Poll: Who pays on a date?

[Yopaz]

I always pay when we part... oh... that wasn't what you meant?

I always think it's good practice to pay, at least on the first few dates to show what kind of guy you are, then when you're moving on you'll move on and perhaps cook yourself or do other things depending on the situation. Perhaps I'll pay, perhaps we'll split, perhaps she pays. I know a few who hates it when guys pay for them, but likes when they offer to pay, and likes it if they argue a little before they "give up" and decide to split. It all depends a lot on the situation.

 

[No_Remainders]

Depends.

If it's just a starting relationship, the guy should pay.

Later on, split it evenly.

 

[Enrathi]

I think whoever asked the other out. It would suck for a woman to ask me on a date then expect me to pay, to me that just comes off as looking for a free meal. On the other hand if she asked me to pay half, I'd be ok with that. Whenever I ask someone out, I pay for the date. But I will let her pay half if she insists.

This is also assuming the first few dates/getting to know each other stage. If it's dinner and a movie and she wants to pay her way so she doesn't feel "obligated" that's fine. I'm not expecting sex in exchange for dropping some money and taking her out and don't want her to feel pressured, so if she wants to pay I'm ok with that. On the other hand, if our date was meeting at a coffee shop and talking, there's no pressure and I'll pay. Even if it doesn't work out all I'm out is a few bucks, less than I would have spent on dinner or a movie ticket for just myself.

Once you're past that stage and it's a relationship, then you can work it out between yourselves.

 

[Guffe]

In all the movies the guy always pays but maybe the one who asks the other one out or then perhaps both pay their share? I mean does the first date have to be some nice dinner or couldn't it be a nice chat round a cup of coffee?

 

[newwiseman]

I'd say whoever wanted to go out should pay at least most of the bill. But thats just me. I usually payed, but thats because I wanted to go out.

That's how I role, I figure if I'm taking someone somewhere then I'm paying for them. On occasion I'll invite people to come along somewhere then they pay their own way or they owe me.

This is the way my parents coaxed each other to go out, one had to bring the other, unless it was somewhere they both had to be.

 

[Brandon237]

The first few dates I refused to let my girlfriend pay, but she was really not happy with that, and she is a lot better off than I so now we split it, not quite evenly, but somewhere close. I pay for movies and she pays for dinner or vice versa.

 

[Polyintrinsic]

Woman want equality....



But not when it comes to paying for dinner. Or getting into clubs.

 

[OtherSideofSky]

Go dutch, unless it's a special occasion (no one should pay for their own birthday, etc.). A relationship is supposed to be equal and mutual and expecting one party to pay based solely on gender destroys that balance.

As a strong supporter of gender equality, if anyone tries to make me pay for everything just because I'm a guy my response will always be a very definite "Fuck you".

 

[Jodah]

In theory whoever asks the other person out on said date. In reality, the guy.

 

[Tomster595]

In my opinion, for the first few dates the guy should pay. Once they're actually "dating" and they've know each other for a while they should split the cost.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

The guy. In my opinion anyway.

I kinda did something bad once though. I took a girl to the cinema, and she insisted she'd pay for her ticket, so I took the money off of her, paid with my own money, then slipped the money back into her coat pocket when she went to the toilet.

That was probably kind of wrong...

 

[GeorgW]

I'd say go Dutch if it's an expensive restaurant, if not then whoever invited the other one. And if there's a significant financial difference then that should of course affect. For a first date though, the guy ALWAYS pays.
I consider myself an old fashioned gentleman, but at some point you really have to draw the line. I have no problem buying my GF stuff, but if she just expects me to pay for everything then that takes away all the fun.

 

[Anchupom]

I'd say it's whoever initiated the date.
So tradtionally the man.

If not that, then they should split but the gentlemanly thing to do is pay more than the lady does.

 

[Dystopia]

Whoever requests the date pays for the date. Fair's fair. If someone asked me out, then demanded that I pay even half, I'd be a bit miffed. On the other hand, if I asked a guy out, I wouldn't expect him to spend anything. He can pay on the second date

 

[feauxx]

in my mind, whoever initiates the date basically pays for it
if he/she approaches you, his/her money
if you approaches her/him your money
that makes the most sense to me

this, probably.
i'm dutch so i mostly go dutch but it's also like, if someone asks to grab a bite i will assume to split the bill. if some asks me to treat me to dinner i will assume they pay. and that also gives me a chance to tell them if i'm okay with that or that i'd rather pay myself (to avoid giving the wrong impression).

 

[idskusters]

no on am very lonely

 

[pluizig]

Why would one person pay for two persons? It doesn't make sense to me.

Then again, I'm Dutch.

 

[hecticpicnic]

Dine and Dash, only scrubs pay for food >

[small](Just kidding, honestly who cares but in my opinion its more socially accepted that the guy pays the first time)[/small]

Nice animation thing.
I would give you a cookie.But i don't have one.

 

[T8B95]

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

This. Ironically, the parents thing was the opposite of yours. My parents were always worried that I would bankrupt myself in highschool.

I always pay on dates. If I was a woman, I'd still pay on dates. If I was broke then I wouldn't go on dates because I can't pay for it.

It's not just for dates. Whenever me and my friends go out for a bite to eat, I try to pick up the tab. If they say it's on them, then I pay them back the next day.

 

[Get_A_Grip_]

Whenever I go out on a date with my girlfriend, she pays the majority as she has a job and I do not.