Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Katherine Kerensky]

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you completely misunderstand, no one thinks that. it's just that it's not about just sexing up your partner and being done with it, it is about engaging in the biggest possible act of intimacy and romance together. sure you can have sex with some one like that, and it can be fun. but it's not the same knowing that you're doing it with someone nonsexual.

I think you also misunderstand.
That edit was not aimed at you, it is aimed at the droves of people, both on this site and off, online and off, who do incorrectly assume that asexuals/nonsexuals are unable to have sex for some reason.
We're not interested, not celibate.
Sure, some may be, but the same can be said of any other sexuality.
And you have a nice opinion, but sadly, unless you can get into the head of everyone who has sex, it is wrong.
It could be said that if I were to have sex with someone, it would be more intimate/special, as I was not motivated to do so through sexual attractions, but purely from the love I have for the other person.

 

[Casual Shinji]

There can be love without sex. Hell, I can have sex with my boyfriend, just not interested. I can feel everything, I'm just not interested.

Not to pry or be judgemental, but is he okay with that?

I'm no expert on the matter, but typically the joy of sex is that you're not just enjoying it yourself but that you're making your partner feel good aswell. Wouldn't having sex with someone who has absolutely no interest in being sexually stimulated pretty much nullify this whole merger of primitive emotions and urges? It would be like dancing the tango with someone who has zero interest in dancing; You can still perform it, but the core sensation of two bodies insync with eachother is just not there.

Maybe I'm wrong, but it would seem a little odd.

OT: It would have to be one hell of an amazing girl. I would ultimately want to physically share myself with her and if that's out of the question, then there would have to be something exponentially glorious about her mere presence and personality for me to be fine with that.

 

[Kathinka]

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i know it wasn't aimed at me, i was just throwing that in

the part about having sex with no sexual atraction being more intimate/special makes not the slightest sense though.

Whenever a subject like asexuality or similar is raised, you then can't help but be a sceptic when so many people put their hands up and say they are. All you think about is many of the members being fairly young and in a lifestyle that potentially secludes them, and you come to the conclusion that they may only identify with

this pretty much sums up large parts of the phenomenon, way better than i could have expressed it. the attidite might be a little flawed, as you say, but i think there are large portions of truth about it. it's why i have trouble taking some rather young self proclaimed asexuals in long-distance relationships with partners they have not yet or have only a few times met seriously.

 

[Leg End]

There can be love without sex. Hell, I can have sex with my boyfriend, just not interested. I can feel everything, I'm just not interested.

Not to pry or be judgemental, but is he okay with that?

Yes, yes he is.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

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Not to pry or be judgemental, but is he okay with that?

Well, you can take a look at his post [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.272598-Poll-Would-you-date-an-asexual-person?page=5#10515333], or ask him, yourself <3
I would happily do whatever I can to bring happiness to him.
I guess it is part of my personality. I exist to serve.
If sex will make him happy, then I guess it is on the menu. I have no interest in doing it for myself, but I would do it for him, without question.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

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i know it wasn't aimed at me, i was just throwing that in

the part about having sex with no sexual atraction being more intimate/special makes not the slightest sense though.

Well, look at it this way: I do it completely for him. Selflessly. I have no interest in the act, it is something personal that I would give freely without reward to the person I love.
With sexual couples, they both have an interest in it.
He has an interest, and I'd do it to make him happy. To be with him, and have the knowledge that I had made him happy.
Eh, that probably still doesn't help. You need to experience it to understand.
And yes, I have experienced both sides.
Not always have I been this way. Perhaps it will change again, but I have no way of knowing that.
But I've accepted the change that happened to me.

 

[Leg End]

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As for what my boyfriend thinks, why don't you ask him yourself [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.272598-Poll-Would-you-date-an-asexual-person?page=5#10515333]?

Who? You just linked to a page. If your boyfriend is a member of this site couldn?t you just post a link to his account?

