I'd hit anyone who'd hit me, male or female, and I don't expect to get away with shit just because I have a vagina. Equality is equality, not just when it's convenient.
Poll: Would you ever hit a woman?
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I grew up in a house with three sisters, who taught me that a fight is a fight. If someone attacks me I have the right to defend myself regardless of Gender or Age* I constantly had to defend myself against my sisters and let me tell you, chicks fight dirty man. Seriously, they can be brutal!
OP I had a story pretty close to yours, but it happened to my best friend and it's slightly different. He too was constantly picked on by a girl in high school (Which can be the most demeaning forms of abuse) for the longest time he refused to hit her back. She would pull his hair, slap him HARD, kick him in the rancheros and generally just be a bother to him.
She found he was very agitated when she pinched that little bit of skin in the back of your arm. You know what I am talking about. She would pinch him when he was walking and twist it so severely that it would bring tears to the poor guys eyes. Then she would make fun of him for crying. This went on for awhile, Me and my buddies tried to stay between them, I scared her off a few times with a push or harsh words but we weren't around all the time and us backing him up against this girl humiliated him. Anyone one day my buddy snapped. She was getting that tender spot and she must have hit it just right cause he turned and landed a pretty nice straight to the bridge of her nose, sending her flying down a flight of stairs.
She was uninjured in the fall luckily, but do you know what she did? She got a gang of guys to go after my buddy and try to beat the shit out of him for defending himself. They did too, because they were brought up to never hit a woman. He got a beating but that girl never bothered him again.
Now the point I am making with that story is this, I am sure most people will say they would never hit a woman and that's fine to say - in theory. But you need to remember what's morally right and what's morally wrong doesn't always apply to everyday situations.
There are Moral grey areas, where, when someone is pushed to far might not do the 'Morally Correct' thing at the time. In that story, no, what my friend did was not 'morally correct'. Yes he should have sought help from an adult. He didn't because he was a teenager being bullied by a girl, and that's hard to admit, I don't care who you are. He was bullied and abused for a very long time and regardless of age or gender he put a stop to it when pushed to far. Putting myself in his situation I would probably have reacted the same way, only a lot quicker.
* It only goes so far, I would never demolish a four year old...usually.
OP I had a story pretty close to yours, but it happened to my best friend and it's slightly different. He too was constantly picked on by a girl in high school (Which can be the most demeaning forms of abuse) for the longest time he refused to hit her back. She would pull his hair, slap him HARD, kick him in the rancheros and generally just be a bother to him.
She found he was very agitated when she pinched that little bit of skin in the back of your arm. You know what I am talking about. She would pinch him when he was walking and twist it so severely that it would bring tears to the poor guys eyes. Then she would make fun of him for crying. This went on for awhile, Me and my buddies tried to stay between them, I scared her off a few times with a push or harsh words but we weren't around all the time and us backing him up against this girl humiliated him. Anyone one day my buddy snapped. She was getting that tender spot and she must have hit it just right cause he turned and landed a pretty nice straight to the bridge of her nose, sending her flying down a flight of stairs.
She was uninjured in the fall luckily, but do you know what she did? She got a gang of guys to go after my buddy and try to beat the shit out of him for defending himself. They did too, because they were brought up to never hit a woman. He got a beating but that girl never bothered him again.
Now the point I am making with that story is this, I am sure most people will say they would never hit a woman and that's fine to say - in theory. But you need to remember what's morally right and what's morally wrong doesn't always apply to everyday situations.
There are Moral grey areas, where, when someone is pushed to far might not do the 'Morally Correct' thing at the time. In that story, no, what my friend did was not 'morally correct'. Yes he should have sought help from an adult. He didn't because he was a teenager being bullied by a girl, and that's hard to admit, I don't care who you are. He was bullied and abused for a very long time and regardless of age or gender he put a stop to it when pushed to far. Putting myself in his situation I would probably have reacted the same way, only a lot quicker.
* It only goes so far, I would never demolish a four year old...usually.
I know...they arnt (I'm still baffled as to why...for some reason I am "entitled" to have the door held open for me or being allowed to go into the elevator at work first..)Aprilgold said:
ok..mabye instead of genralisations we should look at induvidual cases, but I still think men are "built" to be stronger...
Well, i am a pacifist and the likelyhood of me hitting anyway in these times of my pacifism are very small.
so i chose the middle one
so i chose the middle one
Yeah it's best to let them beat you or harrass you imho, best policy around. If you stand your ground, obviously you're an asshole and deserve to be picked on!rutger5000 said:
I'd say in some cases there's a differenceMortai Gravesend said:
like a guy who goes out and gets into a nasty bar fight with another guy...yeah he's probably an unpleasant person
a guy who periodically hits his wife for so many years...causing her physical and psychological harm...Id say is a special kind of scum...unlike the other guy in the barfight she cant "hitback" because he's physically stronger
well from what Ive read about thease things its not just physical..but phsychlogical...like the victem still loves the abuserMortai Gravesend said:
"he was upset..it was just this one time"
"it was my fault..I said the wrong thing"
"he had a tough up-bringing...I know he doesnt really mean it, he cant help it somtimes"
"he loves me..I know he does..he jsut has a temper is all"
"I dont know what I would do if he left me..I dont want to be alone, he says he loves me, he said he was sorry"
that kind of thing
As a general rule, I don't hit people.
However, if I am in a situation where it becomes necessary, gender makes no difference to me.
However, if I am in a situation where it becomes necessary, gender makes no difference to me.
Gender would be pretty much irrelevant. I wouldn't hit someone weaker then me unless they hit me first. I wouldn't hit someone stronger then because I like my face how it is.
If someone about my strength was verbally abusing me and I felt the need to shut them up then yes I would hit them regardless of gender. I obviously wouldn't try to knock them out but I would make sure they shut up.
If someone about my strength was verbally abusing me and I felt the need to shut them up then yes I would hit them regardless of gender. I obviously wouldn't try to knock them out but I would make sure they shut up.
A person's sex is irrelevant; I don't hit anyone unless it's to defend myself or someone close to me, therefore the sex does not change anything.
The only reason I'd consider gender in this situation is if they were pregnant or something. Not pregnant, then you'll be treated the same as if you were a man.