Whoever starts or mentions the date/what to do. Like for say, if my girlfriend says that "hey, theres this awesome restaurant I want to go to- let's go" and she has to kind of convince me to go, then yea- she pays for dinner, while I'll pay for superfluous things like if I decide wine or some beer for us during the dinner- that's on my tab, what I bring to this dinner date.
At the same time if I suggest doing something like going out for the day and going ...somewhere? then yea, then I know that I'm basically going to pay for the majority of the night- because I'm taking her out, it's a mix of having fun yourself but also treating my girlfriend. There's always times when both of us are low on money so we can work out something to do or to separate pay, and that should always be alright to do.
I've been on dates before with other girls or with past girlfriends that have wanted to go out and do something or for dinner, etc- while I want to stay in and maybe make a dinner for ourselves, more intimate- but she insists and she's the one that decides we go out- but then I'm still expected to pay? That's bullshit, cos I never really agreed to this in the first place and had to be coaxed into doing this.
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That said, a lot of people don't agree with this, but I still think that on a first date, no matter what- I will pay for the dinner or even the coffee, etc. It's just a nice gesture and a way to keep things memorable, shows some interest in how the date is going rather than just sitting back and being on autopilot.
At the same time if I suggest doing something like going out for the day and going ...somewhere? then yea, then I know that I'm basically going to pay for the majority of the night- because I'm taking her out, it's a mix of having fun yourself but also treating my girlfriend. There's always times when both of us are low on money so we can work out something to do or to separate pay, and that should always be alright to do.
I've been on dates before with other girls or with past girlfriends that have wanted to go out and do something or for dinner, etc- while I want to stay in and maybe make a dinner for ourselves, more intimate- but she insists and she's the one that decides we go out- but then I'm still expected to pay? That's bullshit, cos I never really agreed to this in the first place and had to be coaxed into doing this.
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That said, a lot of people don't agree with this, but I still think that on a first date, no matter what- I will pay for the dinner or even the coffee, etc. It's just a nice gesture and a way to keep things memorable, shows some interest in how the date is going rather than just sitting back and being on autopilot.
