Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Alexias_Sandar]

Complicated. I could see loving such, but...they'd have to be willing to accept me looking for certain things elsewhere if they aren't interested. I certainly wouldn't enjoy sex with someone who isn't actually interested personally, and asking them to bed me wouldn't feel right. At the same time, I'm a very tactile person, and well. Yeah, I don't do too well with too long without.

 

[Eldarion]

I don't understand why we need another label for that. I just assume a transsexual person counts as whatever gender they are trying to be. So it fits under bisexuality as far as I'm concerned. If I am attracted to either male of female partners a hermaphrodite doesn't seem like much of a leap, so that fits too.

Maybe I'm thinking about this to much.

LoL according to the wiki article, I'm transgendered because I believe that male-female gender roles imposed by society are outdated and need to go. I didn't know that either.

Yes, I should know all about how a transgendered person refers to themselves as the gender they associate themselves as, seeing as I have a few transgendered friends and have dated two transgenders, and I always refer to them as the gender they associate themselves as. But not everyone is as open minded as I am, and I know some people who wouldn't want to so much as touch someone that's transgendered, sadly.

Same would apply to someone that's a hermaphrodite. It would probably weird someone out if they saw someone with both sets of goodies or knew they had both. To me, it wouldn't matter, so long as I loved that person or at least liked them.

I don't blame you if you are thinking about this too much. But I identify myself as a pansexual and would like it if people would respect me for wanting to do so.

I just don't think that way. I believe that femininity and masculinity are traits independent of your actual gender. So a more feminine male or a more masculine female isn't strange to me. Its just varying levels of individuality. Same goes for sexual orientation, everyone is attracted to the human form it just varies how much attraction goes to what traits. I don't understand the need for such black and white labels. It oversimplifies a very complicated subject.

Not to disrespect your stance on the matter, but I have always thought of myself relatively equally attracted to certain male and female partners. That didn't rule out anything else in the slightest. I thought that was just bisexual. Have I using the wrong label for myself in the context of those labels?

 

[Ham_authority95]

Nope. Sex is something I want at every opportunity in a relationship, so it wouldn't work out.

I know that romance can still exist with asexual people, but it wouldn't be as fun for me without the sex .

 

[Ham_authority95]

Unfortunately, I don't think so. I think it would make both of us unhappy, because sex is important to me. I would end up unfulfilled, and feeling like I was pressuring them or resenting them for not wanting to have sex, and they would feel (I assume) uncomfortable, perhaps pressured, perhaps unhappy because they couldn't give me what I wanted.

Oh, I also agree with this. Relationships should be mutually enjoyable.

 

[Lambi]

I just don't think that way. I believe that femininity and masculinity are traits independent of your actual gender. So a more feminine male or a more masculine female isn't strange to me. Its just varying levels of individuality. Same goes for sexual orientation, everyone is attracted to the human form it just varies how much attraction goes to what traits. I don't understand the need for such black and white labels. It oversimplifies a very complicated subject.

Not to disrespect your stance on the matter, but I have always thought of myself relatively equally attracted to certain male and female partners. That didn't rule out anything else in the slightest. I thought that was just bisexual. Have I using the wrong label for myself in the context of those labels?

Maybe it does oversimplify, but I identify myself as pansexual, just like someone else identifies themselves as bisexual or straight.

Not really. You can always get to know other kinds of sexualities and see which one fits you, but if you identify yourself as bisexual, then I say you should continue doing so unless you find out you can identify yourself as another sexuality that fits you better.

 

[Rayne870]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

Come to think of all this...why would an asexual even want to date. Assuming they would probably have no sex drive why would they seek the companionship that goes with it and not be sated by having a meaningful relationship but not in such a way that cock blocks someone else. Thinking something like Boss and Naked Snake.

 

[Ace of Spades]

If kissing is okay, then I'd be okay with that. Sex isn't a necessary component of a relationship. Desirable, but unnecessary.

 

[Darkauthor81]

To what end? If I am not getting laid out of a relationship then its just like having a really annoying female friend who clings to me non stop and cock blocks me.
Relationships are about sex chap.

So no. Would not date but if we got on on a personal level then no reason not to be friends.

While I am way too horny of a person to date an asexual person, relationships aren't as much about sex as you seem to think. If you can't stand the person when there's no sex happening, you're not in a relationship. You're fuck buddies. There's a significant difference.

 

[trooper6]

I would not date an asexual person. Dating for me is about cultivating a sexual/romanic relationship. An asexual person would not be into a sexual relationship, so that wouldn't work out for me. For me, also, romantic and sexual go hand in hand, I want them both together and wouldn't be happy with romance without sex.

However! I would certainly be friends with an asexual person, maybe even be best friends. We could hang out and talk and be friends, in a totally nonsexual way. Which shouldn't be a problem since the asexual also doesn't want a sexual relationship with me, right?

ETA: One of the things that is really important to my romantic relationships is *desire.* I want to be desired and to desire in return...and then I want to manifest that desire physically and have the physical intimacy that come fulfilling that. Also note: I have a broad definition of sex, including mutual masturbation, oral, etc. But if none of those things are happening...none of the being naked before each other in that sort of vulnerability...I'm not going to be happy in that relationship.

Additionally, I'm *also* not going to be happy with a one-sided sexual relationship where only one of us are giving or receiving. I want some balance.

 

[Elf Defiler Korgan]

Done it.

It didn't really go very far. Yeah we had shared interests, she wore that asexual label proudly though, so the gates of paradise were well-barred. We broke up over the incredibly trendy and green stances she took, which she was so avid to defend and insist there was nothing wrong with valuing humans over animals at all (the illustrative example of the pony who rapes a person and gets away scott free since he is special and above being put-down by police or the courts still tops my hypptheticals on this issue). Oh and she threatened my life (the consequence of a human having so little value again I suppose). Not so great. One could say asexual but not without some seriously violent de-humanising emotion in there.

Where it gets funny is what happens next. She goes overseas, gets an eye infection and dies on the op table. Maybe modern surgery doesn't work on would-be druids? Gaia says no?

Course dealing with the grief was then easy. She didn't like humans, she didn't especially want to be around or a human, so she got lucky with being killed off young. She... won?

 

[RedMagic]

I don't see why not. Sex is just one of many aspects of romance, but I can understand how this can be a deal-breaker for some.

 

[Arkzism]

icould.... sex isnt that important

 

[Chemical Alia]

I could probably make do with one. Though I'm fairly aromantic, so I don't see what the point of such a relationship would be.

 

[curintedery]

Being an asexual myself, I would say yes... But I understand why people wouldn't do it. Sex is generally a large part of why people go from being friends, to being in a relationship.

 

[thespianicism]

You know, I feel like I would enjoy being in a relationship with someone who is asexual far more than I have any sexual relationships I have had. My whole romantic, Amelie-esque self cares far more about getting to know someone and sharing a deep personal connection rather than a physical one. I do have a sex drive, but it's very tame. It wouldn't feel like a 'sacrifice' to not have sex with someone I am in a relationship with.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

I would if it was an open relationship. Every person and your relationship is unique and valuable. I have friends that offer some things, and others that offer other things, it all depends on their personality and interests. I love playing music with some of my friends, and we're working on getting a band or bands together, but some of my other friends aren't really musicians, but they have so many other things I love about them. I can't expect all of my friends to be everything I want. The same goes for relationships in my opinion.

 

[Plazmatic]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

You don't mention why they wouldn't be able to have sex. sorry but /thread.