It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?bdcjacko said:Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?
Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.manaman said:Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.bdcjacko said:What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.manaman said:And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.bdcjacko said:The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.manaman said:It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.
Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.
It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?
Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.
I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.
It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.Rayne870 said:It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?bdcjacko said:Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?
And I would expect them to ask me to turn it down long before. If it bothers them with me gone it bothered them before. Waiting for you to leave to turn it down is just plain rude, and shows no respect for you or your things.Mechsoap said:Though this is a workplace, with other people...Working...manaman said:It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.
Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.
How is it that I can only find one other person bothered by someone messing with their stuff without permission. I don't let people into my house to play with my stuff when I am not around without permission.LegendaryGamer0 said:Unsurprisingly, yes. :/
I'm a little OCD like that. :/
No it wouldn't have. I wouldn't be mad, and that wasn't the question. The question was if I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful, and so would be bothered. Bothered is only enough to get me to clarify that with a person. Mad is entirely different.bdcjacko said:Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.manaman said:Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.bdcjacko said:What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.manaman said:And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.bdcjacko said:The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.manaman said:It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.
Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.
It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?
Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.
I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.
No it quiet literally was the question. I asked if you left the radio on, and it was annoying the people still there, if you would have been bothered that they turned it down while you were out for more than an hour. Learn to read.manaman said:No it wouldn't have. I wouldn't be mad, and that wasn't the question. The question was if I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful, and so would be bothered. Bothered is only enough to get me to clarify that with a person. Mad is entirely different.bdcjacko said:Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.manaman said:Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.bdcjacko said:What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.manaman said:And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.bdcjacko said:The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.manaman said:It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.
Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.
It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?
Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.
I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.
There is nothing inherently wrong with country music...pop country on the other hand...Rasputin-2 said:If it's country music you have every right to unplug the radio and throw it out the nearest window.
Wait.... But... I mean.... The hell? You just typed the damn word I used.bdcjacko said:No it quiet literally was the question. I asked if you left the radio on, and it was annoying the people still there, if you would have been bothered that they turned it down while you were out for more than an hour. Learn to read.manaman said:No it wouldn't have. I wouldn't be mad, and that wasn't the question. The question was if I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful, and so would be bothered. Bothered is only enough to get me to clarify that with a person. Mad is entirely different.bdcjacko said:Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.manaman said:Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.bdcjacko said:What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.manaman said:And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.bdcjacko said:The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.manaman said:It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.
Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.
It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?
Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.
I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.
It's not me that can't read here, and you typed the thing in the first place.bdcjacko said:Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?
That's a big quote just so you can save face..manaman said:And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.bdcjacko said:The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.manaman said:It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.
Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.
It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?
It's true that I would have turned down the volume, or more likely turned off the radio when I left, but had I been in a rush and forgotten it would still bother me for the reasons stated.TheMaddestHatter said:But, in this hypothetical scenario, you aren't around. You've been gone for at least an hour and they've tolerated it that long, but around that point it becomes roughly impossible to ask you to turn it down.
OT: Not at all. I should have turned it down before I left out of courtesy.
But I was asked if something bothered me, not if it upset me. I never said I would be angry or upset, just bothered. I find it rude to touch other's things without permission, unless it cannot be avoided (as I find leaving the radio on and blasting music without consideration for others rude), however I do find it understandable to an extent so my only reaction would likely be to tell them to ask me in the future to turn it down if it bothers them. It probably wouldn't even bother me a bit if they showed up after I left as it's unavoidable to not ask permission at that point.
Sorry to hear that, I'm guessing she is or has freaked out about you turning it down as well then. I guess the thing to do there is just keep it tactful and just say that you don't mind the radio being on when she is present but when she isn't you appreciate some quiet time when you need to focus.bdcjacko said:It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.Rayne870 said:It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?bdcjacko said:Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?