Poll: Who pays on a date?
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It relates back to sacrifice.
Guy's would go out and hunt and thus demonstrate they can provide, which would make them ideal mates.
Can't exactly hunt anymore, for the most part, so it's about how much money you can throw around. Demonstration of your ability to provide.
Of course with rising incomes and greater equality this becomes a moot point. Maybe.
Guy's would go out and hunt and thus demonstrate they can provide, which would make them ideal mates.
Can't exactly hunt anymore, for the most part, so it's about how much money you can throw around. Demonstration of your ability to provide.
Of course with rising incomes and greater equality this becomes a moot point. Maybe.
how does it prevent anything? If she was going to be a nasty i-have-teeth-in-my-genitals type paying for her dinner won't stop her (or you might get to the check and find out she already paid), I'm sure genuinely nice females wouldn't treat you differently if you paid or didnt payjonyboy13 said:
Well, it's all dependent on the type of date. If me and my swooning love are going out for a nice romantic evening and I'm all but expecting for our clothing to litter whatever room we end up deciding on, then I'm more likely going to pay for the food, gas, parking, and entertainment. Because a good wank just doesn't have the same feeling and prostitutes are more expensive if only by a little.
But if it's a casual date with a friend or a group outing to a restaurant before heading off to the movies, then everyone pays for themselves; unless it's arranged beforehand because someone is broke this week.
Honestly though, and like most of you, I don't see why it's come to be expected that men pay. It's outdated to think that women can't fend for themselves. Most of my female friends look at me like I'm crazy when I offer to pay for them anyways, so yeah, that's that.
But if it's a casual date with a friend or a group outing to a restaurant before heading off to the movies, then everyone pays for themselves; unless it's arranged beforehand because someone is broke this week.
Honestly though, and like most of you, I don't see why it's come to be expected that men pay. It's outdated to think that women can't fend for themselves. Most of my female friends look at me like I'm crazy when I offer to pay for them anyways, so yeah, that's that.
Ahh... I was referring to women who insist on being feminist yet still want the guy to be a gentleman(not equal treatment->not feminism). So basically once you pay she lose all rights to qq about equal rightsXDlovetropicana said:how does it prevent anything? If she was going to be a nasty i-have-teeth-in-my-genitals type paying for her dinner won't stop her (or you might get to the check and find out she already paid), I'm sure genuinely nice females wouldn't treat you differently if you paid or didnt payjonyboy13 said:
Just the two of us, usually me. Sometimes she says she's paying and I won't debate the point (she'll also end up with a better job in the long run so I'm getting ahead now.)
If it's an outing with other people we'll pay for ourselves.
If it's an outing with other people we'll pay for ourselves.
D:jonyboy13 said:Ahh... I was referring to women who insist on being feminist yet still want the guy to be a gentleman(not equal treatment->not feminism). So basically once you pay she lose all rights to qq about equal rightsXDlovetropicana said:how does it prevent anything? If she was going to be a nasty i-have-teeth-in-my-genitals type paying for her dinner won't stop her (or you might get to the check and find out she already paid), I'm sure genuinely nice females wouldn't treat you differently if you paid or didnt payjonyboy13 said:
Depends. Are you "taking the person out?" You pay. Or are you just going out together? Figure out a way to split the costs.
If some guy insists on paying out of some misguided sense of chivalry, whatever, your choice. If some chick *expects* to be pampered as such simply because she thinks her vagina entitles her to something, she can go to hell.
If some guy insists on paying out of some misguided sense of chivalry, whatever, your choice. If some chick *expects* to be pampered as such simply because she thinks her vagina entitles her to something, she can go to hell.
Pretty much. It depends a lot on the particular circumstances - if a guy is dating a much higher-earning girl, she can pay.Dark Knifer said:
If they're just friends, split it.
But once you're out of college and all working, "split it" means exactly that. Pulling out the calculators is petty and demeaning - just each pay half (or a quarter if there are 4 of you, etc) and call it a day.
Wow, guys! Isn't heteronormativity great?
The person who does the asking out should pay. That, to me, seems like the fairest arrangement.
The person who does the asking out should pay. That, to me, seems like the fairest arrangement.
