Poll: Would you ever have children?

[lettucethesallad]

I don't particularly like children. I'm not looking forward to the responsibilities, being tied down, and suddenly having my life revolve around someone other than me. They're loud, smelly and obnoxious, and they cost a fortune.

...yet when I meet my nieces and nephews, I'll ***** and moan and say I'll never have kids, but somewhere deep in my heart of ice, I get the feeling that one day, I'll have a kid that'll be mine, and I can teach it to not be a snot-nosed brat. I don't like admitting it, but I think I'll probably be a mom someday. Not anytime soon, of course, I still have school, a career, travelling the globe and living my life for me to keep me occupied, but on the off chance that I'll one day feel ready, I think I'd do a pretty decent job.

 

[PurplePlatypus]

No, I don't want to parent.

 

[Agayek]

I might eventually have kids, and I'd like to think I'd be a fairly good parent, but the fact of the matter is, I'd need to have a relationship to have kids, and at the rate I'm going that's simply not going to happen, for a variety of reasons.

Who knows, I might someday, but it's not in the cards just yet.

 

[konor77]

no i just don't want to and i probably wouldn't be any good.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

i havent planned it yet. But since the pill is only 99.something% safe and me and my gf don't use condoms its not impossible in the future

 

[GeneralDefiance]

Me and the misses are expecting our first in november, im 25 which i dont think is too young at all, when i consider my mum and dad had me when they were 18.

 

[PhiMuLady]

I would like to have a family with my significant other (when I find him) and I consider children a part of that. I would also like a family fairly large 3 to 5, I have a few degrees so I should be able to help provide for them.

 

[JasonKaotic]

Hell no. Far too much responsibility for me. And I'm awful with kids.
People keep telling me I'll want them when I'm older, but no. I won't. Because I would not be a very good father. I'm too lazy.

 

[Fursnake]

No, I don't want to have kids...I'm male and it sounds like it hurts so I'm good. That's what a wife or girlfriend is for.

I'll help raise 'em though heh.

 

[trollnystan]

I want children - my biological clock has been ticking quite loudly since I was 12 - but I'm pretty sure I'd make a dreadful parent so I'm probably not going to. I'd be fine with both biological and adopted kids though.

 

[Infernai]

I'm gonna wait a bit till i do, as i'm only just out of highschool and is it stands right now i'd probably make a terrible parent...but at a later date when I've had a bit more time to settle into life and hopefully when the world around me goes to it's room, thinks about what it's done over the past decade and learns it's lesson (eg. When tag is no longer banned and people stop trying to do the job of parents while the parents don't do anything) then yeah i will have a kid.

 

[conmag9]

No, I don't want to have kids, nor do I want to be married (great idea, doesn't work for me specifically). I DO want to be an uncle however. Given that my brother is much more open to the idea of marriage and in a long term relationship, it's more likely anyway.

 

[Thundero13]

I'm gay, which is good in this respect because I can control how many kids I have, anyway i'd like to adopt but probably just one or maybe two children, this is all when i'm older that is, 14 years old isn't really the time to worry about it...

 

[MasterMuffinMan]

I'll probably adopt (assuming my partner was okay with that)
i just dont really fancy the baby stage. Plus giving a kid a new home seems like a nicer thing to do.

Yeah... come to think of it... This would eliminate most of the concerns I cited with having kids, personally. And it would give a kid a second chance at life.

The only thing is, that whole baby stage you mention is where a lot of the essential bonds are formed. A kid you adopt can be just as gracious and loved by you as any child you raised yourself, but I don't know if that level of bondedness would ever be present.

Im not a girl, so i'd probably have less of a biological connection to any potential babies, So that doesnt really bother me.
But obviously its something that would be taken into consideration for the significant other.

Don't underestimate the connection made by all members of the family to their own baby. Not to mention the fact that sharing a genetic bond makes differences that you would never notice otherwise. I am the only natural child of my parents' 4 children, and despite my siblings having the same upbringing as me, they are completely different people to me and my parents. They exhibit behaviour and mannerisms that none of us have, but that their birth families (who they have minimal contact with) do.

Experience speaking here: nature beats nurture every time. I'm not saying that adoption is a bad thing - not at all, it's a huge thing to be able to do - but think incredibly carefully before doing so. Children who are in a position to be adopted are probably from a difficult background (the proportion of cases of orphans who have no family to take them in is very low), so there will most likely be attachment issues.

tl;dr - Adoption ain't all like Annie, it's just that no-one tells the stories of what it's like when it goes wrong.

 

[William Dickbringer]

Sure probably one id at first then (if my wife wants another one) adoption

I love to have kids.

Its just the parents always demand them back...

... and then the police get called.

Ok that was funny well done good sir

 

[damselgaming]

I look forward more to the creation of them. Children from age 0-5 annoy me beyond all belief though at the moment.

 

[TheAmokz]

No. Never.

Hopefully i will life and die alone.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

so even if I wasn't ugly

*stalky stalky stalk* You're not ugly. 99%+ of people aren't ugly, it's just that most people dislike photos of themselves.

Anyway, yes, I plan to have kids someday, once I've finished uni/got a job/generally settled down. I like the idea of teaching a miniature me about things. Or a couple of mini-mes.
Also, my little sister's nearly 16 years younger than me. In a weird way, that's almost a parent-hood preview. And it's fun!

EDIT:

Yes Yes Yes! I cant wait to be a father. Really cant, I think its one of those life affirming moments that I really want to experience

What this guy said

 

[Adultism]

No, I wouldn't be able to handle it, and I'm a generally bad person with a very short temper.