Poll: Would it bother you if...

[mireko]

Nope, but I'd rather they turned it off.

 

[nitetrain8]

This is actually somewhat common in college at least when a roommate leaves early in the morning, before his alarm clock goes off. The solution is just to turn it off. He wouldn't know either way.

 

[bdcjacko]

Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?

It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?

It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.

Sorry to hear that, I'm guessing she is or has freaked out about you turning it down as well then. I guess the thing to do there is just keep it tactful and just say that you don't mind the radio being on when she is present but when she isn't you appreciate some quiet time when you need to focus.

I have mentioned it a few times already, but yes she flips out because...well I don't really know why. I am guessing some sort of control issue. She has used the line, "I don't go through your desk."

To which I responded, "I turned your radio off while you weren't here, and it is sitting on top of your desk, I was hardly going through your desk. Also if I wasn't here and left my radio on, and it was distracting you, then by all means turn it off."

To which she just got angrier and said, "DON'T MESS WITH MY DESK!!!!"

 

[Artina89]

No I wouldn't mind at all. In fact, I would have turned it off before I left. If I am watching/listening to something, I cannot leave for an hour and just leave it on.

 

[Chairman Miaow]

It would only bother me because they didn't have the levels of maturity needed to just ask me to turn it down/off.

 

[bdcjacko]

It would only bother me because they didn't have the levels of maturity needed to just ask me to turn it down/off.

How can they ask you if you aren't there?

 

[manaman]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.

And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.

It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?

But, in this hypothetical scenario, you aren't around. You've been gone for at least an hour and they've tolerated it that long, but around that point it becomes roughly impossible to ask you to turn it down.

OT: Not at all. I should have turned it down before I left out of courtesy.

It's true that I would have turned down the volume, or more likely turned off the radio when I left, but had I been in a rush and forgotten it would still bother me for the reasons stated.

But I was asked if something bothered me, not if it upset me. I never said I would be angry or upset, just bothered. I find it rude to touch other's things without permission, unless it cannot be avoided (as I find leaving the radio on and blasting music without consideration for others rude), however I do find it understandable to an extent so my only reaction would likely be to tell them to ask me in the future to turn it down if it bothers them. It probably wouldn't even bother me a bit if they showed up after I left as it's unavoidable to not ask permission at that point.

That's a big quote just so you can save face..

If the music is so loud that you have to be asked to turn it down, you're being inconsiderate.

If you have the philosophy that you're so great and special, that people have to come and BEG you to allow them the peace of mind they deserve, you've got another thing comin'.

Furthermore; are you serious? You think people DON'T tell others to turn their obscenely loud music down? How much good does it really do?

ZERO.

Really now. I stated that it would be rude of someone to not ask first. If they asked I obviously would have turned it down. Your whole point is kinda... Well non existent.

I keep saying over and over again that I would have probably already settled on a volume everyone finds acceptable and at least tried to find music everyone can enjoy to play on it.

This hypothetical situation comes from the point of someone that hasn't bothered trying to work with a person. The person asking this question actually thinks they are so special that others should magically know something is an annoyance to them, and act accordingly. I would go out of my way not to annoy anyone in reality, but inside the confines of this hypothetical situation I am anal enough about my stuff that it would bother me had they not asked first. Obviously I wouldn't be turning up the volume upon leaving so that would mean it always annoyed them. Again bothering isn't anger either. I would simply ask them to let me know in the future if anything is bothering them. Nearly non-existent issue solved.

 

[Rayne870]

Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?

It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?

It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.

Sorry to hear that, I'm guessing she is or has freaked out about you turning it down as well then. I guess the thing to do there is just keep it tactful and just say that you don't mind the radio being on when she is present but when she isn't you appreciate some quiet time when you need to focus.

I have mentioned it a few times already, but yes she flips out because...well I don't really know why. I am guessing some sort of control issue. She has used the line, "I don't go through your desk."

To which I responded, "I turned your radio off while you weren't here, and it is sitting on top of your desk, I was hardly going through your desk. Also if I wasn't here and left my radio on, and it was distracting you, then by all means turn it off."

To which she just got angrier and said, "DON'T MESS WITH MY DESK!!!!"

I guess diplomacy isn't gonna work there. If it makes ya feel any better my boss never shuts up about her husband and his travels as a submariner, and the trailer she bought recently and gah...annoying. It's ok though, now she's gone and a temp guy is now talking to me.

Midway through the convo I was held hostage to: "I didn't catch your name" followed by "It must be nice working here and having a laptop and no one to bother you". I'm a quiet guy and I generally need my quiet time.

 

[bdcjacko]

Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?

It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?

It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.

Sorry to hear that, I'm guessing she is or has freaked out about you turning it down as well then. I guess the thing to do there is just keep it tactful and just say that you don't mind the radio being on when she is present but when she isn't you appreciate some quiet time when you need to focus.

I have mentioned it a few times already, but yes she flips out because...well I don't really know why. I am guessing some sort of control issue. She has used the line, "I don't go through your desk."

To which I responded, "I turned your radio off while you weren't here, and it is sitting on top of your desk, I was hardly going through your desk. Also if I wasn't here and left my radio on, and it was distracting you, then by all means turn it off."

