Poll: Would You Participate in Group Sex? (mature)

[Ellen of Kitten]

I realize I'm asking a group of largely men, and, well, I'm pretty sure I know the average answer already. But that doesn't mean we can't discuss. But hey, lets be adults. Yeah, we're talking about, huh-huh, sex. But lets not get raunchy. Deal?

So I bring this up because I was asked to join in on what can only be described as a group sex gathering. A smattering of male, and female participants, and myself who is a trans woman. Not a large group (not what I'd class an orgy). I didn't even blink an eye when I accepted the invite (especially the way it was proposed), but I find some of my close friends I told were more in line with hesitating with the idea.

So I ask you, whatever your situation, would you? Assume what you want about the situation. In my case, everyone is a sexy *****. I know that's not true for everyone.

(I didn't keep a spot for "already had group sex" because this is not about bragging, this is about would-you. )

 

[Dystopia]

Yes, I have done previously (also drunkenly). Was fun at the time, but I did feel a bit cheap afterwords. I tend to stick to less than 4 people in my liaisons now, but I wouldn't rule it out for definite.

 

[Gruchul]

I'm awkward enough with one other person in the room. I'm sure I'd consider it if asked, but I think I'm a little too shy.

 

[stormtrooper9091]

it would depend on MANY things tbh

 

[RatRace123]

If it's done casually then yeah, hell I myself was offered to join a threesome once, in 10th grade.
Looking back now, I regret saying no.

I guess if you look at it as something in life you'll need to try once.

 

[Outright Villainy]

Not right now, no, being in a stable relationship.

If I were single? Well, I think it'd honestly depend on how attractive they were, to put it bluntly. I wouldn't be against trying it once or more, but I'm not pushed either.

 

[Dexiro]

Maybe when I'm a bit more confident in bed, knowing some of my friends I wouldn't be surprised if It actually happened at some point.

 

[Negatempest]

Lets see, still a virgin myself. Have a self rule that 1st time would be with someone I actually love. If for some unknown reason I get dumped in the future, yes I would....though I am a bit of a sadist at heart so don't know that would appeal to the group.

 

[GiantRaven]

Personally, I'm fine enough with one other person. If you're into that kinda thing though then all power to you.

 

[wooty]

I've been offered a threesome in the past, but I turned it down. I'm not really into that kind of stuff. Hell, I dont even like recieving oral, so an orgy is definately out of the question.

 

[Duffeknol]

No, because I'm old fashioned. You cannot just have casual sex with a bunch of people. It's just not done.

 

[geldonyetich]

Personally, I don't find group sex to be all that sensible or practical.

From the disease-distribution perspective, group sex generates an exponential increase in infection risk. In one on one, you're not going to get infected by the girl you didn't sex because the girl you did sex also sexed the man that sexed the infected girl - at least, not in the same sitting. In group sex, there's not even a need for incubation, it only takes one diseased cell to infect you, you're just as likely to catch it straight from the same gender via a vector. Speaking of which, lesbian sex is actually a bit more dangerous [http://std.about.com/od/stdsspecificcommunities/a/lesbiansafesex.htm] than heterosexual due to belief contraceptives are unnecessary. In group sex, you'd best wear your contraceptives like you're wading into a small communal sewer: you demonstratively are.

From a social ramifications perspective, group sex introduces quite a number of awkward factors:

• - Exactly how serious is your relationship here? Apparently not much, seeing how apparently there's a need to double up.
  - Intimacy? Stop trying, darling, this is a public spectacle and you know it.
  - If you meet Ms. Right, would she take offense to having heard of your sorted past?
  - Whoops, somebody got pregnant... now, who's paying the child support?
  - What do you mean you won't submit to DNA testing and the state backs you up in saying I'm the legal father... nobody in either of our families have red-hair?
  - Yes, child I adore? Who's your father? About that... we're still deciding. Please stop cutting yourself.
  - Whoops, one bum contraceptive and it seems I got two people pregnant... uh, I can't afford that.
  - Hi mom and dad, long time no talk, so anyway, funny story...

From a pleasure standpoint, are more orifices better than one? I suppose you have the luxury of a comparison but, from a sheer technical standpoint, we're not a polygamous species. One on one is nice and intimate. Throwing more at it, you lose the intimacy, you're now put under social performance anxiety, and to do it all for an orgasm comes off as a little desperate.

Have I ever fantasized about being with more than 1 girl at a time? Sure, but fantasy is just that - unlike reality, my imaginary partners never have STDs and are my own personal harem. I prefer to keep my line between fantasy and reality in tact, as this tends to avoid a wide number of serious consequences. In the end, best leave group sex to porn stars, professionals who are well monetarily compensated to bear the realities of it [http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2009/06/at-least-16-previously-unpublicized-hiv-cases-in-porn-film-performers-public-health-officials-say.html] for us so we can enjoy the fantasies without that burden.

 

[New Troll]

It would have to be several females I was highly attracted to pressuring me into it. And even then, still probably no/. I'm way to monogomous so I can guarantee you if it did happen, my lover would be getting all of my attention.

 

[Fenring]

No, because... just no. Unless I was really drunk, because then I just make bad decisions all day.

 

[thylasos]

I'm not a fan, really. No problem with other people participating in whatever type of concsensual sex they fancy, but it's not for me.

 

[Ellen of Kitten]

Lets see, still a virgin myself. Have a self rule that 1st time would be with someone I actually love. If for some unknown reason I get dumped in the future, yes I would....though I am a bit of a sadist at heart so don't know that would appeal to the group.

Don't be surprised if you find yourself SUPER attached to the person you lose your virginity to. It's inevitable. It happened to me, and a bunch of my friends, male and female (and everything in between). It's surprising how much it'll blindside you. If you go into your first time thinking it's the person you love, you'll definitely fall for them after sex. It'll break your heart when you break up.

 

[aPod]

It's not the sort of question i've really pondered much but i don't it's not the sort of thing i'd do. I don't even think 2 drink Pod would do it either and he does a lot of stupid things.

 

[thedeathscythe]

I would try it but only with other women. That may be close minded of me, but hey, if I'm going to indulge myself in something more than 1 on 1 relationship sex, I feel I should be aloud to choose who's in it. I would be down for anything from 2 to even like 8 women, in fact my last girlfriend was really curious about it and wanted to try and find someone/convince one of her friends to maybe try it. I would have been down for that, but I hear that: 1. You shouldn't be in a relationship when you do it, and 2. You shouldn't know the people too well, unless your friendship with them can include going that far and not making things awkward.

 

[kurupt87]

I'm awkward enough with one other person in the room. I'm sure I'd consider it if asked, but I think I'm a little too shy.

Actually better with more people for shy guys/gals, you are less the centre of attention.

Unless it's a group dom-sub thing, with you being the/a sub; based on a single sentence I don't think that'd be what you'd go for though.