*facedesk*

She linked to his post. (-_-)

EDIT: Also, congrats on the triple 4.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

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Who? You just linked to a page. If your boyfriend is a member of this site couldn?t you just post a link to his account?

Incidentally, my web browser goes to the post, thus the permalink to the post.
I've gotten so used to it, I didn't realise that some may not do the same.
Also, he has the bottom post on that page.
I did consider linking his profile, but... linking his actual comment aslo shows part of his view, if just that post isn't enough for some people with other questions.

 

[bladax]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

Sorry Im probably about to make an ass out of myself but... well If we get along great WONDERFUL! but there will be sex. After all unless we are in the matrix they still have an anus or mouth. Again sorry If That sounded rude.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

This seems like the right place to put this: asexual people confuse the ever-loving shit out of me. Seriously, it just baffles my mind. How can you be a human being and NOT want sex of any kind at any time?

It's fucking weird in my book....but maybe that's cause I'm a very sexual-minded person. It just seems...unnatural (irony coming from a gay guy, but it does).

 

[mechanixis]

I think that's called "friendship."

 

[Leg End]

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As for what my boyfriend thinks, why don't you ask him yourself [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.272598-Poll-Would-you-date-an-asexual-person?page=5#10515333]?

Who? You just linked to a page. If your boyfriend is a member of this site couldn?t you just post a link to his account?

*facedesk*

She linked to his post. (-_-)

And when I clicked on it just went to the page not to any specific post.

Well, I can't remove this bruise. :/

Though, what browser do you use?

 

[Casual Shinji]

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Not to pry or be judgemental, but is he okay with that?

Well, you can take a look at his post [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.272598-Poll-Would-you-date-an-asexual-person?page=5#10515333], or ask him, yourself <3
I would happily do whatever I can to bring happiness to him.
I guess it is part of my personality. I exist to serve.
If sex will make him happy, then I guess it is on the menu. I have no interest in doing it for myself, but I would do it for him, without question.

Well, mix me in with eggs and flower and bake me to a light crisp! You and him?

This is me flabbergasted > *flabbergasted!!!*

I really need to stay intouch more with the goings on on this forum.

 

[gaiaquasar]

I have an open marriage, and great sex. I would definitely be interested in a romantic relationship with an interesting person, even if sex isn't on the table. Once you realize that sex is not the only thing that makes a relationship work, it becomes more about making connections with people. Those connections can be intimate, or intense, or physical, or emotional, or some combination.

 

[Illesdan]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

I have it all, baby! I'm married and HAVE a great relationship with an asexual man. My husband is the best friend with benefits while my asexual friend is the fun one I go out and do stuff with when I can't drag my husband out of the house.

Life. Is. Good.

 

[Leg End]

This seems like the right place to put this: asexual people confuse the ever-loving shit out of me. Seriously, it just baffles my mind. How can you be a human being and NOT want sex of any kind at any time?

It's fucking weird in my book....but maybe that's cause I'm a very sexual-minded person. It just seems...unnatural (irony coming from a gay guy, but it does).

Ehh, I'm not human, but I'll reply anyway. You should try clearing your mind of all sexual thoughts. Works wonders. Though, asexuals are those that had their mind cleared without prior notice.

I however, am not asexual by any stretch of the imagination. (O_O) Hence, my routine clearing of sexual thoughts. Besides, hugs are better.

 

[Dragonborne88]

This seems like the right place to put this: asexual people confuse the ever-loving shit out of me. Seriously, it just baffles my mind. How can you be a human being and NOT want sex of any kind at any time?

It's fucking weird in my book....but maybe that's cause I'm a very sexual-minded person. It just seems...unnatural (irony coming from a gay guy, but it does).

For me, it's more of the fact that I'm nervous and unsure about it, and have been for so long, that I pretty much made myself into it. Suppressing it for so long does that to a person. But otherwise, not everybody feels the same way towards everything. Not everybody is wired the same way. It's not weird, it's just one of many ways people are different. And events in people's past can adjust their thinking, along with how they were raised, ect.