I hate not paying. In fact if we have agreed before hand that she will pay, then I pay with her card so I don't feel silly!
Poll: Who pays on a date?
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However it happens it will be a good indication of how the relationship will go.lovetropicana said:
There's no right or wrong way. If two people are right for each other it will work itself out and both will be happy. If it's awkward and you can't discuss how awkward it is you can safely say the relationship will have communication issues somewhere down the line.
I think the woman should pay every time. In fact I think it's sexist for people to say men should pay, it's like they're saying women can't do math. Liberate women from this misogynistic tradition, and let them pay.
Round here the guy pays for everything during the courtship rituals. Bill is split once they are together.
I say everyone pays for their own stuff. Hell, I'll offer on occasion, but in favour of equality there shouldn't be expectations that either person is covering everything unless that's the point of the outing.
Gender equality works both ways.
Gender equality works both ways.
Whoever does the asking pay and plans the first date. If there is a second date, the person who was initially asked out plans and pays for the date. After this, the couple goes dutch unless it is specifically discussed or that is the point of the outing (e.g. "You got a promotion, why don't I take you out to dinner?")
I'd say go dutch.
But then, I have personal experience with where that phrase comes from. XD
Mind you, the guy in a shop in Singapore quoted the phrase "Kijken, kijken, maar niet kopen".
Which means, more or less, "Look, but don't buy."
My, the dutch have an interesting reputation. XD
But then, I have personal experience with where that phrase comes from. XD
Mind you, the guy in a shop in Singapore quoted the phrase "Kijken, kijken, maar niet kopen".
Which means, more or less, "Look, but don't buy."
My, the dutch have an interesting reputation. XD
The guy, the first time at least.
Well, the guy until it's an actual relationship rather than occasional dates, at which point splitting the bill or taking turns is acceptable.
No idea what the protocol is for gay or lesbian dating...
Well, the guy until it's an actual relationship rather than occasional dates, at which point splitting the bill or taking turns is acceptable.
No idea what the protocol is for gay or lesbian dating...
For me it would be whoever it had been agreed upon to do payment beforehand, which would all depend on circumstances.
The one inviting, obviously, because that makes it an invitation.
If you are going steady, take turns.
If you are going steady, take turns.
Although I believe in equality among the sexes, I get genuinely anxious if my girlfriend pays for anything when I'm near her, and downright refuse to let her pay for anything on my behalf.
I'd love to say "half-and-half" but it's just been drilled into me so much I can't...
I'd love to say "half-and-half" but it's just been drilled into me so much I can't...
Equal splits for an equal relationship.
Doubt a girl would on reflection really want to feel indebted to the guy anyway, it kind of introduce some generally unwanted elements into a relationship, especially if it later becomes sexual in nature.
Of course, nothing wrong with taking turns picking up the tab, and it doesn't need to exactly mathematically equal out. But it should be a largely mutual show of affection, not some ancient custom from some backwards time when women weren't given the chance to earn and spend their own money as they please, including on a guy they wish to pursue a relationship with.
Doubt a girl would on reflection really want to feel indebted to the guy anyway, it kind of introduce some generally unwanted elements into a relationship, especially if it later becomes sexual in nature.
Of course, nothing wrong with taking turns picking up the tab, and it doesn't need to exactly mathematically equal out. But it should be a largely mutual show of affection, not some ancient custom from some backwards time when women weren't given the chance to earn and spend their own money as they please, including on a guy they wish to pursue a relationship with.