Poll: When was your first boyfriend/girlfriend?

[ParkourMcGhee]

19. At Uni. She kinda found me and chatted me up. After a while she asked me something along the lines of "are you going to keep hugging me all night, or are we going to fuck?". That relationship lasted a miraculous 4 months.

Now, again, I'm on the prowl for a GF. Hopefully this time I can find one that doesn't want to burn my computer game collection.

I attribute it to being an antisocial fucker... also being in a boys only school from year 7(approx age 10) to 13(up to age 18).

 

[Lambi]

I was about 13 years old.

 

[Gardenia]

I was four, she was almost three. None since then. (Bawww)

 

[Emilox The Great]

15. almost half way to 16. never had a girlfriend... im a social retard. :/

 

[Emperor Platypus]

blah having sex at a young age doesnt mean shit, it was empty, ive only had one good relationship in my life. Most girls and guys ive been with have been terrible to me, ending in a lot of crying and pain, its not worth it if its going to be bad. When you find the right person, then it doesnt matter about your past or who youve been with.

mmm kind words. That said they sound empty and hollow to me.
The problem is our different experiences which ultimatelly distort how we perceive the world.

you having been 'socially' active have let you to see that relationship aren't perse a road to hapiness and have shown you the 'dangers' that such relations hold.

Me meanwhile having been shunned by most.......all of my peers have never experienced such things.
For me it feels like life is leaving me behind. Everyone else is 'getting busy' xcept for me. and because of my underdeveloped social skills (courtesy of the being shunned by everyone) I wouldn't have any idea how to 'fix' it either.

It's a stand off between desperatelly wanting something and feeling left out for not having it and being too scared plus having no idea how to aquire it. Which alienated people even more because the general concencus is that I should quit winning and get my act together.

In today's society virginity and when you lose it is a pretty big deal. So when like me you've still got at age 21 withouth any chance too lose it in the forseable future you feel left out.

Humans are social animals when they feel left out, most of the time the time they get up, move on and try again. However repeated rejections could lead down the road leading to disilussion and depression.

After years of being left out due to my red hair and now because I never had anything with a girl. Well let's just say I've given up on getting anywhere and have already taken my first steps down that road.


All of that said this is not the tread to discuss such matters. I apologise to the OP for the near highjack of his thread. If anyone want's to continue this discussion feel free to pm me.

 

[CRoone]

I had something close to a relationship back when I was 14, but it was never serious, and it didn't work out. I haven't been in a relationship since, and though at times I like the idea, I maintain that I'm a declared Asexual until - at the very least - my bank account and paycheck let me say otherwise. Can't have romance without finance, ans $32 a week for delivering papers just isn't going to cut it...

 

[aether-x3]

I'm 17 and never had a boyfriend. Though I seem to end up liking people I have no chance with. One liked another girl and the other was married >_>. I'll stick to love interests in video games.

 

[JokerCrowe]

I haven't had a girlfriend yet, but I have kissed many [sub][sub](read two)[/sub][/sub] girls! ^^
Not in a rush to get a girlfriend though.

 

[Sikachu]

Never wanted one, still don't want, and it grinds my gears when jerks feel the need to rub it into your face to feel superior about themselves, because the very idea that I do not want a relationship seems unthinkable to them. I hope those pricks get what's coming to them. They deserve it.

Wow chill out. Perhaps they don't believe you because of all that simmering resentment and frustration that permeates your comments.

 

[Pariah87]

If we're going to count long distance relationships (does it count that we actually met up and spent some time together despite being other sides of the atlantic?) I wasted nearly 2 years on that, although it was nice to think that someone out there actually cared about me.

In the 5 years since, there has been nothing. A couple of drunken kisses, nothing further. To be honest, I'd rather be like the people in their late teens, early twenties who have never been in any kind of relationship. It'd be easier to rationalise never having experienced it. Instead, I see everyone else in relationships, I know what it feels like to be in one with someone you care about, yet I don't have that, and with my personality and looks probably won't be getting involved in one any time soon.

The usual way things work are: People form relationship, relationship breaks up, people hurt for a while, people find someone else, repeat the process.

For me, it went: Form relationship, relationship breaks down, hurt for a while, try and find other people but find it difficult, become bitter and angry at women, become cynical of all relationships, taking pleasure in seeing other relationships fail, become a cynical arsehole who at this point is probably pure poison to be in a relationship with.

 

[The_Echo]

Sixteen. Actually happened April this year, even. Lasted about... a week and a half? We're still friends, and she's cool and all, but she's the biggest pothead I've ever known and that didn't fly with me at all. ._.

 

[dex-dex]

i was seventeen when i had my first boyfriend it would have been sooner but my parents were freaking out because i was doing so bad in school aka no social life.

 

[Vault Citizen]

First person I called my gf = 9 but I don't actually count those. My first girlfriend was when I was 16.

 

[judas prick]

i had random ones when i was 8-14 like all the holding hands a school shite, but didnt get to poke a girl till i was 15

 

[Zyxx]

I'm 23 and have never had a girlfriend.
Excuse me, I'm going to cry for a while.

 

[Jonatron]

After years of being left out due to my red hair and now because I never had anything with a girl. Well let's just say I've given up on getting anywhere and have already taken my first steps down that road.

Years of being left out because of red hair? Just that line made me think your whole comment was a terrible joke. Something as insignificant as red hair is not a contributing factor in an attraction or friendship. I'm a ginger - the colour of your hair IS NOT SIGNIFICANT.

The best way to find such a thing is simply to try and have fun and try and learn as much as you can. Get out, get about, study people and learn to navigate society as only an intellectual can.

 

[Chris^^]

well, first at 11, but we didn't even know each other it was just like a joke..

first proper one was at 13/14 (can't remember exactly) only lasted 3 weeks until she left me for my best friend..

 

[The Brewin]

8th grade. She was very sexual for a 13-year-old. I was 14.

Had we enough time alone, and a proper location, I most likely would have gotten laid.
She even said so herself.

We only dated for a week, though.

Incase no-one else has said so already, thats one Claaaaaaaaaaassy lady

 

[Chris^^]

i had random ones when i was 8-14 like all the holding hands a school shite, but didnt get to poke a girl till i was 15

what a gorgeous usage of the English language =P