To which she just got angrier and said, "DON'T MESS WITH MY DESK!!!!"

I guess diplomacy isn't gonna work there. If it makes ya feel any better my boss never shuts up about her husband and his travels as a submariner, and the trailer she bought recently and gah...annoying. It's ok though, now she's gone and a temp guy is now talking to me.

Midway through the convo I was held hostage to: "I didn't catch your name" followed by "It must be nice working here and having a laptop and no one to bother you". I'm a quiet guy and I generally need my quiet time.

I know what it is like to be held hostage during a conversation. And you start to leave, and they follow you or talk louder so you have to keep listening.

 

[Rayne870]

Snip

George Carlin does a nice bit on it, where he is visually indicating that he would like to leave the conversation.

 

[bdcjacko]

Snip

George Carlin does a nice bit on it, where he is visually indicating that he would like to leave the conversation.

George is good comedian.

 

[silent-treatment]

Merh, I would probably turn it off when I left, because thats what respectful people do, but if I forget then I would have no problem with them turning it down.

Read: I am looking for confirmation that my overreaction was justified when it clearly wasn't.

I read it from the other side, like he/she (don't feel like checking profile...or even scrolling up) turned down the radio, and the co worker freaked.
Also, my lord Inglip, what does "hichu above" mean?

 

[Irriduccibilli]

No, its like people listening to loud music on public transportation, its really annoying. I would have turned down the radio myself. If I where the guy listening to the music I would probably use some headphones or such.

 

[Rayne870]

No, its like people listening to loud music on public transportation, its really annoying. I would have turned down the radio myself. If I where the guy listening to the music I would probably use some headphones or such.

I can't stand that either. And then there's the people with really loud conversations on cell phones. Though it is funny hearing some girl trying to defend herself when apparently she doesn't know how nudes of her got sent to her caller's boyfriend.

 

[Irriduccibilli]

No, its like people listening to loud music on public transportation, its really annoying. I would have turned down the radio myself. If I where the guy listening to the music I would probably use some headphones or such.

I can't stand that either. And then there's the people with really loud conversations on cell phones. Though it is funny hearing some girl trying to defend herself when apparently she doesn't know how nudes of her got sent to her caller's boyfriend.

Haha, I cant really say I have heard that one before, but yes, sometimes you can hear the strangest things. I once heard two girls having a conversation on the bus. They where discussing how big pigs men are. I heard the one girl say "Oh yeah, men also have way more one-night stands than women"... I almost jumped up yelling "WITH WHO!!!"
Some girls...

 

[liveslowdiefast]

may i ask why this was made? just seems kind of random. still no i wouldn't be bothered.

 

[Rayne870]

No, its like people listening to loud music on public transportation, its really annoying. I would have turned down the radio myself. If I where the guy listening to the music I would probably use some headphones or such.

I can't stand that either. And then there's the people with really loud conversations on cell phones. Though it is funny hearing some girl trying to defend herself when apparently she doesn't know how nudes of her got sent to her caller's boyfriend.

Haha, I cant really say I have heard that one before, but yes, sometimes you can hear the strangest things. I once heard two girls having a conversation on the bus. They where discussing how big pigs men are. I heard the one girl say "Oh yeah, men also have way more one-night stands than women"... I almost jumped up yelling "WITH WHO!!!"
Some girls...

I was in Walmart once helping my GF find something or other, there were two other people in the aisle with us, and this girl walks by yelling on the phone and out comes something along the lines of "no one wants to hang out with me" before I could filter my mouth I yelled out "Well if you would shut the hell up maybe you would have friends" The two in the aisle agreed and laughed while my GF chastised me for being too vocal.

 

[Drunkenclam]

No. Why would that bother anyone if there not even there..

 

[Irriduccibilli]

No, its like people listening to loud music on public transportation, its really annoying. I would have turned down the radio myself. If I where the guy listening to the music I would probably use some headphones or such.

I can't stand that either. And then there's the people with really loud conversations on cell phones. Though it is funny hearing some girl trying to defend herself when apparently she doesn't know how nudes of her got sent to her caller's boyfriend.

Haha, I cant really say I have heard that one before, but yes, sometimes you can hear the strangest things. I once heard two girls having a conversation on the bus. They where discussing how big pigs men are. I heard the one girl say "Oh yeah, men also have way more one-night stands than women"... I almost jumped up yelling "WITH WHO!!!"
Some girls...

I was in Walmart once helping my GF find something or other, there were two other people in the aisle with us, and this girl walks by yelling on the phone and out comes something along the lines of "no one wants to hang out with me" before I could filter my mouth I yelled out "Well if you would shut the hell up maybe you would have friends" The two in the aisle agreed and laughed while my GF chastised me for being too vocal.

Sounds like something I could have done. Sometimes I just need to shut up... or be a little more silent., but sometimes when you hear someone say something incredibly stupid, its really hard not to say anything

 

[bdcjacko]

may i ask why this was made? just seems kind of random. still no i wouldn't be bothered.

If you read the thread, all questions are answered.