Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[BENZOOKA]

No.

Sexuality is not the most important, but still a very important part of a loving relationship.

 

[liquidangry]

I don' understand the question... How do you "date" someone you'll never have sex with? Sounds suspiciously like a friendship to me. In my experience romance is a prelude to sex so I don't know how such a thing would be possible unless sex was a goal. I mean am I just doing nice things for them and flirting for no reason? I don't get it so I'd say no. A relationship without sex is just a close friendship.

 

[Gasaraki]

Nope, not a chance. Probably even being friends would be difficult. Not that I'm hypersexual or anything, but I've never met an asexual person who also wasn't extremely boring.

The two of you get along great

I can get along with someone without considering them a friend.

and develop feelings for each other

It's a what-if, I'm not asking "Do you think you could engage in a relationship with one of the asexual people you've met" I'm asking "If you met an asexual person and fell in love with them or whatever, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with them despite the fact that there wouldn't be any sex". You can replace "asexual" with "incapable of having sex for medical reasons" if it makes it easier for you.

 

[gostlyfantom]

I probably could, though i doubt it would last long.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

Why not? I have no qualms about dating someone who smells nice.


...Ba dum tssshhh

Go to your room.

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Ah, right. Duh. Christ, I shouldn't even fucking try to say things when I am this tired.
I get confused about the actual definitions. Some of what is accepted as asexual seems to contradict them. Case in point, masturbation.

 

[Terminal Blue]

Yeah.. I mean, I'm not monogamous anyway and I don't date people who haven't accepted that, so why not? I pretty much do that already, to be honest, in the sense that I have very close, emotionally involved friendships with explicitly loving components.

Also, it bears saying that being asexual doesn't mean you will never, ever have sex. People are perfectly capable of doing and even enjoying things they aren't innately 'attracted' to.

 

[Dags90]

I meant more in the sense that I'm not very physically attractive actually...

And do guys tell you they want to have sex with you before you start romancing then?

That was a 90's song reference. Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSdbQLXpmPQ

Through things like flirting or anything that hints at sexual orientation, yes.

 

[SpaceCadetMarty]

Sex is an important part of a relationship. Without it, the relationship will probably fall apart. So, no. At first I would probably say yes, but then after a while I don't think it would work. It's human nature. And an asexual person would most likely fall in love with a dog or a toaster over a human.

 

[dogenzakaminion]

Sex without love is as shallow and empty as love without sex.

 

[dementis]

To me sex is the only reason for a relationship, I can get meaningful conversations and close friendships from y'know my close friends, just need sex when you get bored of giving yourself the low five every once in a while.

 

[SpaceCadetMarty]

I accidentally reported myself... damn it.

 

[Verlander]

No, ish. I'm polyamorous, and so the sex thing isn't really an issue (although it slightly is), but my main reason would be "what's the point for them?". Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the desire for relationship, but my understanding of that is rooted in sexuality. A sexual relationship generally requires sex, otherwise it's a straight up standard relationship that you could have with anyone.

Also, without sex, there is a lack of emotional connection between partners. Sex is more fundamental and natural than current society allows it to be, and I personally encourage people to have plenty of sex, with different sexual partners, before they even think of settling down. That emotional connection, that potential hurt, that trust... all of that is essential to growing up, and between a couple, it is essential for that compatibility. The only "happy" situation I can see an asexual person being in is either in a relationship with another asexual person, or in an understanding polyamorous relationship.

I may be wrong, but the question asked for MY opinion, which I've given.

 

[thenumberthirteen]

I can definitely see myself engaging in a fulfilling Platonic relationship with someone. I mean sex isn't everything.

Look at bacteria. They've lived happily for millions of years without sex and they basically run the world. Therefore Asexual people shall one day conquer the planet.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Um...No?

I mean, I think the better question is, "Why would an asexual person WANT to date me?"

 

[Udyrfrykte]

The number of asexuals in this thread is fucking weird. I've read about 1% percentage of all people are asexual. Here it's like 30%.
What gives?

And on topic: Not a chance. As pointed out in this thread there would be several other, more fitting, candidates for a ms. Asexual.

 

[mega48man]

hold on a second, i forgot what asexual meant. is that like bisexual as in sexual preference or they have parts they shouldn't have?

 

[Antitonic]

hold on a second, i forgot what asexual meant. is that like bisexual as in sexual preference or they have parts they shouldn't have?

Quoth the Wiki:[sub][sub][sub][sub][sub]Nevermore[/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub]

Asexuality (sometimes refered to as nonsexuality), in its broadest sense, is the lack of sexual attraction or the lack of interest in and desire for sex. Sometimes, it is considered a lack of a sexual orientation

 

[Screamarie]

Though not asexual, I generally find sexual acts disgusting, noisy, and gross. Of course that could be because I am still a virgin...anyways I think that I could deal with being with an asexual person.

Of course it would have to be with someone I felt deep connections with, but I prefer to cuddle anyways, I generally have the belief that I probably won't have children cause they drive me crazy, and it'd be nice to know that the pressure to have sex was never there.

To me it sounds like a great relationship...but then again, never done it, so you know, what works on paper...

 

[Nimcha]

Nope, not a chance. Probably even being friends would be difficult. Not that I'm hypersexual or anything, but I've never met an asexual person who also wasn't extremely boring.

The two of you get along great

I can get along with someone without considering them a friend.

and develop feelings for each other

It's a what-if, I'm not asking "Do you think you could engage in a relationship with one of the asexual people you've met" I'm asking "If you met an asexual person and fell in love with them or whatever, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with them despite the fact that there wouldn't be any sex". You can replace "asexual" with "incapable of having sex for medical reasons" if it makes it easier for you.

I see! Then my original answer still stands. I couldn't do it.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

"If you met an asexual person and fell in love with them or whatever, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with them despite the fact that there wouldn't be any sex". You can replace "asexual" with "incapable of having sex for medical reasons" if it makes it easier for you.

I realize you said this to someone else, but I'd like to say - still no.

Also, I'm not sure that "incapable of having sex for medical reasons" is a fair analysis. Someone who can't have full intercourse might still enjoy sexual activities (mutual masturbation, oral sex, or other forms of parter-to-partner stimulation).

I mean, I've had relationships with women that went fine with similar. Of course, unless you use toys or use other maneuvers that some women might find painful, that covers most of the lesbian bedroom scene.

My point being, unless reaching orgasm could cause the person to have a heart attack or something, being medically incapable of sex might not prevent a person from enjoying foreplay. Whereas, asexual persons are often (not always) uninterested in foreplay or any other form of sexuality.