Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Kenko]

I couldnt. I have needs, and if they couldnt be met then I doubt it'd work longterm.

 

[Zhukov]

Uhh... not to be too blunt about this, but...

What for?

 

[Rayne870]

If you want a relationship where you don't have sex, get married. It's really that easy.

Also no...a sexless relationship isn't a relationship it's best friends.

 

[Wharrgarble]

Absolutely.

Later in life, sex fades. There is a point where you stop having sex with your loved one, and if that's the only thing you've ever cared about, then that relationship is pretty much over.

I'd rather be with someone I consider my best friend, because that way I'm fulfilled no matter what.

 

[darthotaku]

I would for the right girl. but I wouldn't see it turning out great. I'm a very umm... "tactile" person. especially when dating someone.

 

[Shayral]

Aside from the fact that there's always anal, handjobs and oral - I really don't care about that stuff but those will obviously matter in the long term, except for if you plan to be celibate all your life... Together.

To me what matters most is that the person in question is right for me. I can get by with the... limited sexual potential, but I won't be able to if the person doesn't click.

So yes, yes I would.

 

[EmperorSubcutaneous]

Ah, right. Duh. Christ, I shouldn't even fucking try to say things when I am this tired.
I get confused about the actual definitions. Some of what is accepted as asexual seems to contradict them. Case in point, masturbation.

It's okay, asexuality is kind of hazy anyway. Some of them masturbate, some don't, some of them are interested in cuddling, some aren't, etc.

 

[Scabadus]

You've got to remember that, by and large, asexual people don't "not want" to have sex and arn't repelled by it, they just have no personal desire for it. If you truely loved each other and one person in the relationship was sexual, you could still have sex.

As for my own answer, no, I would not. A relationship without sex is just a good friendship: importanet but not the same. If you can't stand being so close to each other, can you really call it a relationship?

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Though not asexual, I generally find sexual acts disgusting, noisy, and gross. Of course that could be because I am still a virgin...

**checks Screamarie's profile** Ah. Girl, you gotta get on that.

And sure, sex is certainly disgusting, noisy, and gross. The endorphine highs you get off the orgasms, though, make it all worthwhile.

Having a skilled (and note, I said skilled) partner makes the orgasms way better than anything you can achieve by yourself. Trust me, it's worth all the ick in the world. Plus, you can always shower afterwards if you're feeling really gross.

 

[EmperorSubcutaneous]

The number of asexuals in this thread is fucking weird. I've read about 1% percentage of all people are asexual. Here it's like 30%.
What gives?

And on topic: Not a chance. As pointed out in this thread there would be several other, more fitting, candidates for a ms. Asexual.

Seems likely that asexuals would be more interested in private activities like gaming than sexual people would, considering they're less interested in trolling for sexual partners. And even more likely to become obsessive enough about their hobby to join a website devoted to it. So, makes sense to me.

 

[bobknowsall]

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

That sounds like me. Are you me? But wait, I'm me! ...Or am I? Who are you? Who am I?!

I would of course encourage that person to seek help. They clearly have either emotional or chemical problems which are impacting their ability to live life fully.

...Wow, really? I know I shouldn't get involved with this, but believe it or not, asexuality is an actual orientation like heterosexuality or homosexuality.

Surely it's a lack of orientation? And almost vanishingly rare?

 

[GrimHeaper]

I thought it would be more along the lines of...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual_reproduction
Some people are born with both, though they cannot reproduce.
Weird to say the least,though you could still have sex...
Anyway with the type of asexual suggested sex wouldn't be likely though it would be eventual in a true longstanding relationship(10yrs+)

 

[Chromanin]

Yes, I would. I also am a bit confused on my sexual orientation. I don't know if I really am asexual. I seem to find both men and women aesthetically appealing, but I don't really want sex from either gender. I've been to AVEN myself and have read accounts of other people who feel the same way. Some even enjoy things like erotic stories and kissing but still don't want sex.

So I'm not really sure if I'm asexual or how broad a sexual orientation the term "asexual" encapsulates, but I would definitely date an asexual person.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

If you want a relationship where you don't have sex, get married. It's really that easy.
Also no...a sexless relationship isn't a relationship it's best friends.

Hey! That whole "married couples don't have sex" thing is untrue and generally pisses me off.

I've been married for 7 years. In the past week, my spouse and I have had sex six out of seven nights.

I also would like to point out that married couples don't have boring sex either. My sex life got WAY kinkier after we got married. Both of us have revealed secret fantasies that we never shared with anyone else - and tried them out. Often repeatedly.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Ah, right. Duh. Christ, I shouldn't even fucking try to say things when I am this tired.
I get confused about the actual definitions. Some of what is accepted as asexual seems to contradict them. Case in point, masturbation.

It's okay, asexuality is kind of hazy anyway. Some of them masturbate, some don't, some of them are interested in cuddling, some aren't, etc.

And then the waters are further muddied by things like demisexuality and the whole "gray-A" business.
Seriously, why can't this shit be easy. Why can't we all just be turtles or something.

 

[jamesworkshop]

No, due to my apparently crazy, wanting a family notion

 

[sigma2]

You guys do realize that sex doesn't make the entire relationship, right?

So my answer is: Sure why not?

 

[IamQ]

Perhaps. But I'm aromantic, so I'll probably never know.

 

[Antitonic]

Spoiler: Snip

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

That sounds like me. Are you me? But wait, I'm me! ...Or am I? Who are you? Who am I?!

I would of course encourage that person to seek help. They clearly have either emotional or chemical problems which are impacting their ability to live life fully.

...Wow, really? I know I shouldn't get involved with this, but believe it or not, asexuality is an actual orientation like heterosexuality or homosexuality.

Surely it's a lack of orientation? And almost vanishingly rare?

True, but that doesn't mean it's not an orientation anyway. Consider a scale: "Normal" orientations are 100%, asexuality is 0%. Everyone who is alive is somewhere on this scale, meaning everyone has an orientation.

Snip

Completely off-topic, but I'm loving the Flipside avatar.

 

[Verlander]

I wonder how many people who claim to be "asexual" actually are? Like those kids who go through that confused stage, and claim to be bi sexual/gay, when really they are just confused by the fact that they can actually show appreciation for attractive people of the same sex? I've also noticed (on this site, and in real life) a LOT of "asexual" people seem to be nerds and suchlike.

I just want to throw this out there, that having bad/no sexual experiences, or having a deep resentment of attractive people, doesn't necessarily make you asexual...

Disclaimer: I'm not pointing out any individual, or anyone specifically on this thread or site. Just interested in the actual number of asexual people. Someone earlier said that 1% of the population was asexual, and I'm certain that's a vast exaggeration.

Perhaps. But I'm aromantic, so I'll probably never know.

I've seen this term being bandied around, so I looked it up. It showed on Wikipedia like this:

Spoiler: Definitions of terms regarding romance among asexuals

Asexuals, while typically lacking in sexual desire for either sex, may engage in purely emotional romantic relationships.[19][20][21] Terms concerning this:
aromantic: lack of romantic attraction towards anyone of any gender
biromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of either gender
heteroromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of the opposite gender
homoromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of the same gender
panromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of any gender or lack of gender
transromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of variant or ambiguous gender
polyromantic: romantic attraction towards person(s) of more than one gender or sex but without implying, as biromantic does, that there are only two genders or sexes

Does that make you asexual as well, or not?