Haha naaah dude I'm sorry. I was smashed out of my face when I typed that response and I honestly have no idea what the fuck I was trying to say to youTheGreatCoolEnergy said:
Poll: Why are you Single?
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I've put myself in relationships that are pretty much destined to fail. Plus recently I've been a little nervy about asking girls that I kinda like out.
To anyone saying 'nice guys finish last', I say "Bull" and I also say "Shit".
Nice guys don't finish last, they don't even start.
Nice guys don't finish last, they don't even start.
By choice. I know there are people who like me, but for two reasons, I refuse to go out with anyone.
One. I am way to busy. 4-6 hours of home work each night and weekends I'm camping with my scout troop.
Two. I have a tendency to be cold to people I care about and hurt them unintentionally. The people who like me? I'm close to them and I don't want to hurt them. So yeah.
One. I am way to busy. 4-6 hours of home work each night and weekends I'm camping with my scout troop.
Two. I have a tendency to be cold to people I care about and hurt them unintentionally. The people who like me? I'm close to them and I don't want to hurt them. So yeah.
I am a bit picky but I don't think that's the reason I'm single. I'm just beyond the threshold for "acceptable insanity" for most of my female friends.
I had a friend that I liked but she told me she wanted us to "stay friends" and then she goes off with some utter idiot who treats everyone else like crap and I'm left with no-one despite me helping her out of a financial nightmare with my own money and buying her a bloody expensive necklace.
Complete and utter correctness from this man right here.RhomCo said:
I had a friend that I liked but she told me she wanted us to "stay friends" and then she goes off with some utter idiot who treats everyone else like crap and I'm left with no-one despite me helping her out of a financial nightmare with my own money and buying her a bloody expensive necklace.
Combination- Haven't asked/been asked (Well, I did, but it didn't end well), too fat (In my opinion) and low self esteem, which plays into the other two.
Should the opportunity present itself, I'll stop being single, but I doubt I'll do much in the way of seeking.
Should the opportunity present itself, I'll stop being single, but I doubt I'll do much in the way of seeking.
Yeah, let's just stop at 'despite'... You know why? Nothing after that is relevent.TimeLord said:
Sure, what you did makes you an awesome friend but friendship has no obligations other than friendship. Unless, of course, you dug her out of her financial hole in the hopes that it would open her eyes to seeing.. I dunno... you're the one for her or whatever... because that would make you an idiot.
What I meant by "nice guys don't even start" is that 'nice guys' almost always try the "if I make a super-awesome-always-dependable-friend-she-can-lean-on she'll eventually realise I'm the one for her" route and Sitting and Wishing is not starting. It's not doing a bloody thing. What you (generic 'you') do is become dependable like an old sweater or a favourite chair, or even worse, you become a surrogate mother for the woman and that is NOT the way to a woman's heart and/or nether regions.
No amount of dependability or niceness is going to help you if your voice doesn't give her goosebumps and a simple touch on the arm doesn't make her toes curl.
Ok, if you are going to disassemble my comment I would like to point out that all the time I was helping her out and before then, she was flirting like crazy every time we spoke. She dumped her previous boyfriend of 2years for not caring enough about her and being kind to her. So what was I supposed to do if not be nice and help her out, sit like a lemon for some kind of and indication or try and get close to her?RhomCo said:
I can't be arsed to actually put myself through all the mushy nonsense to actually ask someone if they wanted to go out on a date. too much of one persons time wasted pursuing something that might not even happen.
Single, because I've never been interested in sex, hell, I'm not even that bothered by people in general. You can call it a mental disability if you want, in fact it probably is, but I'm happy, anything else hardly matters after that, does it?
Amazing how you post this a week after I broke up with my ex. I can get women to like me, but I just have low self-esteem. That, and the over-looked benefits that BonsiaK mentioned.
BonsaiK said:
Why I'm not seeing anyone:
1. The women where I'm living at either have children, are married, or are at least twice my age. I really don't want to deal with another man's kids and her baggage.
