell), so it may not work out as desired.

 

[War Penguin]

Well, if someone was already with her or if I'm not staying in the area, I guess I'd talk to her. I'm not sure what I'd do, but I'd ask her what's wrong at least.

 

[Elle-Jai]

Dude, i'm sorry to break it out to you, but Women like Badguys. Hell, ask women everywhere. They'll say: "I love sensible and caring man," but when you see her boyfriend. He will be like this

Spoiler

They are as predictable as man.

Oh, yeah, coz we all wanna date guys with tatts who look like they're in national service. It's true that "good guys" come last, but let's define "good guy" shall we??

The guys I know that have the limited appeal of a "good guy" are usually really sweet guys. EXCEPT. They can't make the first move, they're desperate, have low self-esteem and are so busy putting you up on a pedestal that they didn't notice the Challenge, the guy who couldn't care less about that pansy worship stuff and who swept you off the pedestal. Rarely, if ever, can you build a life with Mr Tatts-In-Service guy. If Good Guy could only get their act together long enough to at least seem like they have a vision of where they want to go in life, and to see something they want and chase it down with single-minded determination (you), they'd stand a chance. I'm all for being worshipped. But I already own dogs, I don't need any new puppies panting after me, no matter how adorable their big, deep green eyes might be.

 

[Mcface]

If I don't know them, I could give a fuck honestly.

 

[feather240]

No, I'd rather be left alone. Wouldn't you?

 

[Elle-Jai]

And for all the guys saying nice guys finish last:

I dated a girl for two years, and treated her with the utmost respect.

A badboy came along, and I told her to see if he's what she wanted.

Several months later, after repeated calls to my house for solace, she finally broke up with him to come back to me.

Sure, he was calm, cool, collected, and badass.

But I was loving, a listener, gentle, and I made her my top priority.

The saying goes:
"I can't give you the world, so I'll give you the next best thing. My world".

He gets to experience her.

I get to keep her.

Dammit, why couldn't you have been my best friend in high school? *sigh*

Actually, just write a book. I'll buy about ten copies and distribute them to all the clueless guys I know

 

[Blindswordmaster]

I usually try to help in that situation, but that's just me. I'm a nice guy.

 

[Skobvs]

I would as I usually would, help them, listen to them and give whatever advice I can offer. Even though I usually don't offer "good" advice.

 

[DarkPanda XIII]

Yeah, I'm a softly, I'd sit down and talk to them.

 

[nick_knack]

I have little patience for emotional breakdowns. So I would probably walk away. Probably.

 

[OmegaXzors]

This event has already happened in my life several times. I simply ask them if they're okay and need assistance of any kind. To be honest, I'm sure most girls would just appreciate if guys would leave them alone. Especially since I've seen some guys use the opportunity to get a perverted hug out of it.

 

[Elle-Jai]

This event has already happened in my life several times. I simply ask them if they're okay and need assistance of any kind. To be honest, I'm sure most girls would just appreciate if guys would leave them alone. Especially since I've seen some guys use the opportunity to get a perverted hug out of it.

Apparently a bunch of them are in here somewhere too.... *looks around suspiciously*

 

[Akalistos]

Dude, i'm sorry to break it out to you, but Women like Badguys. Hell, ask women everywhere. They'll say: "I love sensible and caring man," but when you see her boyfriend. He will be like this

Spoiler

They are as predictable as man.

Oh, yeah, coz we all wanna date guys with tatts who look like they're in national service. It's true that "good guys" come last, but let's define "good guy" shall we??

The guys I know that have the limited appeal of a "good guy" are usually really sweet guys. EXCEPT. They can't make the first move, they're desperate, have low self-esteem and are so busy putting you up on a pedestal that they didn't notice the Challenge, the guy who couldn't care less about that pansy worship stuff and who swept you off the pedestal. Rarely, if ever, can you build a life with Mr Tatts-In-Service guy. If Good Guy could only get their act together long enough to at least seem like they have a vision of where they want to go in life, and to see something they want and chase it down with single-minded determination (you), they'd stand a chance. I'm all for being worshipped. But I already own dogs, I don't need any new puppies panting after me, no matter how adorable their big, deep green eyes might be.

Yet it not who they are but what they do. They ignore you! That what drove you to it. And if you do get in, it for sex. Good guy like you, they put you on a pedestal because they care. You want a guy that don't care about you and yet is a good guy. YOU WANT A PARADOX. And by the way, even if a good guy has enough self-esteem. YOU WON'T CARE BECAUSE HE WILL PUT YOU ON THE PEDESTAL. Hence the fact that good guy get brush aside and get low self-esteem.

And you know what, Women are all the same. They want everything and more and blame it on others. It make me so mad....

 

[esperanto]

I've never had this problem before, but when I was about 14 I had to talk to a guy who was crying. It was a bit awkward, and thinking about it, he never did explain to me why he was upset.