Poll: Would you have sex as an act of kindness?

[Silentpony_v1legacy]

I feel like I should say 'doesn't matter, had sex' simply because no one has and as a guy its my job, but it would feel a lie. See I never understood our culture's fascination with sex. Yes I've had it, and yes with multiple people, and many of them were/are very attractive. I was just always left thinking 'THAT was it?!' Sex is all well and good if there isn't anything good on TV or Netflix. Or you have no books to read. Or there isn't a micro brewery in town to get a good drink at. Or your 360 and lappy are both broken and you can't play any games.

As for the 'sympathy' part, doesn't it defeat the purpose of the act of kindness if you have to force yourself to do it? Or admit you'd never have done it for 'reals'? I can't imagine this scenario playing out well for anyone involved.



P.S. Doesn't matter, had sex! Boosh!

 

[Muspelheim]

Welp. Perhaps. Would depend on the circumstances, of course. But it's not a particularly long business, and if it was some sort of civil duty, I might. I don't particularly want to, but I could.

Of course, the question is if I should. It wouldn't be two human beings having sex for mutual comfort and enrichment, it'd be me doing my (strange, misguided) duty. It wouldn't have very much worth, and the endorphine levels released would probably reflect that. It'd be akin to the townspeople sacrificing one of their own to the dragon. That practice wouldn't do anyone any good.

And who'd want to get nobbed by someone that only does it for the old blue and gold anyway? It'd be a bewildering, unsatisfying mess of an experience.

 

[Queen Michael]

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

 

[Flammablezeus]

No. They might think that they want it, but sex where one person isn't really interested is worse than no sex at all.

 

[kasperbbs]

I wouldn't. I don't see how that would help that person..

-"i'm ugly and nobody loves me, but at least i wont die a virgin because somebody had sex with me and then he/her never wanted anything to do with me again".

And why does it have to be sex, there are many ways to cheer someone up.

 

[Jack Action]

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

You only have sex when you're blind drunk?

Edit for on topic-ness:

I'm a very proud man. I'd see someone giving, or even thinking about giving me a pity fuck as a massive insult, so no, I wouldn't. I see no reason to ever insult anyone like that.

 

[The Almighty Aardvark]

Well, if they ask afterwards why I had sex with them and my only answer is because I pitied them; that would make both sides feel awful. So no, I'm not the kind of person to do that.

I came into this thread thinking that, but as it's framed... if they're making it their Make a Wish Foundation wish then I don't think they care too much if it was out of pity, otherwise they'd just ask. There must be an assumption that you wouldn't normally do it.

Which at the same time makes me a little bit less inclined to do it, because they're aware they'd be guilting you into it. I'd have to say no. If I found them absolutely repugnant and there wasn't anything for me to be attracted to I don't think I could do it without making them feel worse about themselves (I probably wouldn't be able to hide the fact I wasn't into it). Also, I'm a guy and I've had trouble a couple times keeping it up long enough for someone I was quite attracted to, so that would probably not end up working in the first place.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

If I could possibly get an erection with them naked and they didn't have anything, why the fuck not. Would've definitely volunteered for the proposition made by the cancer woman from fight club, for example.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

And why does it have to be sex, there are many ways to cheer someone up.

Because that was the hypothetical posed by the joke mentioned in the OP.

 

[PlayerDos]

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

You only have sex when you're blind drunk?

You know, that's a legit problem I had when I was younger, I just couldn't get it up unless I was smashed.

That problem disappeared over time, but for a while there I was wondering if I'd ever remember having sex more than just a few flash frames.

OT: No because it would be too hard to get hard.

 

[pearcinator]

Most people aren't that shallow. Since when does looks completely factor into whether or not that person gets laid? I also concur with the other people here who say why does a relationship have to be built on sex? I also see pity-sex as an insult to that person, not a 'gift'.

I don't get Louis C.K.s humour at all. Hell, I completely disagree with him on this matter. Maybe he really is that shallow of a person and looks matter to him above all else. I find those kind of people unattractive I've seen girls who are smoking hot but are absolute bitches. Those girls are uglier than the ugliest-looking nice girl.

I voted 'I definitely wouldn't' not because they aren't attractive but because I find it an insult to that person. If they are so desperate then there's always alternatives (e.g. brothel).

 

[Jenvas1306]

If sex is that damn important to them, why not get a prostitute?
given that I am not a protitute, I wont sleep with someone Im not attracted to.

whats sex without attracton and feelings?
nothing more than lame masturbation that you do with another persons bodyparts instead of your hand.

 

[krazykidd]

Sure. I fuck ugly people all the time. I mean hell, if it increases my number ( we all secretly count inside) i would. If that person was a woman( and born a woman) of course ( no offense to the lbgt crowd). Hell i had sex with a 5 foot tall cross eyed girl with braces once. I just don't tell people how ugly they were,i just say [ insert name here] was number 15.

I'm a terrible person.

 

[Caiphus]

No. I'm afraid I'm just not that selfless when it comes to putting my penis into things.

Haha, comes.

 

[ObsidianJones_v1legacy]

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

I'm with Michael. I don't even get the logistics of it.

to all who deride such a response, it's akin to saying to a homosexual man "It's all just flesh. Just put it in the vagina."

It doesn't matter if it's flesh. Our interest in the flesh is what matters. There have been perfectly beautiful women who were interested in me (God knows why), and nothing was happening downstairs. If I find a woman unattractive, that's the end of the conversation.

Try to guilt people all you want, but the only reason physical attraction matters is sex. That's the only reason. It doesn't signal how smart you are. It doesn't tell if you're a good person or if you're not. It doesn't make you funny. Physical attraction only matters for sex. Intelligence, Wit, Charm, Humor, Kindness... yeah, totally tally all of that up if I want to make a lasting relationship with a woman. But if we're talking a roll in the hay and the only thing I have to go on is whether I find her attractive or not? No. There will be no sexual experience if I find her ugly and/or unattractive.

 

[DementedSheep]

"there's someone out there for everyone" usually applies to relationships which has a great deal more to it than sex. Either way hell no! That's just asking for issues later on if they develop genuine feelings for you and even without that issue still no. Their Make a Wish being to have sex with me would make even less likely to sleep with them or do anything with them at all and I really don't appreciate being guilt tripped into pity sex. Besides if its just sex you can live just fine without it and if you're really desperate go hire some prostitute.

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

Y'know there are drugs for that.

 

[Muspelheim]

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

Mind over matter, mein freund... Mind over matter.

 

[Something Amyss]

I'm not having sex with anyone I'm not attracted to on some level.

 

[Candidus]

I'd use my restraints and toys on them perhaps, but intercourse with the kind of person evoked in my mind by the phrase "lightspeed ugly"?

No... A man can only mind-game himself so hard; I probably `couldn't` even if I'd be willing.