Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[bdcjacko]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

I suppose we could be friends. But if we aren't going to have sex, no I won't be dating them. It is pointless to do that for me. I need sex is a relationship for it to work.

 

[LightspeedJack]

Hahahahaha is this even a question?

COURSE I FUCKING WOULDN'T! I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but we all have the need for sex, it's a human need just like hunger and to downright deny those urges when it's with someone you love and are confortable with is just fucking creepy.

And all of you people saying your Asexual: being asexual and being AFRAID of having sex are two very different things. You may not be ready for sex just yet but like I said before, everyone has lust...even Jesus.

 

[dementis]

To me sex is the only reason for a relationship, I can get meaningful conversations and close friendships from y'know my close friends, just need sex when you get bored of giving yourself the low five every once in a while.

Or, that statement could be reversed. Theoretically, you could have sexual relations with anyone you were attracted to (could, as in physically possible), whereas you could only have an actual romantic relationship with someone you felt emotionally drawn to. If you feel no different towards your romantic partners than to your friends, you might want to consider thinking about your relationships. Of course if you only care about having BFWB (that'd be best friends with benefits) relationships, or even just the last bit, that's your business.

Personally, I'd be fine with a nonsexual relationship. As long as it's the right person, I don't see why not. Sex is great, but basing a relationship on it seems a bad idea to me (don't know 'cause I've never tried), unless of course nobody expects anything from it. Bottom line being that I could have a relationship without sex, I don't really see why people have such an aversion (sometimes I wish I were asexual myself, though then I realize I don't).

I flirt with basically all my friends, and the majority of my sexual encouters have been friends with benefits, I think people are to hung up on serious commitment and love etc. I'd rather just enjoy myself and someone else, the idea of being with one person for longer than a month is terrifying to me so I think why bother when I have friends who think the same way I do.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Nope. Pure heterosexual here and I do inevitably want children.

You can have children anyway though. You can still have sex with an asexual person, and there are ways besides sex to have kids. Just saying

I'm aware of it, I'd just rather do it all manually... XD

 

[Aijou]

Not sure quite what "asexual" means in the question's context

I could definately go for a romantic relationship that doesn't involve intercourse per se, I prefer to get off manually anyway and sex is generally hard work, but if it also means no intimate kissy-touchy stuff than no.

 

[bushwhacker2k]

I AM an asexual person.

Can you elaborate? To my knowledge it isn't technically possible to be text-book asexual, meaning reproduces without a partner and the child only inherits the single parent's genes.

 

[binvjoh]

No, I wouldn't.

Sexual feelings are a vital aspect of a healthy relationship.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I AM an asexual person.

Can you elaborate? To my knowledge it isn't technically possible to be text-book asexual, meaning reproduces without a partner and the child only inherits the single parent's genes.

So I take it you didn't pay attention to the subject matter of this thread at all.
We're talking about the nonsexual kind of asexual. Not the textbook biological definition.

 

[Littaly]

Let's see here.

Current status: No relationship - No sex
Hypothetical status: Relationship - No sex

Hey! It sure looks like the better out of the two options! ^^ So yeah, I probably wouldn't have anything against it.

 

[Drake_Dercon]

To me sex is the only reason for a relationship, I can get meaningful conversations and close friendships from y'know my close friends, just need sex when you get bored of giving yourself the low five every once in a while.

Or, that statement could be reversed. Theoretically, you could have sexual relations with anyone you were attracted to (could, as in physically possible), whereas you could only have an actual romantic relationship with someone you felt emotionally drawn to. If you feel no different towards your romantic partners than to your friends, you might want to consider thinking about your relationships. Of course if you only care about having BFWB (that'd be best friends with benefits) relationships, or even just the last bit, that's your business.

Personally, I'd be fine with a nonsexual relationship. As long as it's the right person, I don't see why not. Sex is great, but basing a relationship on it seems a bad idea to me (don't know 'cause I've never tried), unless of course nobody expects anything from it. Bottom line being that I could have a relationship without sex, I don't really see why people have such an aversion (sometimes I wish I were asexual myself, though then I realize I don't).

I flirt with basically all my friends, and the majority of my sexual encouters have been friends with benefits, I think people are to hung up on serious commitment and love etc. I'd rather just enjoy myself and someone else, the idea of being with one person for longer than a month is terrifying to me so I think why bother when I have friends who think the same way I do.

