The guy should offer to pay or just grab the check when it comes, but if the girl wants to pay for half or what she ate then he should respect her wishes and let her. I don't think it's sexist to assume as the guy that you'll pay, but it is sexist to refuse to allow her to pay if she really wants to.
Poll: Who pays on a date?
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I pay for the first one, then we generally start switching who pays date by date. Of course, whenever it's her turn to pay we usually go to a cheaper place cause I still have some sense of machismo.
That being said, I don't mind paying, but I like being treated too.
That being said, I don't mind paying, but I like being treated too.
It's pretty traditional for the guy to be the one with the money and thus the one who pays and the woman to be the housewife that takes care of the kids.
Not that it's necessarily a bad thing, but these days I don't think it's nearly as common as it used to be and thus splitting the bill makes sense to me unless the pair isn't necessarily balanced monetarily.
Not that it's necessarily a bad thing, but these days I don't think it's nearly as common as it used to be and thus splitting the bill makes sense to me unless the pair isn't necessarily balanced monetarily.
I've actually gotten into an argument with a guy I was vaguely interested in about this very thing.
He was apparently raised pretty traditionally- the guy always pays for the girl.
I'm all for equality and have a decent amount of income from summer jobs- so I always split the bill. I pay for what I get and the guy pays for what he gets.
It gets... interesting, sometimes.
He was apparently raised pretty traditionally- the guy always pays for the girl.
I'm all for equality and have a decent amount of income from summer jobs- so I always split the bill. I pay for what I get and the guy pays for what he gets.
It gets... interesting, sometimes.
Well, first we pool our money and divide it amongst ourselves:
One for you, one for me.
Two for you, one, two for me.
Three for you, one, two, three for me.
...etc.
And then we decide if it's duck season or wabbit season.
Whoeversurviveswins, pays the check.
Hehehehehehehehehe.
One for you, one for me.
Two for you, one, two for me.
Three for you, one, two, three for me.
...etc.
And then we decide if it's duck season or wabbit season.
Whoever
Hehehehehehehehehe.
With my most recent girlfriend (and the only one I ever went on any actual dates with), we both bought our own tickets on our first date, and on our second (which was months later) I paid.
Split it evenly. If I wanted to pay a woman to go out with me, I'd pay a more attractive woman to go out with me and guarantee sex.
I find it very aggravating when a woman expects me to pay for her dinner or buy her drinks because I think she's attractive and I refuse to do it. This does have a negative impact on my sex life, but I rather handle my own business than cave in.
I find it very aggravating when a woman expects me to pay for her dinner or buy her drinks because I think she's attractive and I refuse to do it. This does have a negative impact on my sex life, but I rather handle my own business than cave in.
Im not staing opinion. Im not arguing in favor of any method. Im just stating how things have been. Theres no point in telling me this, I was just trying to be informitive. This is just a general rule. Case by case it differs. Sometimes the woman pays, sometimes both, sometimes its two men or two women, then gender roles is different. Know who pays? The answer: Depends...Chamale said:
Just talk about it in advance. Seriously. Just explain you're more than happy to pay (if you are), but would like to know what he/she thinks.
I think, in general, a guy would want to get to know a cute girl and so they would take them on a 'date' to get to know them better, spend a little time, maybe get a cuddle.
To sweeten the deal usually the guy would offer to pay to help reduce the chance of getting rejected.
Once you are in a relationship the dates then become half/half but I think the inital set of dates (3 or 4) maybe more depending on the attractiveness of the guy vs the attractiveness of the girl, would be paid for by the guy.
I think if you are 'dating' then it would be more then just sex, now on the other hand for nightclubbing, the guy will almost always buy the girl a few drinks to get to know them and .... well, you can guess the rest.
To sweeten the deal usually the guy would offer to pay to help reduce the chance of getting rejected.
Once you are in a relationship the dates then become half/half but I think the inital set of dates (3 or 4) maybe more depending on the attractiveness of the guy vs the attractiveness of the girl, would be paid for by the guy.
I think if you are 'dating' then it would be more then just sex, now on the other hand for nightclubbing, the guy will almost always buy the girl a few drinks to get to know them and .... well, you can guess the rest.
If you ask a girl out, it's acceptable that he pay. I don't play that gender role nonsense though, so if it's a first date at a nicer place, when I make the reservation I tell them that we're going dutch. This allows me actually tell the waiter at the end that I'm paying, and if she wants to insist on paying for her own than she can.
I don't mind gender roles so much, it's just those expectations.
I don't mind gender roles so much, it's just those expectations.