Poll: What would you do if a girl was crying in front of you?

[Slick Samurai]

I would probably say something to cheer her up, like a joke. Then sit down and ask her what's wrong. Now, knowing that it's a good reason, I would work through her problems with a conversation, highlighting the aspects of my inquiry and her turmoil.

From this point, depending on the problem, the solution could branch in different directions: if it involved a family death I could personally counsel her, if it involved substance abuse I could convince her to submit herself to a rehabilitation clinic, any other more extreme quandary and I could convince her to see a therapist.

Although if the situation is anything like in my mind, the girl is out in the middle of the street and crying. Showing obvious signs of mental instability, I would incapacitate the girl with a swift dropkick and call the men in the white suits.

Vigilante Justice!

 

[Thisshouldsay2K]

Alright, I give in, can SOMEONE please start describing a "pretty girl" to me?! I'm guessing my idea is quite different from yours.

It's different for pretty much everyone, it's entirely a matter of opinion.

 

[Z(ombie)fan]

Oh dear.

Regardless of who the girl is, I feel obligated to go over and at the very least give a hug.

...

In elementary school there was a girl who i ultimately became friends with.
she would hug the SHIT of you the instant she got an excuse. I... kinda liked it.

anyway, humans are like animals: in emotional pain, stay away.

though, again like animals, not all are.

so basically dont go near unless you know she wont bite...

 

[Hollock]

I hate to admit it, but probably ignore them.

 

[PixieFace]

I take them by the shoulders and guide them out of the room. Then I sit down with them, hold their hand, give them a hug, and listen to what they need to say.

I can't tell you how many times I've done the above, because for some reason I tend to attract overly emotional acquaintances and friends, and I suppose it brings out a strong maternal instinct in me. I can't sit and ignore cries. I just can't, it drives me crazy, even if I hate the girl in question. Something about the bystander effect where everyone stares and doesn't do anything makes me so mad.

Everyone deserve a little compassion, even the bitches.

 

[TheRealCJ]

Stop eating the puppy.

 

[Hazzaslagga]

I become very awkwarard when someone starts crying though i do normally try to cheer them up.

 

[Pegghead]

Well first I'd make sure she wasn't a witch. Then I'd probably ask her what was wrong and just try to console her.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

My first instinct on hearing a woman crying is to locate the cause and kill it.

Of course, that approach is rarely applicable so I go with "you okay?" and adopt my least threatening stance (apparently all my stances are threatening *shrugs*).

 

[Canadamus Prime]

My first instinct would be to go over and find out what's wrong and try and see if I could cheer her up, although it'd probably be with slight hesitation due to social anxiety.

 

[jboking]

How sad, you don't know the difference between a good guy and a pansy...or maybe you've only met good guys who happen to be pansies.

LOL! You have no idea how true that is.... But Akalistos' paradox idea isn't too bad. And it's not quite as impossible as it sounds.

There is no paradox present, there is only a misunderstanding of what is good to do. Putting a girl on a pedestal is not an act a good man should do. A good man keeps his significant other on level ground with himself and respects them in every facet they can. Respect is what makes a good man good, not some idea of putting the other above themselves. Doing that turns you into a pansy.

(I may sound kind of bitter tonight, my bad.)

 

[Catalyst6]

If she's among friends, I'd obviously ignore her.

If I'm feeling charitable, I'd probably ask what's wrong if she's alone, otherwise normally let her sit there.

My reaction is based more on why she's crying. If it's some horrible abuse then I'd try to solve the problem. If it's some "Omg my bf dumped me wtf" I would probably just walk away laughing.

 

[TheRealCJ]

If she is willing talk to her, then when she stops and gets over what she is crying over go back to being ignored by her and every girl in my school again.

Go me.

That's it, let it aaaall out.

 

[XJ-0461]

Well if they're my age, I'm gonna find out what's wrong.

I was on a train once, and saw a woman crying. I didn't do anything because she looked about 10/12 years older than me. I felt bad afterwards.

 

[Z(ombie)fan]

actually, now that i think about,i throw a granola bar at her.

because thats what i do when any of my guy friends are upset.

i mean jesus christ why does everyone love those tings...

 

[StrangerQ]

Obviously, I'd try to comfort her if I knew her well enough. If not, let it be. Crying women don't open up to strangers, making the entire process pointless and infuriating.

Amen

 

[Elle-Jai]

I can't sit and ignore cries. I just can't, it drives me crazy, even if I hate the girl in question. Something about the bystander effect where everyone stares and doesn't do anything makes me so mad.

Everyone deserve a little compassion, even the bitches.

I was at an all-girls school and we ended up running an informal counselling group for ourselves. And it didn't matter to me WHO it was, if she was upset, I was there. If I was upset, I still managed a smile for everyone.

And what I discovered was that it's the "popular" ones, the ones who stick in their little cliques and are nasty to you that are the most insecure ones, who feel they "can't be themselves" and have no idea who their true friends are. After that I felt sorry for them, because at least I always knew who MY friends were.