You're welcome to your own preferences, but the idea of FWB doesn't really appeal to me (and frankly seems a bit hollow). I think that people aren't hung up enough, but that's just perspective, isn't it? If your friends think the same way as you, then all the better for you (dodges awkward situations), but some people do like to live their lives that way and gain fulfillment from it. Just keep that in mind.

 

[RedEyesBlackGamer]

Yes. I see no problem with it. Masturbation exists for a reason.

 

[HerbertTheHamster]

Only strange people would take the fun part out of a relationship.

 

[bushwhacker2k]

I AM an asexual person.

Can you elaborate? To my knowledge it isn't technically possible to be text-book asexual, meaning reproduces without a partner and the child only inherits the single parent's genes.

So I take it you didn't pay attention to the subject matter of this thread at all.
We're talking about the nonsexual kind of asexual. Not the textbook biological definition.

That's nice but then you guys might wanna work on your terminology... as that's a completely false use of the term. Also, yes, I did stop reading to post that before reading farther into the post.

 

[Josh123914]

well I romanced Liara in Mass Effect soooooo I guess I already have?

 

[Something Amyss]

I'm more a fan of the people than the parts.

 

[Sarahcidal]

Honestly, no.
Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship... but frankly it's a big part of it.

 

[Nargleblarg]

If I fell in love than yes.

 

[dementis]

To me sex is the only reason for a relationship, I can get meaningful conversations and close friendships from y'know my close friends, just need sex when you get bored of giving yourself the low five every once in a while.

Or, that statement could be reversed. Theoretically, you could have sexual relations with anyone you were attracted to (could, as in physically possible), whereas you could only have an actual romantic relationship with someone you felt emotionally drawn to. If you feel no different towards your romantic partners than to your friends, you might want to consider thinking about your relationships. Of course if you only care about having BFWB (that'd be best friends with benefits) relationships, or even just the last bit, that's your business.

Personally, I'd be fine with a nonsexual relationship. As long as it's the right person, I don't see why not. Sex is great, but basing a relationship on it seems a bad idea to me (don't know 'cause I've never tried), unless of course nobody expects anything from it. Bottom line being that I could have a relationship without sex, I don't really see why people have such an aversion (sometimes I wish I were asexual myself, though then I realize I don't).

I flirt with basically all my friends, and the majority of my sexual encouters have been friends with benefits, I think people are to hung up on serious commitment and love etc. I'd rather just enjoy myself and someone else, the idea of being with one person for longer than a month is terrifying to me so I think why bother when I have friends who think the same way I do.

You're welcome to your own preferences, but the idea of FWB doesn't really appeal to me (and frankly seems a bit hollow). I think that people aren't hung up enough, but that's just perspective, isn't it? If your friends think the same way as you, then all the better for you (dodges awkward situations), but some people do like to live their lives that way and gain fulfillment from it. Just keep that in mind.

Oh I do don't worry I always tell anyone I might get with that I have no interest in a long term relationship and the likes, give them a heads up and go from there, I've tried the whole emotional relationship thing and I just couldn't get into it so I just stick with like minded people.

 

[KarlMonster]

For the record, having a fetish counts as being sexual.

Why? Because those people above, who require coitus in a romantic relationship, have a fetish for sex. Regrettably, now I have to invoke the cliche; "to each his/her/its own".
[I avoid cliche as a rule, but it is true, and applicable to this discussion.]

Now, I could wish that the OP had more clearly stated the premise. "Dating" was used in the title, but that was replaced by "relationship" in the statement of the premise. The two words are not homonyms. As a result, many of you are answering one of two questions;

1) Would you date an asexual person?
2) Would you enter into a relationship with an asexual person?

Personally, I have no issue with #1, dating an asexual person; since that is usually the process of determining compatibility. My response to question #2 depends on the outcome of the process implied by question #1.

Consider: if your normal "dating" process includes fabulous headboard-smashing copulation, then clearly your answer to both questions will probably be "no." [With a few "yes" votes if really great drugs are involved.]

Edit: and now that I consider it, the Poll choices are; "yes", "no", and "depends on the person."
The choice "depends on the person" is actually an implicit "yes" to my question #1 - because the process of discovering that person is called "dating."