Poll: Whos right here

[Aarowbeatsdragon]

So my girlfriend and her friends are going to see the film magic mike which is just about these guys stripping. now i have huge insecuritys about my body and everything and the fact that shes ging to see this film of course have a problem with this so now we are in a huge fight and she just cant get why i care so much even though she knows the way i am and she says its just a bit of fun. Also before people ask i dont look at other girls in that way even celebrities and i sure as hell wouldnt pay money to go see a film about the "hottest girls in the world" stripping. So my question is, who do you think is in the right here?

EDIT: Thanks for the opinions guys, funny how none of you agreed with me but that made me see how wrong i was being. We've made up and although i still dont generally want her to see that film shes assured me shes not going to see it for the purpose of seeing those guys. And just so people arnt misunderstanding i was never going to STOP her from going i just amnt happy with her going.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Edit: Read it wrong, revised opinion below.

 

[Phasmal]

Eh, I'm so going to get chewed out for this...
She's in the right.

You can't control other people because of your own insecurities.
It's just a film, I don't think you should stop your girlfriend doing anything because of your issues. Your girlfriend obviously has made a choice to be with you, she doesn't seriously think she's going to jump through the screen and run off with a movie-star. It's natural to be attracted to people outside of your relationship, and suppressing that is not healthy.

Don't moan about her seeing the film, try and work on your issues. Hug her and ask for reassurance if you need to, but don't try and control her.

Snip.

I don't think she's making him go, I don't see that anywhere.

 

[MasochisticAvenger]

Yeah, Phasmal pretty much nailed it. You do not own your girlfriend, and cannot dictate what she can and cannot do based solely on what you do and do not like. However, I do not believe it is unreasonable for you to tell her you don't want to hear anymore about the movie. People might disagree with me on that, but I think it's fair.

Also, welcome to the world: 99% of us have some level of insecurity about our bodies. You're not that special in that regard .

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Snip.

I don't think she's making him go, I don't see that anywhere.

Oh wait, oops, I thought I read that she wanted him to go see the movie with her dispite his insecurities. My mistake.

@OP: She just wants to see the film with her friends and you're not comfortable with her going because it's about guys who are more attractive than you? Let her go see it, it's not like she's going to leave you for one of the actors, and if you show you're understanding, it will probably even strengthen your relationship.

 

[Bertylicious]

I'm going to disqualify you due to your poor grammar so she is right by default.

DE-FAULT! DE-FAULT! DE-FAULT!

Heh, seriously though you're letting your insecurities win this argument in your own head. Do you like your insecurities? Do you feel that they're laudable?

If the answer to any of those is "no" then you should use them as a guiding light in what not to do.

Saying that though you should address them in a constructive fashion. Perhaps with a therapist or similar.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Yeah, I'm with Phasmal. A woman is allowed to go see movies even if she's someone's girlfriend.

...

I actually had to say that?

 

[burningdragoon]

I want to say just suck it up, it's just a movie, but that would be a bit mean/rude, so pretend I didn't just say that >.>

Do you ever watch porn OP? You're *checks* 18? I would suspect the answer to that is yes. If so, you've pretty much forfeited already. If not, it's just a movie so chill out. You don't get to decide what is and isn't okay for your partner to watch. Especially if it's over being insecure. Everyone has insecurities and not being able to match up to people who have careers in looking good is not something that should bother you so much for you to try.

Edit: Feel free to roll your eyes at the movie though, just not because you're sad you don't look as studly

 

[Goofguy]

Definitely her. She's going out to enjoy a girl's night at the cinema, let her have her fun.

Word to the wise, just be careful with those insecurities of yours. Obviously, I don't know you or your girlfriend. However, while a small dose of jealousy is good for making a partner feel wanted, being very insecure about oneself can be a turn-off as well.

 

[Nigh Invulnerable]

I want to say just suck it up, it's just a movie, but that would be a bit mean/rude, so pretend I didn't just say that >.>

Do you ever watch porn OP? You're *checks* 18? I would suspect the answer to that is yes. If so, you've pretty much forfeited already. If not, it's just a movie so chill out. You don't get to decide what is and isn't okay for your partner to watch. Especially if it's over being insecure. Everyone has insecurities and not being able to match up to people who have careers in looking good is not something that should bother you so much for you to try.

Edit: Feel free to roll your eyes at the movie though, just not because you're sad you don't look as studly

That was my thought too. How many guys have watched a movie, whether outright porn or not, just because there were hot ladies in it? Unless they're gay, I suspect the answer is, "Every man".

 

[Esotera]

She's definitely in the right here. She isn't being insensitive about your body by going to see a film with her friends, and you shouldn't try and stop her from doing what she wants. If you're not doing anything already then it might be a good idea to take some positive action to improve your self-image - maybe getting into a new programme of exercise and watching what you're eating.

 

[itsthesheppy]

She's totally in the right. Even if you haven't sought them out, you've seen 1 billion half-naked or fully-naked world-class supermodel actresses in movies, but you almost never see the same treatment for men. Suddenly getting all self conscious about it is, like... what do you expect HER to feel, when she sees unrealistically beautiful female representations everywhere?

 

[Rawne1980]

I hope you lost a bet and had to post this question.

Silliest question of the year awards is getting a bit full already and we're only just entering July.

She's going to watch a film, a bloody film. Get a hold of yourself man.

 

[SilentlyHilly]

Of course she's right. It's really not even close here, you have no right to say she can't see a movie just because a hot guy takes off his shirt in it (which happens in most every romance movie anyway). It sucks that you're insecure about yourself. It sounds harsh but maybe seeing how girls react to a guy that keeps himself healthy and in-shape will inspire you to do the same.

I don't want to come off like a shallow ass here, but a significant portion of why I stay in shape is because there's nothing wrong with wanting to be a little more attractive. The other portion being that I physically enjoy being healthy and want to keep it that way.

 

[DrRockor]

This isn't the first time there's been a male stripper movie you know. Am I the only one that thought an American Full Monty when I saw the advert.

Just me? Came out in 97. 6 unemployed steel workers become strippers.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

Wow, really? You're insecure about your body and that means she has to stop looking at others, where the hell does that logic come in? If you're insecure about yourself then maybe you should improve instead of being so controlling.

Also, not looking at other girls is nothing to brag about, no matter how much you insist you don't we all know it's a lie.

 

[esperandote]

Full frontal male nudity? You could be right, guys in tonges, she's is right. I guess she wouldn't like you watching porn, even if you don't want to.

Crazy idea, join a gym, get a new haircut, buy new clothes and boost your selfconfidence.

Change yourself, not other people.

 

[SirPlindington]

She's right. It's just a bit of fun. She's watching a movie, for God's sake. You don't have to come, and if you're so insecure that you can't bear the thought of her looking at another guy, then that's your problem. Don't try to stop her from having a good time because of your issues if it doesn't involve you at all.

 

[Navvan]

Forcing her to do (or not do) stuff she wants to do based on your own insecurities is not only bad for you relationship, but completely illogical.

You don't think she doesn't already knows of the existence of more physically attractive males than you and can look at them whenever she wants? Let her hang out with her friends who want to see this movie. Your arguing has hurt your relationship (shows a lack of trust and a controlling behavior) than that ever would.

She is 100% correct in the argument.