2. Low self-esteem/fear of rejection.
3. Ugly in general.
1. The women where I'm living at either have children, are married, or are at least twice my age. I really don't want to deal with another man's kids and her baggage.
2. Low self-esteem/fear of rejection.
3. Ugly in general.
1: I find it hard to talk to new people/low self esteem
1.5: I especially find it hard to talk to people who are already in established social groups.
2: Whenever I do find a nice lady friend to talk to they always drop in 'oh also my boyfriend did such and such'. I swear, every time. Well, every time, I swear slightly in my mind.
1.5: I especially find it hard to talk to people who are already in established social groups.
2: Whenever I do find a nice lady friend to talk to they always drop in 'oh also my boyfriend did such and such'. I swear, every time. Well, every time, I swear slightly in my mind.
Fair enough.JanatUrlich said:
Being a badass without being a jerk, sacrificing your morals, or fucking over your friends? Very thin line.heyheysg said:
OT: Got a few more reasons why: I am quick to judge, I hate most of the cliques at my school, I spend my days gaming, I am very unatheletic, and I am nervous around girls I like.
Not single but when I was it was because i was too shy to talk to girls, and was oblivious to signs of interest they showed, I have lots of friends that are girls but when it came to being more then friends, I was out of it. Now I have a great girl and and going on 2 years in 2 months.
I pretty much can't be arced...
That and the two girls I have ever met that I could even remotely see myself getting along with well for any extended period of time have been in relationships.
I swear, around here girls act like idiots because it's perceived as being cool, and I can't stand that, because they've acted stupid so long that they actually become stupid.
Mispronouncing simple words, incapable of simple math, unable to grasp the easiest of concepts.
That and they expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter, and have their every whim fulfilled then and there, no questions asked.
And if they don't get their way, they go and pout in a corner.
I'm just waiting until I find an easy going, down to earth, preferably nerdy, girl who just likes life as it is.
Too bad I have a better chance of being hit by a meteor, struck by lightning... twice... and getting run over by a bus while stranded on an iceberg, while being visited by the flipping ghost of Christmas past than finding anyone like that around here.
Oh, and while winning the lottery too.
It's truly a shame.
That and the two girls I have ever met that I could even remotely see myself getting along with well for any extended period of time have been in relationships.
I swear, around here girls act like idiots because it's perceived as being cool, and I can't stand that, because they've acted stupid so long that they actually become stupid.
Mispronouncing simple words, incapable of simple math, unable to grasp the easiest of concepts.
That and they expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter, and have their every whim fulfilled then and there, no questions asked.
And if they don't get their way, they go and pout in a corner.
I'm just waiting until I find an easy going, down to earth, preferably nerdy, girl who just likes life as it is.
Too bad I have a better chance of being hit by a meteor, struck by lightning... twice... and getting run over by a bus while stranded on an iceberg, while being visited by the flipping ghost of Christmas past than finding anyone like that around here.
Oh, and while winning the lottery too.
It's truly a shame.
Okay, this is where I point out that the following isn't aimed at you.TimeLord said:
The problem with a lot of 'nice' people is that they seem to expect some sort of reward for being nice. That is a huge mistake. Being nice to people creates no obligations whatsoever. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that being nice for the sake of some reward isn't being nice it's providing a service. Be nice because you like being nice to people or don't fucking bother is my view on it.
When it comes to helping out a female friend that you're keen on my rule of thumb is to never help them more than you'd help out any other friend. It really, REALLY cuts down on the bitterness when they, as people so often do, go off and do something that gives you the shits.
The other rule I stick by is never do something in the expectation/hope of a reward that you couldn't ask for upfront. "I will design a new tatt for you for a bottle of whisky," is something I'd say upfront. "I'll help you move house if you put on beer and pizza after," is another. "I will help you through a rough patch in your life if you'll be my girlfriend," is not something I'd say nor is "I'll help hide you from your abusive ex-boyfriend in exchange for sex." If you can't verbalise your motivations to the other person beforehand then you should think about examining your motivations is what I'm slowly getting around to saying.